helplesslyhoping Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 We've been married for 7 1/2 yrs. We have an almost 9 yr old daughter. He has had an emotional affair and is a liar. He says he's never loved me and that he can't keep this up any longer. We've done therapy. I can say I have given 100%. He gave 20% and continued his affair while going to therapy. He moved out May 19th, our daughter is with me. I have tried so hard to be nice for our daughters sake. I have been understanding (well, as much as I can be) and I can go days with out feeling like I want to claw his eyes out. Today is not one of those days. I lost my job before he bailed. I have been trying so hard to find a job. I have only worked part time since our daughter was born. That was an agreement we made together. I am now being forced to find a full time job and I'm pissed. I have an interview for a job that has a base salary of 35k, benefits from day 1 and I know in my intelligent, rational mind that I need to do this. But the mom in me is crying a deep, mournful, gutteral cry. I will be forced to drop my daughter off at day care at 7 am and I won't be able to pick her up until 6:30 at night. This isn't fair to me or to her. She didn't ask for her dad to be a liar and a cheat but she is the one that has to pay the price. I live in a fairly rural area outside of Chicago. I will have to commute to get a decent job. Moving is out of the question. In this market I couldn't sell my house if I listed it for 1/2 of it's worth. Besides, she's established here and her life has been turned upside down as it is, I can't make it worse for her. Can I nudge him into on coming traffic? Link to comment
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