Thinking of booking a pornstar

[midnightrambler]

And i hate to break it to you but the only swingers i have ever met are in their upper 40s and 50s. You rarely see young people do this.

 

Its just like with nudist colonies...the ones you might want to see rarely go. Its the ones who should be covered up who like them so much...

 

Food for thought. LOL

 

makes sense getting the stars at the end of the careers

[JadedStar]

Here's to experiencing Chlamydia!

 

 

*I'm kidding there

 

Hmm, i don't think its a joke. You are spot on.

[hers]

i highly doubt it's an actual porn star. probably some girl who needs to make some money (IE a prostitute) with dreams of having sex on film for money.

[Superfreak]

This thread made me LOLLLL

 

Dude, how ignorant of relationships can you be? "Hey Honey, can I pay for sex with a prostitute just this once?"

 

You don't say that and just think she'll be cool with it. How did you EVER get a g/f man???

 

I feel really sorry for the girl but at the same time just am stunned by the ignorance displayed here to the point of laughter.

[JadedStar]

makes sense getting the stars at the end of the careers

 

I am not referring to the pornstars. I am referring to swingers which he also expressed interest in. Not that i have met a ton of them but i know a lot of people and a few of them were swingers... and the ones i have met i wouldn't even want to THINK of them nude much less swap around with them.

 

Never met a beautiful couple who swing. I am sure they exist but for some reason it seems to attract the aging and unattractive.

 

I know that not ALL are like that so if there is a good looking swinger on here save the soapbox.

[Mlost]

I know it's common, and she knows it too. It's like she expects me to do it. But like I said I want to go about it the best way possible. I thought telling her would be a better idea than hiding it and then getting caught, at least im honest with her

 

Unfortunately, most girls do expect guys to do something like this. You seem old enough to realize that everything in life is a trade-off! You can have a stable relationship and grow up and realize that you're not going to be able to get everything that you want. Or you can go plant your seed a few times and come back to the relationship just a little bit dirtier than when you left it.

 

Sorry, but IMO, this is a really bad mindset to be in when it comes to living your life and living out your relationship. 4 years is a long time. If you have your heart set on sleeping with a hooker, than you need to man up and break it off with your girlfriend without having any expectation of coming back to her. I know she would ever take you back after something like that if she had even the smallest hint of self-respect.

[midnightrambler]

I am not referring to the pornstars. I am referring to swingers which he also expressed interest in. Not that i have met a ton of them but i know a lot of people and a few of them were swingers... and the ones i have met i wouldn't even want to THINK of them nude much less swap around with them.

 

Never met a beautiful couple who swing. I am sure they exist but for some reason it seems to attract the aging and unattractive.

 

I know that not ALL are like that so if there is a good looking swinger on here save the soapbox.

 

i would be totally against the OP swinging

[JadedStar]

Unfortunately, most girls do expect guys to do something like this. You seem old enough to realize that everything in life is a trade-off! You can have a stable relationship and grow up and realize that you're not going to be able to get everything that you want. Or you can go plant your seed a few times and come back to the relationship just a little bit dirtier than when you left it.

 

Sorry, but IMO, this is a really bad mindset to be in when it comes to living your life and living out your relationship. 4 years is a long time. If you have your heart set on sleeping with a hooker, than you need to man up and break it off with your girlfriend without having any expectation of coming back to her. I don't think she would ever take you back after something like that.

 

I do not think most girls expect guys to do this. There are a ton of men on ena and i bet if you polled them all well over 60% would say no way to this kind of activity.

[JadedStar]

i would be totally against the OP swinging

 

You would be against him doing this? LOL Why do you care? Let's just say i bet his g/f would be against this.

[hers]

most girls probably expect guys to have second thoughts and to wonder what it'd be like with other girls if they're the only ones they've ever slept with, but i doubt most girls expect their guys to buy prostitutes...i have to agree with JS here.

[Mlost]

I do not think most girls expect guys to do this. There are a ton of men on ena and i bet if you polled them all well over 60% would say no way to this kind of activity.

 

True. But it seems that there are so many women, on ENA and off it, who are dead certain that most guys will just do whatever they want like this. And it's because the small percentage of ... men(??) who actually go out and do this.

[midnightrambler]

You would be against him doing this? LOL Why do you care? Let's just say i bet his g/f would be against this.

 

the porn star was a once in a lifetime chance to be with a star...that gives you street cred...swinging is nothing special. IMO

[Sobo]

I know many men would say no, as for the getting STD's thing, it's much safer to do it with a star b/c they get tested regularly. And usually in life you get what you pay for, so it's not like I am going out paying 100 bucks and doing a dirty chick off the street.

 

I understand what everyone is saying, I just don't want to hurt her, but I have this little hope that she might be happier that I tell her than go around her back

[Portage]

Why don't you take your girlfriend on a hot romantic vacation with that money??

 

Two minutes of gratification will leave you with a lifetime of sad/bittersweet memories of your first love.

 

You pick.

[JadedStar]

the porn star was a once in a lifetime chance to be with a star...that gives you street cred...swinging is nothing special. IMO

 

do you REALLY think he will be getting a pornstar? He'll be getting some aging stripper who did a couple of youtube vids. LOL

[hers]

I know many men would say no, as for the getting STD's thing, it's much safer to do it with a star b/c they get tested regularly. And usually in life you get what you pay for, so it's not like I am going out paying 100 bucks and doing a dirty chick off the street.

 

I understand what everyone is saying, I just don't want to hurt her, but I have this little hope that she might be happier that I tell her than go around her back

 

If you really think she may be happier, then I say tell her and take it from there. I doubt it woudl turn out that way, but you've been with her 4 years. only you would know how she'd really react.

[midnightrambler]

do you REALLY think he will be getting a pornstar? He'll be getting some aging stripper who did a couple of youtube vids. LOL

 

i have a tendency to agree with your thesis

[Sobo]

I feel like I'm damned if I do, damnedif I don't

 

If I do it, i'll feel like crap after, during will prob be pretty awesome. But i'll be glad I did and got it out of my system, hopefully.

 

If I don't i'll be with the same women forever, and probably regret not being more out there later on in life. At least that's how I tihnk about it right now in my life.

[Superfreak]

Honestly, just go ahead and tell her. You've shown here that you don't want to be tied down, and at your age, it's understandable for you to not want to be tied down. But don't even think that you can just do this and get away with it and have her be cool about it.

 

Tell her that you really want to blow $1000 on a porn star, ask her permission, she'll be pissed with you and if she has any sense, she'll break up with you, then go and blow your $1000.

 

That's my advice.

[Sobo]

I am pretty sure I can get the Star, I've heard people do, mostly rich business men who have the money. I mean why wouldn't they do it, it's pretty much what they do for a living, just with regular people it's without a camera, lol and some dude making stupid comments holding the camera, lol

[hers]

I feel like I'm damned if I do, damnedif I don't

 

If I do it, i'll feel like crap after, during will prob be pretty awesome. But i'll be glad I did and got it out of my system, hopefully.

 

If I don't i'll be with the same women forever, and probably regret not being more out there later on in life. At least that's how I tihnk about it right now in my life.

 

Do you not have awesome sex with your girlfriend? Having sex with a "porn star" doesn't mean it'll be guaranteed awesome. Remember, they're actors--they know how to fake it.

 

No one says you have to marry this girl. You're still really young...yes, 4 yeras is very long term and youtwo have invested all that time...it'd suck to end it now, but you're young. You don't have to marry her, even if you have been together that long. But if you do really care about her, you'll reconsider and see her as being the best sex you'll ever have and you'll want that forever.

[Mlost]

Honestly, just go ahead and tell her. You've shown here that you don't want to be tied down, and at your age, it's understandable for you to not want to be tied down. But don't even think that you can just do this and get away with it and have her be cool about it.

 

Tell her that you really want to blow $1000 on a porn star, ask her permission, she'll be pissed with you and if she has any sense, she'll break up with you, then go and blow your $1000.

 

That's my advice.

 

Probably the best advice on here so far.

[hers]

I am pretty sure I can get the Star, I've heard people do, mostly rich business men who have the money. I mean why wouldn't they do it, it's pretty much what they do for a living, just with regular people it's without a camera, lol and some dude making stupid comments holding the camera, lol

 

Are you a rich business man? Do you have the money to do this?

[Portage]

I feel like I'm damned if I do, damnedif I don't

 

If I do it, i'll feel like crap after, during will prob be pretty awesome. But i'll be glad I did and got it out of my system, hopefully.

 

If I don't i'll be with the same women forever, and probably regret not being more out there later on in life. At least that's how I tihnk about it right now in my life.

 

Then i vote doing it, break up with her so you don't end up resenting her existence down the road.

 

Yes you are young, and she will always be the one you let get away.

[Stinkweed]

It is solid, but she has been my first and only, and I dunno I feel like i need to experience more before I can get married and such. Like i know I love her and want to end up with her, I have this hope that she'll be ok with swinging after a little while, but chicks are different with that thing, they get emotional about it, guys just do it and don't really think.

 

You should be grateful. Some people don't have a "first and only" and have "none" instead.