Thinking of booking a pornstar

[JadedStar]

although i'm really startin to wonder if this is actually a legit post?

 

Seeing that sobo has been here since 2006 i assume it is not a hoax but even if it were it surely is an interesting discussion. LOL

[m12988]

WTH???? Wow, that's really low. Booking porn stars is for single people, you're not single. If you want to experience things, that's fine, but it's so obvious you are using your girlfriend as a backup. You wanna go bang other girls, but when they're gone, you want to go back to your girlfriend. How utterly selfish of you. My question is, how would you like it if your girlfriend wanted to book a pornstar? How on earth would you feel knowing she is with someone else? Probably like crap.

 

You wanna book the pornstar, OK, but that porn star will last for 30 minutes. A long-term relationship with someone probably as loving as your girlfriend will last a lifetime.

[Mythical_Suicide]

Seeing that sobo has been here since 2006 i assume it is not a hoax but even if it were it surely is an interesting discussion. LOL

 

I know he's been a member for awhile I was just wondering if this was just put up to see how people would react?

[m12988]

Not really, I mean if she has been tested then I don't really worry about it. I know im not the avg guy on this, but it doesn't bother me

 

Uhh if i'm not mistaken doesn't things like HIV and AIDS not show up til 7-10 years later or something?

[sti_2004]

eeewwww. look at all those dudes on her. tested or not thats disgusting man. shes tainted as hell and shes not even hot. lol

[m12988]

I know he's been a member for awhile I was just wondering if this was just put up to see how people would react?

 

Even if it is, i just know there's about a hundred other guys who would want to do this same thing. They don't deserve to be in a relationship.

[JadedStar]

I know he's been a member for awhile I was just wondering if this was just put up to see how people would react?

 

Either/or it is a good way to gauge the interest levels of our forum gents.

 

Pretty interesting discussion. For the love of humanity i am surely hoping a high number of guys would say this isn't cool.

[Sobo]

I think most guys would say no. I understand that most of you are horrified about this. That is your opinion. I don't see it as that bad, I mean my g/f has told me before that it would be much better if I did this while I was drunk and didn't feel anything for her than if I were to fall in love with another girl. Which I cannot do. I love her, and it would be great if she would be ok with this. I think it would make me a lot more comfortable with her, that I can tell her this and she would be ok. I doubt she will be ok with it but you never know.

 

A) this is not a hoax, I have been thinking about this a lot for the past few days.

B) I would not be upset if she told me she wanted to do the same thing (roles reversed)

[Sobo]

Even if it is, i just know there's about a hundred other guys who would want to do this same thing. They don't deserve to be in a relationship.

 

Just b/c I want to have sex with another woman doesn't mean I dont' care about her, and that I don't love her with all my heart. It's just sex, pure pleasure nothing more, no attachment, no love, no caring, no lying down next to them planning your future etc.

[JadedStar]

Just b/c I want to have sex with another woman doesn't mean I dont' care about her, and that I don't love her with all my heart. It's just sex, pure pleasure nothing more, no attachment, no love, no caring, no lying down next to them planning your future etc.

 

And this really just boils down to a difference in values. Some women also can have sex unemotionally attached (altho fewer in number) but still love another.

 

I think anyone who feels this way should be respectful enough to ONLY date others who share that view so as to not really devastate a partner if they were to find out it happened. If this happened to be something I would enjoy and would contemplate I would definitely only seek out partners who were equally as open.

 

If you only date people who share your value system you have a far better chance of having a happy relationship.

 

I don't judge you for your views, I only strongly advise you break up with her first, tell her about it first, or date someone who shares this mindset.

[Sobo]

And this really just boils down to a difference in values. Some women also can have sex unemotionally attached (altho fewer in number) but still love another.

 

I think anyone who feels this way should be respectful enough to ONLY date others who share that view so as to not really devastate a partner if they were to find out it happened. If this happened to be something I would enjoy and would contemplate I would definitely only seek out partners who were equally as open.

 

If you only date people who share your value system you have a far better chance of having a happy relationship.

 

I don't judge you for your views, I only strongly advise you break up with her first, tell her about it first, or date someone who shares this mindset.

 

 

I understand that, but I don't feel like I want to lose her over this. I would love it if she shared my views or at least was ok with them to let me do it. B/c it's not like I want to hurt her, but I also would love to do this in such a way that doesn't hurt her and involves me not losing her

[Mythical_Suicide]

Just b/c I want to have sex with another woman doesn't mean I dont' care about her, and that I don't love her with all my heart. It's just sex, pure pleasure nothing more, no attachment, no love, no caring, no lying down next to them planning your future etc.

 

It's obvious your gf probably doesn't have the same feelings and views on this. So in order to be fair to her, end things with her. Because what you're doing is far from fair. It's just wrong! Now, if she felt the same way then I could totally understand it.. whatever as JS said, everyone has different views and values. For me, i'd probably cut my fiance's penis off (ok maybe not but i'd really think about it)if he ever even came to me and told me he wanted to sleep with a prostitute. He could have all the prostitutes that he wanted because i'd be gone for good.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I understand that, but I don't feel like I want to lose her over this. I would love it if she shared my views or at least was ok with them to let me do it. B/c it's not like I want to hurt her, but I also would love to do this in such a way that doesn't hurt her and involves me not losing her

 

 

Face it.. there is no way that you're going to be able to have your cake and eat it too.

You will more than likely lose your gf over this, believe me!

[Sobo]

It's obvious your gf probably doesn't have the same feelings and views on this. So in order to be fair to her, end things with her. Because what you're doing is far from fair. It's just wrong! Now, if she felt the same way then I could totally understand it.. whatever as JS said, everyone has different views and values. For me, i'd probably cut my fiance's penis off (ok maybe not but i'd really think about it)if he ever even came to me and told me he wanted to sleep with a prostitute. He could have all the prostitutes that he wanted because i'd be gone for good.

 

What if he said he wanted to have sex with other girls,b/c you were his only one and he wondered what it was like? I get the feeling that most people her have a negative stigma associated with pornstars.

[MattW]

Wow, I'm two years younger than the OP, and even I think this is stupid... @_@ 'Course, I'm pretty much in agreeance with what a lot of the other posters said, so no need to repeat them, I guess.

[Mlost]

What if he said he wanted to have sex with other girls,b/c you were his only one and he wondered what it was like? I get the feeling that most people her have a negative stigma associated with pornstars.

 

The feeling? IMO, there is pretty much nothing redeeming about that line of work or the people involved in it. Maybe they are just great people, but at some point what you do defines who you are.

[JadedStar]

I understand that, but I don't feel like I want to lose her over this. I would love it if she shared my views or at least was ok with them to let me do it. B/c it's not like I want to hurt her, but I also would love to do this in such a way that doesn't hurt her and involves me not losing her

 

A huge component to loving is respecting and that is the component that appears amiss.

 

If you love her, really love her, then the kind and compassionate thing to do is release her while you sow these wild oats.

 

Loving is not about ownership it is about considering another person's feelings sometimes even above our own. If you do this to satisfy your urges even tho you know it would devastate her, that is not love IMO.

[Mythical_Suicide]

What if he said he wanted to have sex with other girls,b/c you were his only one and he wondered what it was like? I get the feeling that most people her have a negative stigma associated with pornstars.

 

 

She is a freakin PROSTITUTE!!!

 

My fiance was a virgin when we first got together.. if he wants to experience someone else.. Then he can be my guest but he will be doing it alone because I will not wait around for him.

[MattW]

What if he said he wanted to have sex with other girls,b/c you were his only one and he wondered what it was like?

 

Haha, I don't know what you think, but that's NOT a real excuse to cheat on some one. But I guess that's the problem here, you value sex differently than most people, and so there's pretty much nothing anyone here can say to change your perspective.

[JadedStar]

The feeling? IMO, there is pretty much nothing redeeming about that line of work or the people involved in it. Maybe they are just great people, but at some point what you do defines who you are.

 

I emphatically agree. Some have a negative view of pornstars because it is not a very respectable profession in the eyes of the majority. Majority rules in many things in life not just the polls.

 

It is what it is. No one should feel badgered into feeling that having sex for hire is a very respectable occupation.

 

They make a lot of money and they do it willingly and knowing that they are not going to get a lot of money AND a lot of respect. It's a trade off, much like teachers have a lot of respect and usually much lower pay. They made that choice to choose respect over fortune.

 

It is what it is.

[Snoopy24]

How would you feel if she slept with another man?

 

You need to tell her how you feel. Most likely she will break up with you. But then you get to sleep with all of the prostitutes you want without cheating on someone.

[CallingAllAngels]

Ok, so while on the net, I found out you can "book" pornstars. And to be completely honest, this got me more than a little excited.

 

The problem is I have a gf and we have been together for almost 4 yrs now. A few of her girl friends have broken up with thier SOs because they want to experience things. She always says she's waiting for me to do that.

 

I don't want to lose her, but I don't know how to handle this.

 

A) DO i tell her about this and how I want to do it, basically ask her permission?

 

B) Try and hide it from her, and hope she doesn't find out?

 

C) Break up with her, give some other reason and do it, and then hope when I come back that she'll be ok with it?

 

Thoughts?

 

 

I could not stomach reading the 95 posts in this thread.

 

Just the fact that you are willing to sleep with a porn star and hide it from your girlfriend says enough.

 

Break it off with her. Then, when you're done having empty sex with the porn star, tell her, (BECAUSE I'M SURE YOU'RE A STAND UP GUY AND YOU WOULDN'T WANT TO GIVE HER AN STD OR ANYTHING NASTY LIKE THAT) and see if she will forgive you.

 

I'm sure she'll understand. You would, wouldn't you if the shoe was on the other foot?

 

Good luck.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I think most everyone here will agree with me.. Do what you want to do, but be fair to your girlfriend and end things with her.. Don't drag her along and don't expect her to wait around for her. Be honest with her. Noone is saying that you wanting to sleep with a "pornstar" is wrong, what is wrong is the fact that you want to breakup with or cheat on your gf just to do so.

[fragmint]

I know many men would say no, as for the getting STD's thing, it's much safer to do it with a star b/c they get tested regularly. And usually in life you get what you pay for, so it's not like I am going out paying 100 bucks and doing a dirty chick off the street.

 

I understand what everyone is saying, I just don't want to hurt her, but I have this little hope that she might be happier that I tell her than go around her back

 

i dont get this. you said you understand what we're all saying, and then you say you wana do this the best way possible as to not hurt her in this and some later posts?

 

just in case you got it wrong, what most of the people here are saying is that you WILL hurt her if you do this.

[m12988]

Just b/c I want to have sex with another woman doesn't mean I dont' care about her, and that I don't love her with all my heart. It's just sex, pure pleasure nothing more, no attachment, no love, no caring, no lying down next to them planning your future etc.

 

Thats true for you, but is it totally ok with her? I mean if you want to do this, it's definitely up to you, but it would be terrible for you to do that behind her back. If i were you, i'd let her know. But the thing is, when you said that you'll break up with her and go back to her after the fact, is how we pretty much knew she might NOT approve of it. What you do is your business, but don't drag someone's heart along the way. We are all different, and what you may feel about this subject will be different for her.