Miss Firecracker Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 He's trying his best to make you feel like garbage. That is all he's doing. He doesn't love you, and he is being honest about that. Some people really are BAD, Barbie. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 He called again at 1am. I didn't answer. It's like are you serious?! He can't call at a decent hour??? He isn't all there ... he isn't okay. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 he doesn't get lonely at the dinner hour Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 well apparently he hasn't been lonely for the entire month and just all of a sudden he starts calling Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 guess he experiencing a different kind of lonely Link to comment
JadedStar Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 he doesn't get lonely at the dinner hour Right. He is apparently saving that desired timeslot for those he feels are better friends. I'd be so livid if in your shoes barbie. Just keep ignoring him. Turn your phone off at night for awhile. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 his behaivor shouldn't be a surprise to me. but in a way it is and in a way it's killing me. he treated me horribly ... i don't know why i care so much. why do i care so much!? ....whatever he is trying to do ... it's working. im hurt ..... he has hurt me again. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 Barbie, this is one selfish and immature guy! He's gone off and had his little flings and now he's mad you're not knocking on his door begging for sex. And he's hoping you'll pick up the phone on one of these late night calls and ask him over for sex. Can you block his number? If you can't just never answer a call from him again. Why should you answer the phone just to give yourself a world of hurt? You are hurting because you were attached to him, but he is only in love with himself and getting what he wants. The person you THOUGHT you loved just isn't who he is. Remind yourself that you did NOTHING to deserve this, and he is showing his true colors. He lies, he's verbally abusive, he's insulting you and STILL demanding sex. What kind of a hollow human being does that? You just need to accept how truly he is NOT the one for you. He is just a spoiled selfish guy who's had his fill of 'freedom' now and is missing the sex. You don't want to be his free hooker honey so don't answer those late night booty calls... don't even talk to him, just move on to some guy who treats you with respect. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 i know, your right BSBE. you've been so right throughout all this. he doesn't deserve my hurt, my pain nor my tears. i need to stop giving him what he wants. he wants me to want him, he wants me to hurt and he wants me to go crawling back. im not ... so he has to make me hurt even more. he thinks i want to be with him still ... so by him doing this he thinks ill just turn back into the needy insecure person that i am with him. i jsut need to REMIND MYSELF over and over that he hurt me ... that this should be a flippin BLESSINg that he is no longer in my life .... but still in the back of me somewhere i hurt and i care. . . gahh Link to comment
Bunney Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 It sounds like you're really addicted to the drama of it all. Seriously, just forget about this guy? He's shown you his true colors, what more does he need to do? Don't let him contact you and listen to all the good advice people give you here and stop over-analyzing and obsessing with his every move. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 It sounds like you're really addicted to the drama of it all. Seriously, just forget about this guy? He's shown you his true colors, what more does he need to do? Don't let him contact you and listen to all the good advice people give you here and stop over-analyzing and obsessing with his every move. it is kind of nice to know one is desired Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 it is kind of nice to know one is desired huh? im confused, what do you mean by that? Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 huh? im confused, what do you mean by that? even if i broke up with someone i would get a kick if that person still desired me....i had that pleasant revelation last december. a woman revealed to me that after 5 years she still wanted to be close to me Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 exactly. i was with him for a year and a half, surely it wasn't that long but it was long enough. i loved him. sorry im obsessing .... i can't help it. im only human. i can't hate him, i don't have it in me. i cannot help how i feel. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 exactly. i was with him for a year and a half, surely it wasn't that long but it was long enough. i loved him. sorry im obsessing .... i can't help it. im only human. i can't hate him, i don't have it in me. i cannot help how i feel. you are human....i know the feeling of wanting something to work out and it turned to crap, then remembering the good times and wanting those times back. But you can't go home again Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 how can he tell me that he never loved me? he said it first. he said it ALL the time, ALL THE TIME. that doesn't make sense to me. the only thing that gets me through is the fact that all our "happy" was based on lies. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 how can he tell me that he never loved me? he said it first. he said it ALL the time, ALL THE TIME. that doesn't make sense to me. the only thing that gets me through is the fact that all our "happy" was based on lies. he probably loved you the only way he knew how.......he needs to learn what love is. You know what you want and you will recognize love when Cupid draws back his bow and let's his arrow go straight towards your heart Link to comment
tatanya4me Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 even if i broke up with someone i would get a kick if that person still desired me....i had that pleasant revelation last december. a woman revealed to me that after 5 years she still wanted to be close to me when you knew that was the case, did it make you more inclined towards her, or did you just avoid her, but enjoy her adoration? Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 when you knew that was the case, did it make you more inclined towards her, or did you just avoid her, but enjoy her adoration? i was totally flabbergasted and i ignored her just the same..... Link to comment
tatanya4me Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 i was totally flabbergasted and i ignored her just the same..... Now why would you do that? Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 Now why would you do that? she was married.... Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 he probably loved you the only way he knew how.......he needs to learn what love is. You know what you want and you will recognize love when Cupid draws back his bow and let's his arrow go straight towards your heart your right. or maybe he only thought his feelings were love, but it's obvious that they weren't. if he loved me or ever loved me he wouldn't be acting this way. he wouldn't even think to treat me this way. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 your right. or maybe he only thought his feelings were love, but it's obvious that they weren't. if he loved me or ever loved me he wouldn't be acting this way. he wouldn't even think to treat me this way. solid observations.... Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted April 1, 2008 Author Share Posted April 1, 2008 i think he is really messed up in the head. he doesn't know what the heII he wants. he is ... i don't know but ... he has some serious issues. i still miss him. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 1, 2008 Share Posted April 1, 2008 i think he is really messed up in the head. he doesn't know what the heII he wants. he is ... i don't know but ... he has some serious issues. i still miss him. pray for him but don't see him Link to comment
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