twrtwn Posted December 27, 2008 Share Posted December 27, 2008 CrapATNC, I love your post and I have read it quite a few times. It is very positive and gives you all the reasons you need to be strong and dignified and respect yourself and go on....with or without your ex. Thank you. Obviously....you have given this much thought and careful consideration. Way to go! Link to comment
foreverlost Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Bump... for those of us who are having a bad day Link to comment
SighSob Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Haha this post always gives us our hopes back!! It may make the healing process a little slower, though... Link to comment
ljp Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Bump because I needed to read this again. great great post. Link to comment
dreamguy Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 I will reach 60 days of NC on January 25th 2009. It's not like I'm waiting for day 61 to get in touch with my ex. Last time we talked she said she was seeing someone so I don't think I'll ever initiate contact in the future. The idea of her being with someone else seems less and less troubling and the thought of not having her in my life seems more and more "ok". I'm sure this is not only due to the NC period but also to the fact that I haven't seen my ex for a year. Granted, NC and time both cannot make you forget someone you once had a relationship with... they cannot totally kill your love for someone but they can certainly lessen the pain to an acceptable (very low) level thus allowing you to normally go on with your life and/or engage in a new relationship. Link to comment
SighSob Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 *bump* for all the new users! Link to comment
DaveTrump Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Thanks for bumping - I needed that! Great post! Link to comment
SnowFox Posted July 2, 2009 Share Posted July 2, 2009 this is a great thread - wanted to bump it back up to the top! Link to comment
bitteorca Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 great post I agree with the positives in this post, mostly because its about NC and yourself, with a hint of hope thrown in! The point is that NC is always going to be better than crawling at someone's feet. Can you guys look at my thread? I would like some more opinions and comments I also wanted to bump thanks Link to comment
hypatia Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 Great post. What I like about it in particular is that it taps into many of the motivations that we have (if we are posting in this forum) for going into NC. While it's important to heal and move on (and NC does this better than anything), this is the 'getting back together' forum. There's another one called 'healing from break up and divorce' if you don't really care about getting your ex back. Here I think we want to heal, but also want to feel safe to hope, consider strategies, wonder whether NC is 'working' etc. without people telling you to just move on and stay in NC. I think NC works as a strategy for both--healing and the way to bring an ex back if you want it. And there is no harm in seeing it as a strategy given that this is the 'getting back together' forum. Again, great post! Link to comment
Lavender25 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 *BUMP* I read this every morning just to remember why I'm in NC. It keeps me from making a BIG MISTAKE. Link to comment
CrapAtNC Posted October 16, 2009 Author Share Posted October 16, 2009 Ha! I'm back and needing to read my own advice. Link to comment
CrapAtNC Posted October 16, 2009 Author Share Posted October 16, 2009 While you do make some valid points, the original post basically screams "Here's how to use NC to get your ex back!" No no no no nooooooooooooooo. ](*,) If I was to write that you should go NC for you and just forget about getting your ex back, it would turn off the majority of people on this thread. But we all need NC, so I chose to appeal to those who want their exes back and those who want to find themselves again. NC is great for everyone, and I hoped to tap into both motivations to get people there. Does that make sense? I've rewritten it several times now . . . Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted October 16, 2009 Share Posted October 16, 2009 How's crap today! LOL. Why do you need to read your own advice today? Link to comment
CrapAtNC Posted October 16, 2009 Author Share Posted October 16, 2009 hypatia, you say it so much better than me! Link to comment
stabilo Posted October 16, 2009 Share Posted October 16, 2009 I just passed my ex in the car, I waved her, she gave me a nice wave back. I was expecting her to contact me but she didn't...should I make the move? Is this a situation where I remain in NC? She dumped me 7 months ago... I don't know what to do... Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted October 16, 2009 Share Posted October 16, 2009 I just passed my ex in the car, I waved her, she gave me a nice wave back. I was expecting her to contact me but she didn't...should I make the move? Is this a situation where I remain in NC? She dumped me 7 months ago... I don't know what to do... No, do not contact her. She dumped you. A wave from a car is just politely acknowledging someone you once knew. Don't read anything more into it. When you see a friend on the street and wave to them, do you automatically rush to call them? Probably not...your ex is not even a friend..she is just someone you once knew and don't really know anymore. Link to comment
stabilo Posted October 16, 2009 Share Posted October 16, 2009 Yeah...but I want to get back with her... I admit I don't want it to be an excuse to contact her. I am definitely not rushing to contact her. In all honesty, it probably is best not to make a further move coz it shows I don't need her. But I love her, and want her. So at the same time, it makes sense to make move and keep it light. I dunno, you're probably right CAD. Link to comment
CrapAtNC Posted October 16, 2009 Author Share Posted October 16, 2009 How's crap today! LOL. Why do you need to read your own advice today? I'm single again and still thinking a lot about the same old ex, and even dreaming about her. Been in touch a few times, but she's only lukewarm at best. When I see her, she's great; makes a lot of effort, and I appreciate that. But communication by other means is stifled, and that's probably because I'm contacting her too much. So, time to follow my own advice again. Not trying to get her back (she's seeing someone else)l; just trying to get a clear head. Link to comment
dazedconfused1607308164 Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 BUMP! Great thread. Link to comment
Tecan Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 Hey all, I've been reading this board every day since I found it a few weeks ago and it has been immensely helpful in dealing with my own breakup. I'm now 3 months into NC from my ex girlfriend of a year and a half and NC is definitely the best way to heal. I was wondering how many people that started posting 3 years ago in this thread actually got back together with their ex. I don't know if any of them still even post or if they just moved on and never came back here but it would be interesting to see if NC worked or didn't work for them. Link to comment
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