littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 I have had this issue for a long time now. My female friends describe me as "hot" My male friends and people i know well describe me as "hot" but yet no man has ever ever ever dared to approach me. Now and then i will spot someone looking at me or flirting with me but that's as far as it goes. So my question is if i am so hot then why aren't men approaching me? A friend once told me "you're to hot and they feel intimidated by you and they think you're most probably taken by the way you look" I totally disagree with her and think that someone being good looking couldn't be a deterent. What are your thoughts? Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 I am glad i am not alone in the world. Join the club scorpio Link to comment
aNnAeLiZaBeTh Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 hey girls, i'm in the exact same boat. but i think i may have figured it out. personally, i don't like being with a guy hotter than i am, because then i immediately lose the upper hand. if you're with someone a lot hotter than you, then you'll always be wondering if he/she is screwing a serious hottie behind your back. so perhaps guys don't want a relationship because they want to have you under their thumb and they know that they won't with a drop dead gorgeous girl. Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 mmmmm that's a good explanation. I have never thought of it like that. Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 Although it doesn't bother me my boyfriend is hotter than me. Honestly it's no problem to me. I remember being on a tram once many years ago with my then boyfriend and these guys were sitting opposite us and they were so rude i wanted to say something but ended up not saying anything. As the tram stopped and me and then boyfriend were getting out, one made a comment to the other and said "what the hell is she doing with him? what an absolute waste!" The funny thing was i dont remember that they were anything to look at lol Link to comment
aNnAeLiZaBeTh Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 and it's not just screwing that i'm talking about. i mean, let's say you're an average looking girl with a HOTT bf. well, when he goes out without you, you would be soooo worried about other girls getting on him and stuff wouldn't you? other girls would constantly be on him and you would probably not be able to deal with girls hotter than you flirting with him. i think guys are avoiding those problems (just the other way around lol). Link to comment
lil kitty Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 sometimes it is better to let the other person loves you more than you love them. that's why guys doesn't want to be with a person hotter than them. Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 scorpio i always take time to appoach guys now and they are interested for a few days and then drop me lol My current boyfriend actually thought there was no way he could have a chance with me and didnt even take me seriously for the first year of our relationship, he thought i was to good to be true. lol Link to comment
aNnAeLiZaBeTh Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 yes, exactly. you said exactly what i was trying to say....you just made it MUCH simpler lol thank you, lil kitty! Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 scorpio the nerve of some people hey? really rude Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 annaelizabeth, i get what you're saying but would all guys think that way? I dated a really really really hot guy once, he was heaven to look at. He was a playboy model, the body was perfect, hair perfect, body waxed and so perfectly tanned and when we went out together people would look at both of us lol but he still ended up dumping me. After that his friend dated me for a while as well and then flicked me lol Link to comment
shikashika Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 Maybe they don't approach you for other reasons.. Do you smile? Do you smoke? Do you look bored? people dont' usually approach someone just because they are hot.. it could be their laugh... or their funny dance.. or a million other things1 Link to comment
bettyboop401 Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 Hi! I have this problem too...seems to be the thread for us hey. I gave up trying to figure it out though. But I also don't believe I'm that fantastic to look at or anything...but now I just go out, have a good time and not think about whether or not I'm being looked at. Still single though! Hehehe! But just to add to the trouble, I've been told that because I take care of myself and my appearance I come accross as high maintanance for men and some can't deal with that? Whatever is what I say. LOL! Betty! Link to comment
aNnAeLiZaBeTh Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 yeah i guess not all guys think that way, i'm just a very jealous person and get pissed when other girls look at my man...even when they are less hott than me. and scorpio, you should just go up to him after class or something. he would probably crap his pants lol but seriously, he should feel lucky that ur giving him the time of day. Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 i do smile, i laugh, i dont smoke. I hope i dont look bored lol Betty you may have hit the nail on the head with the taking care of yourself comment meaning high maintenance to guys. I am very well groomed. I wax often. Have acrylic nails done regularly. Hair coloured etc I think we have the same problem here. Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 scorpio dont worry about that guy. ive had that issue with so many guys they check you out and when it comes crunch time they dont want to do anything. i like annaelizabeths idea about approaching him after class Link to comment
lil kitty Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 don't worry about it, scorpion. If the guy is interested in you, then he would already make a move. it's his lost for not taking the chances you gave him. Only a confident and smart guys can get the high quality girls ^_^ Link to comment
aNnAeLiZaBeTh Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 well it's 1:30 am here so im off to bed. talk to you girls later!! xoxo! -anna Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 night annaelizabeth. Sweet dreams. xxx. Talk later? Link to comment
tmp0620 Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 Stop taking such good care of yourselves. Edit: I left out a smiley to indicate sarcasm, my mistake Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 scorpio sorry to say but he sounds like a loser if he cant even reply to an email. Maybe you need to send him another email telling him step by step how to reply to an email. I did that to a guy once lol Link to comment
lil kitty Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 you know...telling a girl to stop taking good care of herself is really hard since it's built into her lifestyle. it's like telling you to stop breathing or eating Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 scorpio dont hold your breath, i dont see that happening to me anytime soon lol Iron lol i like taking care of myself Link to comment
littlestar Posted July 8, 2007 Author Share Posted July 8, 2007 lil kitty that is very true. It's a habbit and to be honest i dont think there's anything wrong with it Link to comment
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