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well i just recently saw my ex girlfriend at a wedding party we both attended. we had been broken up for 3 months now...she broke up with me by the way. we had been going out for 2 and a half years on and off relationship, with her breaking up with me every single time. i dunno if im stupid enough about going out with her again but, ever since that nite i cant stop thinking about her again. during this nite i thought she looked amazing. she flirted with me and i flirted back then as i had to leave we talked outside and w hugged and she leaned forward to kiss but i backed off saying we can still be friends. she said she doesnt wanna b just friends. but the thing is when i declined the kiss..she said "oh is that how it is? i have never been good enough for you anyway" whats up with this? she said sorry after through a text msg thats where it left. i kinda of miss her in some regard and i still am inlove with her but im scared that if we do go back together that she will just do the same she has done to me in the past. Do u think she is serious about all this or just wanted a one night stand kinda thing? was it wrong for me to flirt back with her? i couldnt resist it, i sitll feel so much for her please could anyone give me some advice! thanx guys n galz!

well i have been seeing my ex-girlfriend of almost 2 years again. we have had some troubles in the past, but things have got got better but i think they are going down hill again . anywayz after 3 months without seeing her and about a month of no contact becoz i avoided her for 1 month then she came crawling back becoz she said she missed me. well i saw her the other day as i said after 3 months and we just spent the day catching up, watching tv, a lil kiss here and there. She has told me she still loves me so much and wants to get back together again. she told me she would ask me out this time but didnt on this day, but she did say she would consider it next time she see's me. anywayz she was going to her friends birthday party that nite and so it was time for me to head back home. the next day her friend (the 1 who had the birthday) told me that my ex-girl had been flirting with one of her friends there all nite. she confronted her telling her that she knows she shouldnt be doing this because she is kinda involved with me still. she even told the guy the same thing. later that nite she saw him and my ex-girl make out. now even her friends are not very happy with her as me and my ex-girl were just gettin back on track 2 start a new relationship. her friend said not to tell her that she had told me and that i knew...becoz this could end the friendship with both of her friends that were involved one being a guy and the other my ex-girlfriend who i must say i extremely love with all my heart! yet she tells me the same thing and goes on a does this?? what can i do? does anyone have any advice? i dont think my trust with her is back yet, but i di care for her very much! i spoke to her 2nite about it and asked her about the party and even asked her with little hints like "did any guys try hit on you" she was being sarcastic and said all of them and hooked up with 8! i just laughed and she continued like i didnt know. im so confused! she still tells me she loves me! and i love her so much! but this is so unfair on me! she basically cheated on me! again... if she does ask me out next time, what should i say? i know i wanna say yes becoz i really really want her as my girlfriend again. but i dont know what the consiquences if any, will be in the future! please help me! thanx alot u guys!

hi guys n gals! well im in abit of a situation here.....and dont know what to do. i'll start of with this. well me and this girl where out for a good year. then she broke up with me. I asked her out again a month later, she said yes and we went out again for a month until she broke up with me again....the reason being a long distance relationship and she couldnt stand not seeing me all the time...it broke my heart!! well i used the 'NO CONTACT RULE' for just a little over a month!...and hey it worked! one day she told me to call her coz she wanted to tell me something and all she could talk about was me not being in her life anymore, missing me all the time, and that she still loves me so so much! she even told me she wanted to be out with me again so much! but wasnt sure if she would commit herself to the relationship and end up dumping me again. this is where im stuck....plus she tells all my friends that she wants to be with me again! what can i do????? thankyou in advance for all ur replies!! ErNiE

i dont know what catagory this one would fall in but my ex-girlfriend broke up with me becoz she said that i am too niice to her and love her too much! another one of her reasons waz becoz she misses me too much coz we live far away. i can understand her on that one but i wouldnt dump someone i truly loved over it! and she says she still loves me! How does that work! honestly!

Thanx for ur reply Miss. Snowbunny! well appreciated! well since u said, u think i should play cool with her..can u explain in a way..anything specific that i need to take and be extra cool with her? i just want her back so much! i am pretty sure i love her! i have read other forums in kind of similar situations as this, and have got advice from particular (female) friends. and to what i have learnt, is that i should just give this time, continue being friends with her, and one of my friends told me if i think that she is really the one for me then i shouldnt give up on her but still give it time. Well i tried that...i havent called her in 2 weeks...i send her the occasional email every second day. But just till that nite when i was with her! well i tried ignoring her! because i always am the one chasing after her. but she wanted my attention this time and she definetly showed it! does this mean she is showing me that she wants me back as a boyfriend? becoz by being just friends i am sometimes thinking that she will find another guy! i dont think i could take that! should i wait till she calls me first? or should i call her first to talk about this? and what kind of things should i tell her and ask? once again! very much appreciated for anyones and everones advice!

Hello all! well to start off ill cut a very long story as short as i can.....sorry if it will be long! but i need help! please! Well i was going out with a girl for exactly 1 year until she dumped me for a very serious personal matter. About just over a month later after the break up.. the day after valentines day i asked her out again...she said YES! we went out for about just under 2 weeks and then i called her the day i got back from a school camp. she brought up the subject about us not seeing eachother very often and missing me so much...becoz of our locations to where we live and as i am still only 16 i cannot drive yet. Anywayz she didnt just want to dump me this time...she asked me if it was a good idea to break up becoz it would neva work out...i disagreed with her at first and then she kept talking about it...she told me that i was the best boyfriend she had ever had and that she probably would never love anyone else as much as me! but becoz we live so far away she didnt want to be with me. i didnt understand at first....but after about 30mins i changed my mind and agreed with her....so this was a joint decision break up...but i neva eva wanted to break up with her...a couple of dayz later i really regreted it... can anyone help me with that one? i am really confused but I STILL LOVE HER AND WANT HER BACK SO MUCH!! anywayz the real point i wrote this post was that the other night i went to a small family BBQ and she was there....we talked for a while about just ordinary things...then i was sitting on this chair and she was sitting accross the room right oppisite of me..she called me over and told me to sit next to her. so i did and she didnt really have my attention so she started poking me. i asked her what she wanted and she said she wanted my attention...she kept touching and poking me throughout the nite. and i did it back at her a couple of times. the nite went on and it was only me, her and my dad left in the room. she wrote a text on her fone and showed me and it said "i wish ur dad would get out the room! i want to kiss!" i laffed at her and said "really"? my dad finally walked out and the first thing she did was move directly on top of me then kissed me! i looked at her then kissed her back. then she kissed me back 'passionately'! well i didnt know wat to think...as she had to go she got up and gave me one more kiss! and smiled and said BYE! i just there just like..WOAH! i didnt know what happened.. so im asking does she really want me back? coz she is pretty much of a big flirt, could she be just flirting with me? sorry if this has been really long! i need help! im confused! thanx u guys!

My girlfriend lives about a 30minute drive away from me. she wanted to break up becoz of this. i agreed even though i didnt want to becoz i didnt want to force her with being with me? i want her back! but she already broke up with me a month before hand after a year then i asked her back out a month later. we went out for 2 weeks then thats whats she told me. she didnt want to be out anymore. she says she still oves me....and im so inlove with her! what can i do? or we do?

well where do i start? well im 16 years of age and i have been going out with a girl who lives about a 30 minute drive away from me. we managed a good relationship for exactly 1 year and 1 day then she dumped me for personal reasons. i then asked her back out the day after valentines day which was a month after the break up. she said 'yes' and we were all back to normal again. about 2 weeks later i went on a 3 day school camp. the day i came home i called her and we talked for about an hour then she brang up the subject about our relationship wasnt working because we hardly see eachother. becoz of our 20km (or 12 mile) distance we live from eachother we can hardly see eachother. becoz i am still only 16 and she is only 15 none of us can drive yet. i have even asked other people that can drive, if they wouldnt mind taking me up to see her. but i have never really been sucessful. so instead i take public transport like catch the train to her house. which still takes me about 1 hour to get to her place as i have to make 2 stops for 2 different trains. i would do that anytime she wanted me over. anyway the point im trying to get at is that she said to me on the phone that it was hard for her to go by everyday, seeing all her friends with thier boyfriends around eachother 24/7, at school and not at school. she told me she misses me so much and by breaking up, would tell herself that becoz i wasnt her boyfriend anymore she wouldnt have to worry about missing me asmuch. she told me she still loves me and probably could never love anyone asmuch as she loves me. she asked for my opinion becoz she didnt just want to dump me this time. she wanted it to be a decision made by the both of us. i told her first that i didnt agree with her and just to wait becoz things will get better. as i am going for my drivers licence in a couple of months i would be able to go see her so much more....but once she told me that it was hurting her inside becoz she cant be with me 24/7 and talking on the fone sucks. well i turned my thoughts around and didnt want to hurt her. so i agreed with her and told her it would be the rite decision if we did break up. now 4 days have past and i have been thinking alot. i feel i do regret changing my decision becoz i didnt want to ever break up with her! i still love her and care for her so much! and she says she still feels the same way for me....i just need someone elses thoughts and opinions on what i should do and how i should approach things with her. i feel i dont want to be the one to make contact with her first becoz i will feel rejected. i know it might sound weird but thats how i feel. becoz when we first broke up i felt that i couldnt talk to her the same way, and didnt want to show i cared or worried for her asmuch. but i do! i love her and know she loves me but dont want to force her to be out with me if she doesnt want to. but im also affraid she will find another guy. thats the thing im smot affraid of. that she will foget about me. find another guy that lives closer or someone just better than me in everything. they are the things im most affraid of. well there is alot more but i think this will do for now...i need help can anyone give me any advice for help or just opinions and thought of how i should approach things? thank you all!!