JohnDoe

Hey, don't let doubt, insecurity, fear or low self esteem influence what you might have been intended to do. I think that some things were meant to happen for a reason and that others are just random occurrences. Regret is the most horible feeling that one could experience. Try to tell if she has any interest in you. Make eye contact with her. Talk to her, adn when you do so, look deep into her eyes. If you think that she has at least some remote interest in you, then ask her out. Make sure that you do it privately, and preferably when she is in a good mood. Ask her in person, none of that msn or phone crap. Writing has chicken written all over it (pun intended). The phone is appropriate only if you can't gaurantee that you will see the person. The worst that could happen is that she will turn you down. Don't make a stink about it, just accept her decision. What will haunt you to the day you die will be the regret you feel and the nagging question "what if I had only asked her out"? Also, if she happens to die (it happens) in maybe a car accident or whatever, you will never forgive yourself. The best of luck to you.

Just another thing, if you are the girl that plays hockey and idolizes wayne gretzky, then why did you change your MSN profile and why are you never online to chat? My-Hot-Men-Plus-Tutu Good luck

Well, as long as you don't play hockey or idolize Wayne Gretzky, you should ask him if he feels the same way as you do. You don't have to broadcast to everyone that you are going to ask, just do it in private and do it in person - not over the phone and not over an IM. If you do play Hockey and idolize Wayne Gretzky, then don't ask him out, because it is my job to ask you out. Thanks and good luck

Well, I have to agree with my friend and mentor Shy_Guy. This is obviously more than just friendly behaviour. I have read some of your past posts and although they are not all concurrent, some of them do add up. My advice to you is to bring her aside (don't do it in front of a million people, she might not want onlookers either) and ask her if she wants to go out some time. Be completely honest with her, let her know how you feel (without going overboard and scaring her away) and when you ask her, you will be able to tell immediately form her reaction if she feels the same way or not. Best of luck to you.

Sounds like this Kim charachter is off of her nut, so to speak. If you really love Kelly, approach her and make the best of the situation. If she says no, accept her decision to decline gracefully. If you like kim as well, kim might pick you up after and then Kelly would realize that she made a mistake in turning you away. Although, I am not too sure about this "Kim". If she is caniving enough to try and lure you away from your true desire and keep you for herself, she might not be the best person to be with either. Let me know how you make out. Best of Luck

Hey, there may be many fish in the sea, but each fisher has a goal. His own prize fish. If you are particularily interested in a girl and she is the light of your life, the only star in your universe, then the rest of the fish might as well be anchovies. As for he who posted the message. Don't call them, visit them at the store. Go back there with the intent to see them. You making the effort to see them in person lets them know that you are truly interested. I don't know if it is your intent to get into their pants, but don't think that way. Nice guys only finnish last in a jerks race, we will be victorious in the end. Best of luck. JD

Hey, If you have any classes with her, try to make as much eye contact with her as you can. Don't stare, but if she looks into your eys, smile and she will probably smile back. Flirt with her and make a good impression. The day of her birthday or the day after, get her alone, in private. There is nothing worse than being turned down in front of a group of people. If she says no and you nobly accept her decision, she might come back to you at a later date. At any rate, if you ask her then and she says no, it will make her feel crappy to turn you dawn, especially if she does have some sort of feelings towards you. Good luck. Be a gentleman and make your impression be the standard by which she rates all others. Nice guys only finnish last in a losers race. Let the loserswin at losing and you will victoriously finnish knowing that you will be happier in the end. I wish you the best of luck, JD

Come on guy, what will it hurt. It seems that all the right things add up and that she feels the same way. Don't let this opportunity pass you by just because you aren't sure. Regret is a horrible feeling and not asking her will only make it worse. To try and tell a bit more if she like you or not, make eye contact with her. Don't stare at first, just casually gaze into her eyes. If her eyes meet yours and she smiles, chances are good. And try to be a nice guy - although the saying says that they finnish last, it is not true in the long run, only for the short term. There aren't any red flags from what I can tell. Go for it. When asking her out, be honest, let her know how you feel and most importantly, do it in private. Walking her home is considered a loving act (you care for her safety) and will better put her in the mood to be asked. When asking, look deeply into her eyes and speak the truth. If she turns you down, don't ask why, just say "alright" or "O.K." and finnish walking her home. If you leave her gracefully, she might reconsider. It might only be a test or maybe she is not sure and wants to think it over. if you start ranting and raving or asking what your problem is (i'm sure there aren't any) she will just turn you away indefinitely. But, if you don't ask, you will never know - thereforeeeeeee, you let regret rule your life. Although the walking her home helps, it may have nothing to do with her feeling emotionally attached to you. Good luck - let me know through PM how you make out.

I met her in grade 9. I didn't know it then, but a year later, she would become my dream girl. I started to see her in a different light a year later in one of my classes and since then have been in love with her, although she doesn't know it. I would try to be as close to her as possible, all the while trying to not be obvious to friends that (unknowingly) told me that they thought she wasn't pretty in relation to other girls. They, however, were only looking at chest sizes and their form - typical pigs that either were afraid to admit that they were sensitive and saw true beauty, or, were just guys that saw women as objects. When first semester of grade 10 was coming to a close, I prayed every night that she would be in at least one class during the next semester. It happened, and the seating arrangement was so that i sat perpendicular to her and could see her at all times. I was not sure if she felt the same way about me, but She and i were constantly making eye contact. alot of the times when our eyes met, she would smile. During film viewing in the class, i would (based on the class arrangement) have to move my chair and sit directly behind her. How I longed to just hold her hand or be asked to give her a shoulder massage to make her feel comforted by me. I wanted to be her shoulder to cry on and wanted her to come to me when upset or saddened. I am not one to view women as objects, although friends said she was not so pretty, there was and is nothing wrong with her - she is actually quite striking compares to other girls. She is not into smoking or drugs - another rarity these days - and a good one at that. Her most beautiful features are her hair, eyes but most of all her smile. her smile will melt your heart and make her look innocent no matter what. My problem is that i am waiting for a particular liscense that would enable me to take her far away for lunch in a little amount of time. And, it will not come for another year. She is not in any of my classes this semester and I hardly get to see her. Although i am afraid of rejection, I don't want anything to happen to her between now and next year when i approach her because I would never forgive myself for not knowing (if she died) if i ever had a chance with her or if I could have made an impact on her life. Please help me - i am in an awful mess about this situation.

Your Friend was wrong. He may not be a nice guy, and that's fine, it just means that he doens't get the nice girls. If he is a bad or mean (not nice) guy, and he treats women like objects instead of respecting them and realizing their true beauty is not in their chest size or how good they are in bed but that they have a beautiful smile or hair or eyes. They look for this kind of thing in a long term relationship. They want a shoulder to cry on and a person that will truly listen to them, one that's not always looking for a wya to get into their pants. That is the true essense of love. So, whenever you feel that he has the upper hand, just remember, that there are beautiful girls out there that want someone to love and be with, but they have shut themselves in because there are just too many not-nice guys. Don't ever change, there are not enough true gentlemen out there anymore that would hold the door for or get a chair for any woman, and by being one, you could set a very good example. Good luck, make them melt in your arms and love you always!