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JohnDoe

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  1. Last year, there was a girl in one of my classes that I thought was a great person and had a great personality, but who was off limits because she was going out with someone, and had been for the past two years. About a month ago, when working in the library on my lunch she appraoched me and asked me to take her flying in a small plane. At this point in time, I had no idea that she wasn't still going out with said individual, and thought that she was just interested in seeing what it was like. A few e-mails were exchanged between us, and shes started using affectionate terms like: hun, hunny, sweetie, cutie, etc. I thought nothing of it, until in one e-mail she said that we had a "thing". I asked what she was talking about, but she avoided me and would only leak little bits of info as we continued to talk. She then told me that she wasn't going out with that person and asked if I was interested in there being an "us". I played hard to get at first, but was obviously interested. And now we come to the problem. The thing is, is that she still is interested in her previous boyfriend. She knows I am interested, because I told her straight out that I was. I don't know what I can to do try and help her make the right decision. She can't seem to make up her mind. When her and her boyfriend broke up, she started seeing someone else, but she still spent time with her former boyfriend. She said that he didn't have a problem letting her do this, but for obvious reasons I do, but I don't know what to tell her, or what to do about it.
  2. I know exactly how you feel. There is a girl that I like and I was about to ask her out, and found out just prior that she had started going out with someone else. The thing with me is that I told her and that sort of kind of pissed off her boyfriend. Not a good move, but things have settled down now. Here's the thing, regardless of the fact that she is going out with someone else, your feelings for her aren't going to change. Just make sure that she always knows that you are there for her if she needs you. If things don't work out between them, it is your turn to step in and comfort her, especially if he was the one responsible for their breakup. The only thing you have to watch is that you can't storm into the situation ten seconds after they break up, in a vulture like manner, you have to be a little more sympathetic, etc. Just hang in there, I am sure that it will work out for you in the end, at least I hope that it does. Best of luck to you, John
  3. Hi, I may not be a moderator, but if you want people to take your posts seriously, please use proper english, punctuation, etc. It makes it harder to read when you write like that, and thereforeeee discourages people from replying. As for your post, we need a little more information from you to be able to help. Are you in school? High School? College? We are glad to help any and all, but we need to understand the situation a bit more to post a helpful response, which is what the purpose of this forum is. PM me if you have any questions.
  4. If you are interested in getting their attention, use eye contact. Don't stare at them, but if you are looking at them and they look into your eyes, don't be embarrased and look away, look back into their eyes. This is a more personal form of communication, and when you approach them to talk, it should make it easier for you. If you want info on eye contact, I made an instructional post some time back and could dig it up for you if you PM me. Best of Luck, John
  5. Come on guys (and gals) please post a reply, I need your help.
  6. Hey, there was this girl I liked and I was talking to her anonymously on ICQ and she didn't know who I was. After like five months, when I was going to ask her out, she started going out with somneone. She was pissed that she didn't know who I was, so I told her over ICQ. She told me that I crossed the line and that if her boyfriend found out he was going to beat my ass. I said that I was sorry the whole thing happened, she replied "me too, your an ass. Anyways, me, my boyfriend (name witheld) and three other friends (names witheld) have to go now. bye" The reason I didn't want to tell her over ICQ in the first place was becasue of textual evidence. Now I have to go back to school tomorrow, and all these people know about it. There is also the threat of getting my ass kicked. I just wondered how I should handle this situation tomorrow. Your help is gratefully appreciated.
  7. Hey Everyone, This is most certainly not my first post about this subject, but hopefully it will be my last post about it. There is this girl that I have liked for about two years now and I unfortunately haven't done anything about it. My problem is, is that I am gearing up to ask her out, to go to a hockey game with me. I don't imagine that I'll have any problem doing so, because I love her too much, it is just that there are two obstacles in my way. My first problem surrounding this situation is that my parents have the hockey tickets (to a NHL team), but they don't want to commit to giving them to me. They keep asking me who I am going to take, and I just told them that I was going to probably take one of my friends (someone they know), when in reality I want to ask this girl. I don't want to tell them who I am, taking until I am actually going because they will make a big deal out of it, and I really don't need that right now. The hockey game is not for another month yet, but I want to confirm that the tickets are mine before I go asking her to go with me, then looking like a fool if I don't have them. My second and biggest problem: I was in class and overhead someone asking a guy if anything was happening between him and this girl. As soon as I heard this, I started to have little flashbacks of seeing them together, never of course thinking anything of it until now. The thing is, I want to ask her out before this guy makes his move, but I haven't secured the hockey tickets yet. And it is nearly impossible to get her by herself in the hall becasue she is always with a group of people (for the purpose of talking to her). What worries me the most is that she hasn't really gone out with anyone for as long as I have known her and this guy is quite popular, and needless to say, I am not as popular as he is. She seems to be quite happy around him and I don't wan't anyhting to develop before I do ask her out. Please offer any suggestions that you can, I would greatly appreciate it. I have graduation coming up and want her to go to the prom with me, if I can't have her, I don't want anyone else
  8. Hey DaXMan, Welcome to the club. As far as your post is concerned, I would have to say (if this just happened today), that you should see what happens tomorrow and try to make alot of eye contact with her, for more on that see my eye-contact post from some time back, you will have to search for it. If you can't find it, Private Message me and I will send you all you need to know.
  9. Well, there aren't any ways around this situation. You must weigh yuor options and decide which one of these makes you happier. After that, you have to ask the girl that you chose out like right away. If you don't your friends will and you will be without either of them. Hope this helps you. I know the decision will be a tough one to make, but if you don't make one at all, you will lose out big time. John
  10. Geez, if I had a nickle for every time you tried to justify asking out this girl that you like, I would be richer than Bill Gates. B.S. that you heard is somewhere and thought it was funny!!! Just ask her out already, don't let it get to you. Let me know!
  11. JohnDoe

    help!

    This post is obviously a joke!
  12. Hey, if he really loves you, then you have absolutely nothing to worry about. He lives 250 miles away, if he wanted to keep another relationship a secret, he could, but you just have to trust him. Not much else to say about this!
  13. well, I would have to say that after reading that, that she was being very rude. I totally agree with the fact that she is using you and that you should actually be involved meaningful realtionship, not with this crap. Just try once more to work things out. If it doesn't work, tell her that you relationship is over.
  14. Hey, I totally agree with aloneforever, though with that attitude, he should not be "alone forever" anyway, just ask her to the prom. Not only that, but ask her out and then by default she will go to the prom with you. I agree in that respect with PLZHELP, that is, that you should be going out with her (if you really like her) and not just to the prom. Just go for it!!!
  15. You certainly have gotten yourself bent out of shape over this haven't you. Do not worry about it too much, if it was meant to be, it will all come together accordingly. I am not saying that you shoul not worry at all, just don't get totally bent about the situation. Don't worry about being shy, you already got over one of the larger hurdles, which is starting a relationship with her. Though the hardest part is yet to come, which is asking her out. As for going to school tomorrow and seing everybody, what are you worried about? Yuo liked a girl, so you ttalked to her, what can they say about that??? As for the post itself, if you choose to use emotions in your post, write the word as well, for sometimes is hard to understand what you are conveying. Also, try not to make your message so broken and gramatically correct. By the way, what do you mean about her dad being a teacher? Is this a good thing or not? Good Luck!!!
  16. Who told you that you should talk to her online? Your best bet is to talk to her in person, for this way, you do not leave a paper trail of your feelings and emotions, and you do not come off as a coward. Using the internet only tells her that you do not have enough courage to face her and aske her out. Best of luck in the future!
  17. congrats, hope that everything works out for you.
  18. I guess so, it is sort of hard sometimes to continue to love someone after finding out that they don't love you.
  19. Don't try to be funny, because that in itself is not funny! Just let well enough alone and humor will come to you, everyone has at least some sense of humour. Just remember that there is someone special out there for everyone, but that it is your job to initiate the ralationship. John
  20. Hey, I'm not sure if you read my post or not, but I seem to be in a situation similar to the one that you are situated in. Trust me, what you submitted as a post is in no way seen by me as bragging or anything close to it. In my post, I as well tried to not make it sound like I was bragging, as that was in no way my intent, but some members exaggerated my words and made it seem like I was. In my situation, I fourunately don't have the depression of sorts that you seem to have. Just hang in there and try not to talk over the top of peoples heads. Although you may be more so learned, mature and experienced than others in your school, you must try to display this in a subtle and obscure way. This is especiallt important when it comes to girls. It may be alright for other guys to think that you are quite intelligent, but at the same time, you don't want to make your intelligence make any girl you're with feel like an idoit. Hope this helps.
  21. Hey, don't let him get away from you. Doing so would only separate the both of you from each other, despite your past friendship. Go to what ever measures are necessary to talk to him, do this in private, and explain that you share the same feelings that he does. Let him know that you were just in shock from the situation and couldn't think of anything better to say that "I gotta go". Maybe it just so happened that he planned to tell you he is in love with you, and the kiss was not even planned. In that instant, maybe he feels he made a decision to quickly, and is mad at himself for screwing up. Otherwise, he would still be after you, (in a sense that he would still wnat to talk to you), and trying to get you to go out with him, as opposed to having no contact with him whatsoever. Best of luck, I hope everything works out!
  22. Well, my problem seems to be quite the conundrum. I am 16 years old but as a rule act more like I am 40 years old. I talk as if I have enjoyed 40 years of experience at life, am well versed in the nature of human nature and have the ability to figure anything out. I can do anything and everything, and talk about it like I am an expert, in some cases, I really am an expert. I have more skills under my belt at 16 than ost people that are in their 20's. As a result of this, I get along better with adults because our maturity level is one in the same. That's where the problem seems to be. I have been told by many many people that I carry myself well in adult situations and thereforeeeeeee, they (the adults) all like me. Every one of them that I meet. I am constantly complimented on my abilities and accomplishments, to no end. My issue is, I am not sure if the girl I like, or any girlsI know for that matter, like me. I am not sure if I come off as a smart ass because I know everything or if it's just because I am probably the most mature person in my grade. I am always doing gentlemanly things and am not sure how it comes accross. I think that sometimes, they are thinking that I am not a good person to be with just becasue I come accross as a know-it-all, when in reality, I don't talk about something until I have done my reaserch, which I always do, and I subsequently remember everything, thereforeeeeeee, when I talk about that subject, i for the most part do know it all. Please give me some insight into this situation, if you can. It is really bothering me and I wondered if you had any ideas for me. Thanks, John
  23. Hey, You just have to learn to build up your self confidence and use that available eye contact to your advantage. To assist you further, I have included a link to a post that I made some time ago. Please let me know if you have any other questions. John
  24. Hey guy, just let it come naturally, just as cookies advised you to do. Make your move after a few seconds if staring right into her eyes, with her looking into yours. It will make the kiss all the more meaningful and passionate. The whole thing with your mom can't really be avoided. To do that and have it mean so much to both of you definitely requires the absense of your mom. Another approach is to walk her home, or if you drive, to walk her to her door, and then make your move sometime shortly after you say goodbye. And the last approach, though this relies more on shock factor, is to, when looking into her eyes, ask her "so when we gonna kiss". Just a word of caution, you must use this with a big smirk on your face (not a grin as such, but a smirk) and say it rather coyly or playfully. Best of luck to you.
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