ConfusedLonely

I agree with the last post. Something simple, nothing too fancy. I also agree with SwingFox that bowling would be a great idea. I personally love bowling myself. If a guy asked me out and suggested we go there I would gladly accept. As for where to eat, nothing to fancy and/or expensive of course. Swiss Chalet may be a good choice. If you both like that kind of thing. Or if that is too expensive for you (as also was mentioned, you should pay for everything; being a gentlemen will get you far; it would work with me) Subway may also be a good choice. I know it's not really the best place but its cheap and they have really good food (both tasty and healthy). And of course it wouldn't be as bad (maybe wrong choice of words there) as say McDonalds. Another good date may be a movie that you would both enjoy. I don't know if people would disagree with me on this or not, but if you are shy it's the kind of date where you wouldn't have to do much talking. Which also may be a bad thing cause you won't get to know her too well. But then maybe you could go out for pizza or a drink afterwards where you could talk for a while. That would be the kind of first date I'd like to go on because I'm shy myself. Hope this helps.

Hi everyone. I'm just about 17 years old (two months from today) and I have never had a job before. I really want to make some money, but you see the thing is I am really really shy. I don't really want to have to deal with people at all. I'm so shy I hardly even like to be the customer at a store and deal with that one person. Let alone being the person who has to deal with all the people. I already applied to one job at a grocery store. But I never did get a call back about it. No surprise. It's probably because I don't have any experience. I was thinking about applying for a job at Tim Horton's or Wal-mart or somewhere like that. But it's all still dealing with people, which I'm not sure I can do. And I'm really nervous about attending any interviews. I'm pretty sure I'll screw it up, and I won't know what to say. If they ask me why I think I'm qualified for the job I won't have an answer because I do not have any experience that qualifies me. The only thing I guess could be considered experience is volunteer work I did at a hospital for two months. I would go there and help out the elderly or replenish magazines to waiting rooms.. about twice a week for those two months. And I also kind of volunteered at the Humane Society, but it was only once in a while probably 3 or 4 times a month. I would go down there with my mother and help clean out animals cages or whatever. It was since I was about 2 or 3 years old but of course I couldn't do any work til I got older. I would just like your tips or advice on maybe some other type of job, other than dealing with people, for a 16 year old who has no experience... or advice on how to prepare for an interview or how to deal with the people if I ever get a job in that field. Thanks in advance, I'd appreciate any kind of help whatsoever

Okay, I don't know if this would really be considered a problem, but here is my situation: If I touch myself anywhere 'down there', clit or anything else, I hardly get any pleasure whatsoever. It may feel a little good depending on what I do but nothing great and it certainly doesn't lead to orgasm. I've also tried using those vibrators that come in neck massagers or wherever, outside my panties, and it starts to feel good and builds up to a peak, but never anything really really intense. I doubt its an orgasm. And a few times I felt waves or something go through me, but still nothing like what I'm supposing an orgasm would be. I've also tried running water on me but that doesn't even feel as good as the vibrator. And the thing is I have to be really still and hold my breath for a while to get it to build up to the peak, otherwise I lose it. That's the first thing I'd like advice on I guess, to see if that's normal. The other thing is, that if I think or fantasize about someone making love to me, or watch people kiss or make love on tv, I get a really good feeling. But it's in a totally different way then when I try to masterbate. I get a good feeling in my stomach. If I keep watching for a while and/or if it gets more passionate, it's starts to move to down there, but still in a totally different way. I really love having this feeling in my stomach. I try to fantasize or watch those things on tv often just to get this feeling. I like it much better than the feeling I get from the vibrator. I was wondering if anyone else experiences this, and if it's normal to like that feeling much more? If anyone could shed some light on this subject it would be very very much appreciated Thanks in advance. p.s. The feeling I get from watching or fantasizing I've experienced at one other time. It was when the only boyfriend I've ever had came up behind me, while I was sitting in a chair, and wrapped his arms around me when I wasn't expecting it. The feeling just shot through me. I think that may have been the first time I felt that feeling. Thanks.

Hi. I am a female who is almost 17 years old (two months from tomorrow) and who doesn't really know whether to consider herself a virgin or not. You see, two years ago when I was almost 15 (young I know) I had a boyfriend who I tried to have sex with. But I didn't go all the way through with it. He popped my cherry but we didn't go through with having sex because it hurt me so much. So I cannot tell you whether I am a virgin or not because I really don't even know myself. What I can tell you is that I absolutely regret anything I did with this guy. He broke up with me a month after we tried to have sex and I am so happy I didn't go through with it, but I'm pissed that I even went as far as I did. If I could take it back I would. I'm not saying I'm going to wait til marriage before I try to have sex again. But this time it's going to be the right person, or at least what feels like the right person at the time. I don't want to wait til marriage because one of my friends made a really good point there a few months ago. She said that she wants to know if the person she is going to marry is good in bed. Why would you want to marry a guy who you don't know what they are like in bed? They could turn out to be the worst lover and you have to live your life married to someone who can't satisfy you. I really believe that now too. So as while I will wait for the right person to share that experience with, I'm not waiting til marriage. Hope that shed some light on your subject.

Okay, I don't really have a specific problem. It's more of a general thing. And just like my name says I am both confused and lonely. I guess I'll start off with some background. I'm just about 17 years old and I've only been in one, four-month long, relationship. I'm a really shy girl, not just around guys but girls as well. Until I get to know them that is. If I'm with my really close friends, or at the time I had a bf when I was with him, I don't shut up. You wouldn't think I was the same person. I'm also pretty smart, and I guess could be considered a nerd to a lot of guys. The one guy I went out with didn't go to my school and didn't know that, I'm not sure if that had anything to do with it or not. My relationship with this guy wasn't really normal, or what I guess I would consider normal. He tried to finger me on the third date, and I didn't really want him to but I was too shy to say anything. From that day on all he ever wanted to do when we were alone was sexual. Even when I wasn't shy around him anymore I still wouldn't tell him no. A couple of times we tried to go through with sex. The first time I chickened out before I even got undressed. But the second time I let him try to stick it up in me but it hurt too much and I pushed him off. Five minutes later I let him try again but it hurt even more (which I didn't think was possible after the first time) so I pushed him off me again and wouldn't let him try anymore. He actually sulked and started to cry because I wouldn't let him. He also said it would ruin his reputation. (I know, what a jerk! I see that now.) I then started crying because I disappointed him. Anyway.. that was it for the trying to have sex thing. Things weren't that good over the next month, we stopped spending as much time together, although when we were together things were fine. Then after than month he broke up with me. And that wasn't the first time but every other time he took me back. This time was final. He said I was too attached and took up too much of his time. (We had seen each other every day for about the first two months or more, and almost every day after that til things got rocky) I know I was trying to see him too much, but I didn't have many good friends at the time and was just so happy that someone was actually interested in me and wanted to put all their attention on me. I never wanted to hang around with anyone but him. Thing is, I wasn't even sad when he broke up with me. It's like I wanted to be with him but at the same time I didn't. After we broke up I called him twice (talked for only 5 minutes each time) and saw him in the mall or library a few times but then that was it. Seven months after that relationship ended I moved away, out of the province completely. I haven't even heard anything about him since, which in my eyes is a good thing. I totally regret going out with him and I ABSOLUTELY regret trying to have sex. He popped my cherry but we didn't go through with sex so I have no clue whether I am a virgin or not. I guess that is my first question. Whether you guys think I am or not. It has been two years since then and I still have not been in another relationship. I met this one guy online who I talked to every day for a month, but that couldn't really be a relationship. A couple of times he hinted at thinking he was in love with me, but I don't know if thats possible. We never really talked about sex, only beating around the bush type thing. Like joking around about punishing me when I'm bad and then making me feel really good afterwards, or how if we went to sleep at the same time that we were sleeping in the same bed, but if he went to sleep earlier then me he was made to sleep on the couch... like an old married couple really At one point I was actually thinking of telling him I wanted to meet him and wanted more then just something online, but the online thing ended about a week ago when he stopped coming online often and I got pissed at him about not wanting to talk to me anymore. (He is 25 by the way, and I'm only 17. I know, not a good combination.) Anyway, it's probably just my low self-esteem, as I don't think I'm very pretty or anything.. but I don't understand why guys don't like me, or don't seem to at least. They hardly ever try to talk to me even as a friend. I only have one guy from school that I talk to online but never in person. I can't understand what's wrong with me. For a while I felt better because the new friends I met up here haven't had many boyfriends either, but this summer they've started to date a few different people while I have nobody. I often fantasize about having sex with a guy. Recently it's been about that guy I had a month-long online 'thing' with. It makes me feel good to think about them making love to me. It also makes me feel good to watch people kiss or lead up to sex on tv. I always try to watch shows or movies with that in them when I can. All of this is normal, right? Although I guess you'll say its different for different people. I'm not really into one-night stands, but recently I want a guy to make love too, even if its when I first meet him. I just want someone to make me feel that way. I can't really picture myself dating someone before-hand because I'm so shy. I only picture myself in bed with them. I guess I feel lonely. Most of my friends have been really busy this summer so I have nothing to take my mind off of not having a boyfriend. Well, that was just me venting about how my love life sucks. Sorry it took such a really long time. If anyone wants to reply to give me advice on anything I've said I'd really appreciate it Thanks so much. Oh and theres one more thing. If I ever do find a boyfriend I'd want to go on the pill.. or the patch, or those every-three-month injections, or something other than using a condom. The thing is I don't want my mother to know.. plus I've heard that you have to see a gynecologist and they have to look at you down there, which I don't want them to do. I guess cause I'm so shy. So I was wondering if that was actually true? Is there any other way to get that kind of birth control? Any tips would be helpful thanks.