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Hey. I think the best thing to do is to continue the no contact with her. I know its hard and after three months you still love her and want her back, but you have to give her the time she needs for now. If she is the one that wanted the breakup, then you should respect that. This is how you show that you love her...by allowing her the time she needs. I think that part of loving someone is just wanting the other person to be happy..even if its not with you. If she really loved/loves you, then time will allow her to realize that she made a mistake when she broke up with you. I know it hurts...I was where you are 4 months ago and it really sucks. Give her time...I hope this helped! Just hang in there and take things day by day.

Hey. I know its hard to focus on other things when you have a broken heart. I have been there and it isnt easy. Hang in there. It's ok that you are still hurting...there is no time limit on how long it should take you to get over him. Try to focus on yourself...do things that make you happy. I know its hard, I was in your place a few months ago. I still hurt somedays but I am alot stronger now than I was then. Time will help...just take it day by day!

This is a hard situation to be in. I am not really sure what to tell you. You need to be honest with both of them. As hard as it may be, you have to do what you feel is right for you. If you really feel that you should be with the other guy then that is what you should do. Breaking up with someone is hard to do, but you dont want to stay in a relationship b/c you feel sorry for them or b/c you dont want to hurt them. It may be difficult for you b/f if you break up with him, but it would only hurt worse if you waited longer. Before you make your decision, be sure that it is what you want to do. Weigh out your options and make sure that you dont just like your best friend b/c he has always 'been there for you'. Make sure that your feelings for him are true b/c you dont want to make a mistake and then regret your decision. My best advice is to do what is best for you. Be with the one that will make you the happiest. Just be honest with both of them!

Hey, I have been in the same EXACT situation(only it was almost 8 months ago). It is so hard when you have such strong feelings for him and he doesnt feel the same. A breakup is not an easy thing...it is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. What helped me is having no contact with him. (My ex also wanted to remain friends but I told him that I needed time and I would contact him when I was ready). It only hurt me worse when he would IM me or call me(just to talk as friends) b/c I still loved him and wanted to be more than just friends. Having no contact with your ex will help you reflect on what has happened and it will allow him the space he needs. Also, something else that helped me is journaling...I wrote down all of my feelings, how i missed him, loved him, etc. It helped alot to get these feeling out, but it also helps now when I look back and realize how much stronger I am now. Try to focus on yourself...do what makes YOU happy. Go out with friends, even if you dont want to, make yourself go b/c trust me, it is alot better than being at home by yourself thinking about him. Hang in there and stay strong...time will help..I promise! PM me if you need to talk more!

Hey! I know its hard. I have been there before(7 months ago) and it is the hardest thing I have ever been through. It was extremely difficult for me not to call him and worry about him and wonder what he was doing and who he was with. Everyone kept telling me to "let go and move on" and while I knew that was probably the best thing for me to do, it is easier said than done. Looking back, I wish I would have done things different. I wish that I wouldnt have called him, emailed him, IM'd him...it only made it harder on me. I know it is hard not to do these things, it is very hard, but try to be strong. She is the one that wants yall to be apart right now...by you calling her, it is only pushing her away further. She wants space so give it to her. Think of it as a time of growth. Take this time to grow spiritually, physically, mentally, and emotionally. It is ok to let your emotions out but dont give her the satisfaction of letting her know how you feel. Im sure she knows that you love her and would do anything for her and thats all you can do for now. Now, try to focus on yourself, do what makes you happy, and when and if she is ready, she will come back to you. Talk to your friends(if you get the urge to call her, call a friend instead). I think that having no contact with your ex is the best thing to do. It gives you time to let go and move on and it gives your ex the space she needs and time to think about the decision she has made. Its hard, but it will eventually get better. It may help to write your feelings down(what I did is I got a journal and I wrote in it everyday...I wrote about my day, how I was feeling, how I missed him, etc...I wrote like I was writing to him...it helped alot and now when I read back on those days, I see how much stronger I have become). It will get easier with time, I promise...it is still hard for me b/c I still love him with all my heart, but I have let go of him b/c I love him and I am such a stronger person now. Take it minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day...Hang in there...if you need to talk, you can PM me.

Hey! Sorry, I cant talk long right now, but I just had to let you know that I went through the EXACT same thing! He said it had nothing to do with me, that I was everything he ever wanted but that something just wasnt right. I told him that I would do anything to make it work, but he just kept telling me that he was sorry and he didnt want to hurt me but he had to do this. I finally agreed b/c I do think it rather silly for us to stay together just b/c he didnt want to hurt me. I was absolutely devastated. It has been 5 months now and it still hurts me so bad. I was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my entire life! There is so much more that I could tell you but I have to go to work...so PM me back and ask me anything you want or tell me anything you want(as I am a good listener and understand what you are going through). I will message you back later with more advice, answers, etc! Just hang in there for now...take it one step at a time...

I have read part of the book! I am still working on it. I really like it. You can PM if you have any questions about it!

The heart definitely does not forget true love! It is possible to get back with an ex after a few years. Me and my boyfriend went out in high school and it really was true love. We broke up after 1 1/2 years and we didnt talk much after that. However God, fate, and love brought us back together 5 years later(while I was in college). We dated for two years but we broke up 3 months ago b/c he needed to find what he really wants in life. I was like the only serious relationship he ever had so he wanted to make sure that I was the one for him. I is very painful for me right now b/c I am almost 100% positive that he is the one for me, but he has to find that out on his on. I truly believe that his heart will never forget about what we had and I know that someday it will bring him back to me. True love always wins in the end!