Married for a good decade, children, house, a way-above-average sexlife, the perfect couple according to friends, my hubby hit me with a double whammy after christmas. he'd actually been considering an affair with someone from work - and during the discussions on this one, he mentioned he'd been seeing prostitutes. Not often - six maybe seven times since we've been together.Trouble is, five of those times were in the last year!!! It hit me for six - there we were having a great year, and yet he needed to relieve the pressure that was building up!!! He was no longer prepared to live by the rules society was forcing on him, he had behaved himself well for over ten years, his body is his to give to whom he chooses, it' just a man's thing etc etc. I was even told i shouldn't take it personally,it's not my fault, he loves me and can't bear the thought of losing me! And yet when the pressure becomes too much to bear, he needs to go .......!!He tells me not to get so worried and upset, it's not so important, i can't be everything to him and i DO have his kids and house, we share our everydaylife - and that if he's happy and satisfied he can do more and be more for the kids and me!!
I just can't help feeling if i'm not good enough on all counts, then maybe its time to look around again!My trust is wobbly, i find it had to believe him, does he REALLY mean it, and i wonder what the hookers can give him that i can't..................
Riding this emotional rollercoaster is wearing me out -and i've got to keep it together for all those who depend on me!
It's good to let it all out and to know i'm not alone with this kind of thing!