annalise23

Thanks Its just so painful. Hearing all these words and teliing him no. Im starting to doubt myself, making me think it is all my fault got to stop!!

Talk to you later imthatgirl. I dont think i wil get anymore for now. Finegrs crossed

They are so sneaky!! Stay strong luv. He has told he he will stop now. sorry. I hope he will. Am i being too harsh? should i give him another 'one last chance'

he has gone from ill leave you alone to please one more chance. Repeating it over and over. I have to stay strong. I have too!!!!! He says this all the time. SOrry to bother you buts keeps texting. I have asked him to stop as its too much. lets see if he respects that. Thank you thank you for the words of encouragement. DONT GO BACK!! I wont. I have to listen to reason and not my pain. Its the right way to go, it has to be over. is this what you would do if you were getting these messages?

luv, we can do this! dont answer

its eating me up. i need to hear you all tell me no!! Cos right now i know thats the right answer,i dont want to be blinded by my pain and end up going back cos im hearing all these words. AS you put uv actions speak louder. its easy to say them now isnt it! now hes hurting. But never when it matters. I need to think with my head. and i actually feel ok now. Its hard and i feel like a ***** for sending him away but they are just words. I have not seen this!!

oh my. Here is the next round of messages 'tel me what to do. and i will do it. i swear and if i dont hope to die I love u so much i see that now. i want to get old with you. i know not now. please one more chance. ill leave that up to you. u call if u want. i wont bother u. ill just sit and wait for as long as it takes. im so sorry 4 hurting u just one more chance. U dont have to reply cos im going to wait anyway. Becasue right now thats all i have to hold onto!! what the hell should i say to that.

It just makes me so mad. I just dont understand him. It just wouldnt change. I have heard all this before. Winds me up he says it all now instead of when it matters. He is trying to do the right thing, but its always way after the s*** hit the fan. I mean how can i live my life like this. How can i want to talk to him, have him dismiss me, go through agony for days just to hear at the end of it 'i love you more than anything, want to be the right guy.' Arghhg So so glad you are here!!!

Im trying to make it make me angry. HE always does this. and he always wins me back. They are unbelievably nice words and thoughful. But is it ok to say them now, after 3 days of being over? or not when I am trying to talk to him about my feelings of non trust. All he could say then was 'i couldnt care less' And this is not just the first time. Its ALL the time. He is nasty and then suddenly changes his heart. Is this acceptable?

i told him that unfortunately i didnt see a future for us. That we had tried and tried and nothing changed. That trying again will work for the short term to take away the pain, but not in the long run. I so appreciate your words imthatgirl. I finally stopped crying. I will be ok. Just not nice to hear these gestures when i have to keep going on. And your right, they are just to get me back in his world for now. There is no way suddenly everything would be ok. Please keep telling me so!!

I feel terrible. He said such nice things. i really need to stay strong. i feeel sick. this is the right thing to do? Why couldnt he say this on tues. why now

yes it so true. Its so hard i knew KNEW knew he would do this. I was doing so well. Its always at the times he thinks he has lost me he says all these wonderful gestures. He has treated me well. But also not well. Its the not well part that is not enough, to much has happened. all i want to do is take away the pain. Say yes we can work it out. But how can we. How can i say all what i have said on here and go back?! He wants to change. But he has said it before. He wont.

oh no Its getting worse. 'what im trying to say is i would sell my soul for you to mak you love and trust me. If thats not the way you feel. Then id have to live with that. idont know if u believe but you have made me the happiest guy in a long time. I dont want to lose you. And i cant lose you' Im dying inside

argggh. I have had NC since we broke up. Now he is asking what he needs to do to work it out... Its so hard. I have to be strong. feel like day 1 again now

First message said 'hi I replied hi, i am not trying to be mean but this is hard and being in touch is going to make it harder. He replied 'ya ok i have been wanting to call since that night. i cant get you out of my head. im sory to bother you. ill leave you alone and move on. Not working tonight so if you can leave my stuff in the back and ill stop by after my movie so u dont have to see me. That would be great. Goodbye ' I said yes ill leave your stuff outback for you. Then i got this 'just want to ask one thing. I want you to help me do the right thing. Will there ever be a chance for us? Please just say yes or no. I know not now. I just have to know. to take my next step.' First off, he has always worked evry fri and sat and suddenly he is going to a movie. Second, im scared. I am weak now and i know deep down this is the best way. He is aking for my help. How do i say no?! Arghhh keep me strong ladies (and ghost!)

Are you guys around?! Really need advice he is texting me and its really upsetting me. dont know what to do!

Good Ill be online too! Have a nice afternoon and we definitely need to post if we panic! Awww glad I found you two. Its nice to be able to talk to people in similar situations!

ahhhh. I need to go out a wel but rather addicted to this! I hope to see you both online later on! stay strong keep in touch!!

What review imthatgirl?

Do you think I should change my profile on myspace to single? I have not looked at his page and not logged on myself. I am worried when i do he will get upset by it = being nasty towards me as a result

SELFISH SELFISH SELFISH!! But at least you can see that now. And just be sure to keep telling yourself if you ever think about getting back with him. I dont know about you two, but in the past i always thought 'hmm its not that bad i can cope' just becasue i wanted to end the pain and be with him.

You should be able to communicate with each other and tell each other how you feel. Otherwise issues will build up and turn into big arguments. I cant believe your ex said you were causing drama by talking about things!!!! Winds you up doesnt it!!

wondered where you had gone! we have been busy!!

I so will!!

Ill never forget NYE this year. I still cant believe I got back with him after it. I think us ladies are 'saviors' trying to save the ones we are with. But enough is enough. We cant do it at the expense of our own sanity!! Its easier to go back because it takes away the 'im alone' pain. Even though we know the relationship is doomed, its not nice to feel alone. Especially when you are used to being in this situation. We know the same stuff will happen days/weeks/months away yet right now i think gosh it would be easy to forget it all and start again. Til next time!!! Thats all i can say to myself now. Be strong. yes its easy to go back. We are human and obviously still care even if a little bit. If we didnt, we wouldnt be on this website all day! But if we go back, it wont change. And how long do you stick around for it? Til you no longer have a life because you are dancing to his tune? I know I am a strong person, yet I would let things slide through fear of arguing. Not that i was scared physically, but mentally. He hurt me so much sometimes. Telling me he would go F some other girl at his work... it was because of these times that i hated arguing. so let it go. and that is not right!