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  1. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Man Hootz you just wont know! I think that is something you have to decide. Either you keep this going or give it up. I choose to stay with it. But I can tell you I get mixed results my man. I am not happy because I want love all the time just like you do. So really we both need to decided when enough is enough.
  2. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Hootz to be honest. I dont think this is a good time to be living together. It only makes the situation worth. I remember when she would want to spend the night over and I was like great we are going to have sex! Then it was like she just wanted me to hold her while she sleeps. I cannot imagine how rejected you must feel living with it everyday. You have to be even stronger my man. It will come. Do you remember when you were separated how you just prayed that you could have slept next to her? Well you have it but you are complaining. Give it some time and if its not up to your standards then you definitely need to leave. Trust me we sound almost like the same people. I personally think you are way to jealous of her friends. You sound very possessive. When you were broken up she found haven in those people and now you want her to just remove that element? Face the facts man, she found another person to confide in while you were away. That is a good thing. Man up and realize that if you are doing your best to make this work out that even if doesn't you gave it your all. I am not saying that this is right what she is doing. But because they broke up with you sometimes I think the dumpers feel that they can be distant whenever they choose but they don't realize the sparks of insecurity we dumpees still have. You are exuberating insecurity you need to go with the flow. Give you self a realistic date and if you don't like it move on
  3. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Good day Johnny give me an update. I just don't know what to say. I felt the same why you did once. But I realized she loved me but didn't like how I was acting when we spent time together. Call her let her know that you want to see her. I forgot to ask you last night but what did you want to talk to her about? Was it life or death or did you just want to hear her voice?
  4. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Yeah its like why wont she call you back. She could be really busy? She could not want to talk to you. YOUR MIND CREATES ALL THESE SCENARIOS. When she probably is just busy or wants to be alone. It's really not a game man. Why talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? You want to feel wanted. Now when she calls you back please don't pick up the phone and say "What were you doing, I texted you how come you didn't respond?" CLINGYNESS has to stop go do something. You have to detach in order to get love my friend.
  5. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Yep that simple. If she loves you she will try eventually my man.
  6. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    I know women would deny this. But I honestly think they are testing us. Look at things from her point of view in rebuilding the relationship. Think about what she would've changed. Is she doing this by being non-responsive to you? Others may take this as a bad sign. But she wants it to be different man. I am going to assume that this is the person you want to spend your life with? Try to correct what you are doing right now, you can even set a date (I DID) and if she continues acting this way then let it be over. Even if you end up not being together this will be a learning experience. Give another 2 months. Change the clinginess. Don't call her, let her call you. If you do call never call more than 2 times unless she calls you back. I hate that this kind of sounds like a game. But I promise if it is meant to be it will work out in the end my friend.
  7. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Now you do seem insecure and thats not going to make things work out. Over the period of the break up you should have lost this neediness. I learned that we have to take this completely as starting over. Its like your foundation is of remodeling. Stop analyzing ever situation. She just got back into someone caring about her all the time. She was used to doing what she wanted when she wanted. Its seems to me that you need to get a life and stop worrying about her so much. Honestly my man the reason she doesn't want to spend time with you is you get to clingy instead having fun. You talk about your relationship all the time and don't just have fun and be in the moment. Insecurity will hurt you my friend take it easy. I'm here if you ever need help man. I just got pass this phase.
  8. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Ok about the wedding anniversary... DO NOT PLACE ANY EXPECTATIONS OTHER THAN HAVING A GOOD NIGHT OUT... Go with her flow and do not try to over analyze things! Seriously expect nothing. That way if something happens your will be happy. Give her keys to the car my man. It's going to be a bumpy road but it sounds like you really love her as I do my girl.
  9. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Yeah its funny man. When me and my girlfriend separated I didn't really listen to a word she said. I felt I had to really make an effort to get her back, when all I needed to do was just accept what she was saying. It's a hard thing to do but love doesn't die out so easy its a tough thing. She started to call me, I made her laugh, we've had our ups and downs. But I'm still with her because I know a relationship is effort and hard work.
  10. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Getting back is hard man I am going threw similar situation. I choose to just take it slow. I don't think you can get your old relationship back in a day. She doesn't want to get hurt, you don't want to get hurt. I believe if you love her give it some time. Don't just let go that would be the easy way out. Getting back with ex is just the second phase of reconciliation. You still have to work to get it back. Some people wouldn't put in that work but hey If you love this woman whats a few more months? I find that most needy guys fail at getting back with their ex. You weren't need ywhen you broke up so why act so insecure now that you are together?
  11. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Exactly. Nice post. Thats all it is NC is for people who get to emotional and cannot stop themselves from acting out. If you are in control and can respect the person needing the space then you are fine.
  12. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Great thread.
  13. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    Funny thing you know what I did when I was going threw this phase Hoot? Give her a handshake it will make her laugh. Well it made mine laugh. She told me I acted like a perfect gentlemen and then boom a fat kiss! Funny how people think women are the needy ones we men need the love and affection! Dont let her know this is bothering you make a game out it. When you leave ask for a high 5 or thumbs up make her smile.
  14. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    I totally agree that real men show emotions while they are in a relationship... You need to understand that all that time with your EX is out the window my friend. You are now back to square of earning her attention. Your whole foundation has gone away with tsunami my friend. Tell us why should your ex talk to you? Just becasue you love her? I love her too but shes not talking to me. If you answer is all about you you you, then you have no basis. Think about what she wants and be respectful of that. She doesnt want to talk to you so respect that. She is not life support.
  15. LostLoveinLosAngeles
    No you cant do that big pimp. Actually you can do whatever you want. But honestly you are not being fair to B or C. Some people with low self-esteem keep two partners just in-case they get dumped or B cant see them they have C to run too. While I don't agree with that. You can do whatever you want, and to answer your question YES YOU CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH MILLIONS OF DIFFERENT PEOPLE its all about finding the right one and make yourself and your SO happy. Alot of dumpees forget the fact that no one holds LOVE. You can and will find someone else you may not want to but eventually you will. You can't hold a gun to the ex's head and say "GET BACK WITH ME OR ELSE". Take the time and love your self. I say dont be in a relationshop that you feel you having to be cheating bastard in. Be single then do whatever you want.
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