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i have found that when i am with a group of my friends i can talk to the most gorgeous girls you can imagine and have no trouble with it, but if i am by myself and a girl approaches me i freeze and become nervous. anyone have a reason for this and ways i can stop being so nervous when alone?
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some of you might of read my post about a girl i just met. well i met another one and i need to know if she is interested in me or not. since you werent there to see what happened i will try to explain everything. the first time i saw her i made eye contact with her and smiled. she smiled back but she seemed to be smiling longer than usual. the next time i saw her i smiled again but this time i added a wave. again it seemed she couldnt keep the smile from her face. the next few times made small talk with her and yet again she was smiling ear to ear but she seemed to be a little shy so thats all i picked up from her. i started thinking to myself this could be going somewhere. the next time i saw her (if your wondering how we run into each other so much it is because i work at a ski hill and she snowboards there) anyways the next time i saw her she had lipstuff on and had her hair done nice and i thought it was kind of weird that she would get fixed up nice just to go boarding. i operate the lifts at the hill and it is very odd for someone to use my shoulder for support when loading the lift, but sure enough she did then she turned around and looked at me and when i looked at her she turned back around quickly. my question is pretty much this?....is she into me or is she just a really nice, friendly girl who likes to smile at people and its just my imagine running wild? please reply ASAP as i have work tmw and i know for a fact shell be there. i want to know as soon as possible before she loses interest (if she was interested to begin with)
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thanks for the advice everyone. ill try my best to overcome my shyness and do what you hve been telling me to do...ask her for her number. these posts ahve helped me out quite a bit i think. i got to thinking the other night about this girl (whats new, i cant get her off my mind) and i thouht to myself, 'if i ask her out, she could say yes. how great would that be. but she could say no, who cares im only 18 with many years of dating ahead of me. BUT if i dont ask her, for the rest of my life ill have that unanswered question that could of so easily been answered if i had the balls....what if? thanks everyone its been a pleasure
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something i forgot to mention is that i dont even know her name....the only thing i know about her is that she likes to snowboard. so its probably not a good idea to get her number when i wouldnt know who to ask for when i call. i am way to shy to even get a name....i need some serious help!
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its not as simple to 'speak up' for me. i get all choked up, the thoughts in my head race at the speed of sound; im lucky if i can get hello out of my mouth without sounding like an idiot. and due to 'company policy' and 'so called 'insurance issues', i cant take a run down the hill until my shift is over. and by that time she is usually nowhere to be found.
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the story is as follows: im kind of a shy guy who doesnt have a lot of luck with women so im hoping that i will get as much feedback and tips as possible. i work at a ski hill operating the lifts and there is an extremely attractive girl who snowboards there. the first day i saw her i was blown away by how beautiful she was. she didnt really notice me at first (i dont think) until she looked my way. i stared into her eyes and gave her a smile and she smiled back. as i mentioned above, i operate the lifts so the only time i see her is for 5 seconds at the most before she loads the chair and heads for the top of the hill. when she sees me she waves, smiles and says hi, but there isnt enough time for anything else. i really want to get to know her, plus winters winding to an end so the hill will be closing soon. so if anyone could help me out in finding a way that i could actually have a conversation with her without it being 5 seconds long, i would really appreciate it. the second part of it is that i am shy and get nervous when i see her. i need tips on how to overcome my shyness and how to engage in a conversation without it seeming awkward on my behalf. im only 18 and so is she (if that helps in anyway) thank you eNotAlone and thank you to everyone who replies
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my ex gf and i still talk and are still kind of friends. the thing is she keeps telling me that she doesnt kno if she wants to get back together with me or not. this has been going on for a month and a half. at first she wanted nc but then she broke it and we were fine with that. then it hurt me to much to kno shes right there and i cant have her so then i wanted nc. every once and a while she would try to get ahold of me but i would never answer her or talk to her. then i broke that nc and talked to her and it didnt seem to bother her or anything that i wanted nc. i dont kno for sure but deep down in my heart i think she still loves me but im not sure what to think anymore. and i think half the reason she is taking so long to decide is that her best friend (who happens to be THE BIGGEST {mod edit} i have ever met) doesnt like me one bit and is trying to keep her away from me. when i am talking to my ex when she is around her she doesnt seem to want to talk to me for more than 5 or 10 mins. but when she is alone and i am talking to her she is a whole different person. she will actually talk to me nicely and for a really long time. tonite i talked to her for almost 2 hours until it got pretty late and she wanted to go to bed. i would just like to kno if anyone out there has any ideas on what she is doing or what she is feeling or what she plans to do with our relationship. and the thing is ive been offered a job paying really good money on the other side of the country and have to leave within a couple of months. but i have told her this and ive told her that if we ever got back together before then that i would turn down the job and not move away just so i could be with her. but she is still taking her sweet time. i love her more than anything in the world and would do anything for her (like turning down a really good paying job). so would you please help me out and let me know what she is feeling or what she wants to happen. i appreciate all the help in advance!....thanks
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ive already done no contact for 3 weeks and then she broke it to say she wanted to be friends and see where things go
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my ex girlfriend broke up with me and said she wanted to be friends and see where things go from there....and do i make things go in a better direction so that it will increase the chances of us getting back together?
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me and my ex havent officially gotten back together yet but after 3 weeks of NC she called and said she still wanted to be friends. we talk and stuff like friends would and after a while told me that she wants to get back together but not yet. She still wants her space so im gonna keep giving her her space because it seems to be working. if ur ex wants their space give it to them and you will soon find out what they are planning to do. if they dont call you for a while and dont plan to call you then you have to realize that it probably is over for good. but if you wait for them to call you and they do, then you know that they are still thinking about you. it might not mean that you will get back together but at least youll know that they havent forgotten about you completely. good luck!
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i might sound a little bit crazy for saying this but....NO CONTACT WORKS. no matter how hard it might be to have no contact with your ex, do it anyway. i am telling you this from experiance. there are plenty of posts out there saying the exact same thing as what i am trying to say but i am just backing them up because they have very good points in why no contact is good. if your ex wants some space to think or a little time to him/herself...GIVE THEM ALL THE SPACE THEY NEED! trust me on this one.i know its hard to do but in the long run it is best. the only way to give them what they want is...to give them what they want. if they really want to be with you, then no contact is the best way to find out. by not contacting them it gives them a feeling as if you are not affected by it because it was their decision in the first place. if they need space give them their space. after a while if they are still thinking about u, they will start to miss you and wonder what u have been up to. then they will contact u when their ready to. its hard to put in words but trust me!...it really does work and id just like to thank everyone who has read and helped me out withthe other posts that i have put on here....i really appreciate all the help i have got and everything has seemed to help me. THANKS EVERYONE...I APPRECIATE IT!
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i want to tell her something but im not sure where it will go or what the outcome is so i need some advice before i do anything or say anything i regret....what i want to say to her is something along the lines like: "is there any chance of us getting back together? because if there isnt i dont think i can be friends with you because just knowing that your right there and just want to be friends when i want to be more than friends hurts to much...i think no contact at all is the best way to go because i cant stand even seeing you knowing that theres nothing i can do to make you change your mind. i cant be friends with someone who i love as much as i do you." would this be alright to say? is there anything else i can say or anything that i shouldnt say to try to make things better?... i really need your help people im hurting soo bad!
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my ex and i have been split up for three weeks with no contact (her choice). when i tried to call her or try to get ahold of her in anywayin this three weeks she has told me not to call anymore and to just leave her alone so i stopped calling. she said she still loved me but she has moved on from me and doesnt want to get back together. she said we were on a break and she needed a little time to think. while we werent together i got a little drunk and had sex with someone else. my ex then said it was over for good because i cheated on her but we werent together when i did. after three weeks she calls me and tells me that she still wants to be friends and well see where it goes from there. now i talk to her basically everyday as friends like she wanted but thats not what i want. she asked me to do something with her the next day and asked me what my plans are for the weekend. i still love her with all of my heart and i think she still has feelings for me too. these questions keep bouncing around in my head and i dont kno what to think of them. 1)why would she call me and talk to me after she told me that she was over me and never wanted to talk to me again? 2)is what i did considered cheating if we werent together at the time? 3)is she considering getting back with me when she says she has to see where things go as friends or does she just want to be friends? 4)how do i prove to her that she is the most important person in my life and i love her with all my heart? beacuse when i tell her i still love her she replys with 'we are just friends'. i really need some help....ive tried everything and i dont want to be just friends with her i love her more than ive ever loved anybody else in my life....please help me!!
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the same night that she called...she unblocked me from msn and left a message saying hi on my comp.....i wasnt home at the time and when i got home she was still there and she started talking to me like we did before anything happened....before she went to bed she told me that i should meet her the next day...of course im going to...now i kno this is a really good sign that she wants to get back together....at least i hope it is.... if anyone knows whats going on in a womans mind please help me out and confirm what i think is happening... thanks for all ur help everyone...i appreciate each and every one of ur replys ....good or bad...later
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she has told me after we broke up that she still loves me. and when she called after the 3 weeks she was asking me things like 'how can we get back together if u keep lieing about everything'.... is this a sign she wants to get back together or is it over and she just wants to make me feel guilty about what i did and me lieing?
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my ex and i have broken up for about 3 weeks now. at the beginning she told me not to call, not to email her, nothing. she didnt want anything to do with me. then she called me today, wasnt mad, just asked me a bunch of questions like why i did what i did, why i lied, stuff like that. it surprised me because i thought that she never wanted to talk to me again. what does this mean when she calls out of nowhere after i havent tried to contact or and neither has she after 3 weeks?
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you might of already read some of my other posts about me and my ex....if you did then id just like to say for those who tried to help thank you cuz this site has helped me move onTHANKS EVERYONE! anyways...im starting to talk to a new girl now...lets just call her 'hott' and i talk to one of her friends....lets just call her 'bud'. i like hot and would kind of like to move things on to more than just friends. when ive talked to bud before shes told me that hot likes me and that i should really try and hook up with her...i didnt try rite away incase they talked and it made me sould too desperate but anyways in the beginning hot seemed to like me and im pretty sure i gave her some hints that i liked her too. i invite her to hang out with me and party with me once in a while and shes all up for that. one night i was a little bit...actually i was pretty hammed and she had a little bit to drink....she wasnt drunk or anything but we got to kissing and hugging and all that gushy and one thing led to another and we had sex. after that she seemed pretty happy and giggly and stuff and we cuddled up in bed and fell asleep. the next morning i didnt feel 100% (dont kno y lol) so i just wanted to lay in bed and watch tv and just kick it....she didnt seem to mind...she had her head laying on my shoulder with her arm accross my chest and she seemed pretty comfy there....well the next day i told bud that i liked her and bud told me that hot liked me too...so i told hot that i liked her more than a friend and the funny thing is she said she didnt feel the same about me so i was like ok...were still friends tho....but when we talk now she giving me all sorts of mixed signals...im not an idiot i kno what the signs are that she likes me and she gives them too me but in a next convo or something she wouldnt really talk to me like she didnt want to ....i still like her and still would like a chance to get with her but shes convusing the hell out of me haha...one minute shes giving me signs that she likes me, the next its the complete opposite...i dont want to look like an idiot or that im desperate or anything by asking her to be more than friends a second time so how do i kno she isnt just a friendly chick or that shes really into me....help me out please!
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yes this is the same girl....i'm moving on pretty good i think but i would still do anything to get her back...ive learned that if she doesnt want to be with me then she doesnt want to be with me...i love her too much to force her to do anything so if she will be happy without me i will be happy with the fact that she is happy
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my gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago because she said she needed her 'space' and she didnt think she could trust me because i kinda fooled around with another girl drunk. a few days into the break she said she still wanted to be my friend and i accepted that because i knew what i did was the biggest mistake in the world for me. a couple days later i tried to call her but she says she has a beep and then hangs up on me and turns her cell off. she wont answer her home phone, her cell phone, emails, messages on msn, nothing, so i decided to give her what she wanted so i didnt make things worse. i gave her her space, didnt call, txt, email or nething in two weeks but still responce from her. i love her with all my heart, hate myself for what i did and i cant stand not talking to her or even seeing her beautiful face. i have had the chance to talk to her once for a minute and asked her if she still loved me. she said she didnt want to answer that rite now and hung up. My questions are: 1) how do i find out if she still has feelings for me? 2) how can i find out if she is just mad at me and will get over it or she is gone for good? 3) how can i prove to her that i love her with all of my heart, i miss her soo much, what i did will never happen again because i know what kind of pain it brought to her, and how can i regain her trust back if she wont talk to me? i really need help with this one!....i know that i made the bed i lay in now but how do i prove all these things to her when she wont talk to me!???
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the story is...i met a girl on the internet while i was with my gf. i didnt have any real interests in this girl other than as a friend. so one night i decided to ask her out not on a date but as friends with a big group of my friends. nothing happened but when my gf found out she thought the opposite so she called a break between us that was supposed to only last a week. during this 'break' i was very very angry at my gf because i knew deep in my heart that i didnt have feelings for this girl. i was soo mad that for some stupid reason i asked her to do something with me again...and agina nothing happened between us. this girl apparently likes me now and is spreading rumors to try and break me and my girlfriend up. my gf is actually believing the things this girl says and called the relationship off for good. she wont talk to me, i try to call and she hangs up on me. when i do get a chance to talk to her she yells at me and is very mad at me still after two weeks that it happened.she says she just wants her space but to me it seems like things arent going to get better. she wont listen to my side of the story wont believe a word that i say and she says she doesnt know if she still loves me. i love her with every bit of my heart and i hate the other girl with a passion now.... will someone please help me...should i leave her alone and see what plays out like she wants me to do...or should i follow my heart when it tells me to try with everything i have to make things rite between us even if it means me calling when she doesnt want to...i am soo heartbroken rite now and confused...i dont kno what to do but i want things to get better between us...i love her with more than anything but she doesnt give me a chance to prove it...WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?....ive tried everything but still no response from her
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honestly i would do anything that is humanly possible to get my ex gf back...i love her with all of my heart. ive never felt this way about anyone before in my life and when all of this happened ive never felt worse in my life....i feel like there is nothing worth living for anymore if i cant be with her...i love her soo much and just want her to understand that
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how much time should i give before i can be 100% sure that she doesnt have anymore feelings for me...i cant go on forever wondering and the more i wait themore i dotn want to be living without her
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the story is...i met a girl on the internet while i was with my gf. i didnt have any real interests in this girl other than as a friend. so one night i decided to ask her out not on a date but as friends with a big group of my friends. nothing happened but when my gf found out she thought the opposite so she called a break between us that was supposed to only last a week. during this 'break' i was very very angry at my gf because i knew deep in my heart that i didnt have feelings for this girl. i was soo mad that for some stupid reason i asked her to do something with me again...and agina nothing happened between us. this girl apparently likes me now and is spreading rumors to try and break me and my girlfriend up. my gf is actually believing the things this girl says and called the relationship off for good. she wont talk to me, i try to call and she hangs up on me. when i do get a chance to talk to her she yells at me and is very mad at me still after two weeks that it happened.she says she just wants her space but to me it seems like things arent going to get better. she wont listen to my side of the story wont believe a word that i say and she says she doesnt know if she still loves me. i love her with every bit of my heart and i hate the other girl with a passion now.... will someone please help me...should i leave her alone and see what plays out like she wants me to do...or should i follow my heart when it tells me to try with everything i have to make things rite between us even if it means me calling when she doesnt want to...i am soo heartbroken rite now and confused...i dont kno what to do but i want things to get better between us...i love her with more than anything but she doesnt give me a chance to prove it...WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?....ive tried everything but still no response from her