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I know how you feel, EXACTLY!!!!! I miss my ex soooo much too. If you call him then what will the outcome be? Most likely you will be in MORE pain than you are right now, cause he isn't gonna tell you what you want to hear and that is that he's gonna give you a second chance and he loves you back. Please don't contact him!!!!!! I go through this every single day, and it will only make you feel worse, trust me I've been an idiot for like 3 months now. Right now your heart is talking and you're not using your head.....Please fight the urge and keep posting here, you are NEVER alone!!!

I personally could not date again for awhile, but I guess it depends on the individual. But make sure it's not just a rebound and you end up hurting someone else. I truly think people should take awhile and be alone to get themselves "back together" I guess to feel good that you can be alone and not need a partner to make you feel whole. Very hard to do. Anyways whatever decision you make, just be careful and good luck

I feel your pain all the way!!! Trust me I know. It does feel like they would be cheating on you if they go out with someone else huh? I guess cause we still love them so much we feel they are still ours. We were engaged so it's terrible. I wonder too sometimes how the hell I'm gonna get through this, but we have to. I mean what else can we do?? You have plenty of support here as I can see, Great people!!! I wish you the best and know you are not alone, there are lots of us in pain right now

it's been about 3 months since the breakup, but we have had way too much contact, so in a way I have not really begun the healing process cause I was in denial for so long. Another problem is that he says he will always love me and needs time to heal, wants to be friends, etc. My story is really long and complicated and I wanna post it but I just don't wanna rehash it all right now. We still have a few ties. He has the title to my car and the keys to the storage unit where all OUR stuff from our house is. He has the title to the car cause he bought it for me for Christmas and he just got around to notorizing it. I really think he was trying to hold on to small things for some reason. He says he can never trust me again with his heart, or anyone else for that matter. He says he forgives me but can't get past some of the stuff that I did to him, (being mean, irritable etc. I had alot of depressive problems and we went too fast in the beginning of our relationship)I keep praying that maybe someday he will be able to look past all of this. I am the first person he has ever truly loved and he's 37, and I feel the same about him. Thanks for all your kind words and support, I think I'm going to be posting on here alot more often as I'm going to need all the moral support I can get.....Thanks

Hi all, Well I was just wondering if you have symptoms like nausea, stomach pain , headaches and just plain tired, no energy. Most of the time I feel like I'm losing my mind. I can't stop obsessing and doing the what ifs. I even have vivid dreams quite often..... I feel like this is taking over my life. I miss him soooo much and am so lonely. Plus I have guilt about ruining the relationship with my fiance. (No I did'nt cheat on him) I've been reading the posts on here for awhile now and they have helped a bit. I sure wish I had done the NC or LC at least. I've truly made an idiot out of myself. But I'll tell you this is the worst pain in the world. I wish I could fast forward my life, but I know I will always love him, he is my soulmate. Thanks for listening1

I've been reading all the posts for about a month now and I wanted to reply to this because it is so similar to mine, althouh I did'nt cheat on my ex I hurt him deeply because of some emotional problems I was going through. I am 40 years old and he is 37 and both of us agreed that this was our "REAL" first true love. I am so devastated. It hurts even more because of the guilt I have for hurting someone so much that I truly love!! Sometimes it's more than I can bear.I want so much for him to be able to trust me agian, he was my soulmate, and I am so lost without him. I am so sorry for what you are going through, I fully understand. But if I was to get physical or even see him right now I would crumble, it would reopen wounds and bring back all the pain of wanting and missing him sooooo much. Soon I will post my story, it's been hard to put it all into perspective cause it's very complicated and different. I wish ALL of you the best of luck. I know it hurts like HELL