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Did you ever get to meet William in person Desert?
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When does it get easier?
LONESOUL replied to kittysaysmeow's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
Good for you. You hold the key to your own happiness. Post often~ read lots Take good care~ Lone -
Thats because you are, and now we are your friends as well. What a wonderful special thing for you to have.
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He's with you Brit. I hope he is with us all in some little way too.
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When does it get easier?
LONESOUL replied to kittysaysmeow's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
KSM~ I understand, my break up got bad at times as well. Those were hard times. You can't let your mind go there again, you have to keep thinking about the last 6 months, mostly the last two if you can...concentrate on what you have been doing to move your life forward and let it happen, no looking back, even if you run into your ex. Keep moving. You are okay. You can do this. -
Enjoy your newfound youth!! I know I am finally finally just beginning to enjoy mine, everty single feeling is no longer "born of pain" and some, have nothing at all to do with my break up...yessssss!!! Sandy, why so quiet today love, still nursing that head?
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I'm thinking an island somewhere....
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I am someplace kinda warm, and good thing because MJ never stops long enough to snuggle with,until I am at work, then she sleeps all day ***sigh**** ..darn cat.
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CAT (big huge Gulp) is...DEAD??? I am not going to touch that comment with a ten inch pole..ahhhhhh foot foot I meant foot! dangit!
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When does it get easier?
LONESOUL replied to kittysaysmeow's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
Hi KSM~ NC doesn't erase the past. It just makes moving on easier. You may have felt that way regardless, having seen your ex. You say you have been doing great,thats just the NC giving you the space to do that. NC is a tool to help you heal, but it's not a magic spell to wipe away your life. It will get better when you are completely over your ex, and that only time can do. -
Oh Nomads huh? BUT what about...(leans closer to DYT).. cat? Thats silly DYT, why I hardly hear an accent from you at all. Ahhh the dog house, I spent many a night there myself. "Motel 6 1/2"...bet they "still leave the light on for me." Much better than the garage, and after a few weeks you won't even mind the slobber on the chew toy and finally you will do just accept said slobbery toy as your gift to hold while chasing slumber. This thread always needs (or wants anyway) a booze up...your fitting right in Brit!
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Not orginally but I have lived in the South for about 3o years. I'm in North Carolina Brit.
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Hi DYT, moved out of the garage yet? So what are you doing for Christmas anyway since you keep wanting Sandy to come visit? (and I think Sandy should!) Brit, oh no it's way more than two and two, we have people from everywhere on this thread, Sandy is in Canada. (I love Canada!) People sometimes say I have a southern accent, I don't hear it.
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No John No Camber....hummmm??
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lol...I always feel giulty when I callin sick, I have no idea why. I work like all the time, I should not feel guilty...(humm okay mental note to self not to do that anymore..) It's okay Sandy, hopefully you can use it for a "mental health" day lol...everyone needs a break.
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Good to see you Sandy. Sorry to hear about the hangover, (you and Z) a few less Lucky's next time huh?
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Never been to England, I have a branch there but I have never been. I think I would like to go someday and see if it rains allot.
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Well we sometimes don't see those flags when we think we are in love. My ex flew more flags then marching band at the Macy's parade, but I didn't see them waving right in my face, or maybe I did, but I shut my eyes. Anyway it happens, we'll get through.
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It unseasonably warm here today, we are one week from Christmas and it's going to be 70 degrees today. I'm a little concerned about John guys and gals, anyone talk to John outside the forum? I hope he comes on today.
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Hi Britnus. Are you being positive, becuase you know this is just freeing you up to live the rest of your life happy, instead of with someone who no longer wanted the same thing you did. You are very strong. I'm sure this week is painful, and with Willimas passing, maybe even a bit more so. I know William is wanting for you to be strong. He is wanting for you to carry on, and to live a good full life.
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Morning Z, Morning Des, I'm ok~weekend was okay~car died yesterday had to buy a new battery, and I got home late so I am tired...but oky other than that. John? Sandy, how are you today? Hey Smiles. How is everyone, DYT, Beebee, Camber, Winter, any one else?
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John, I'm going assume that you are giving yourself a moment and then you will return to let us know how you are doing. Okay? You CAN do this. This board is chuck full of people who swore the pain they felt would kill them. It did not. It made them stronger, and in some cases even more emotioanlly healthy people. imagine that. But its true. I have been where you are, I do not know if I will egtt that low again, but I might. What I do know is that no matter how much I think it will not ever go away, it does...it just does. It the human spirit, it's the soul, it the human heart and it's incredible. Check back in as soon as you can, just to let us know you are okay~even if you don't feel like talking. (but I hope you do!)
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I'm on meds too John, I take Zoloft, for me it is a Godsend. It's for depression, can you think of people who need it more? The meds are not the enemy ...it's okay to take them while you need them. It does not make you weak, it makes you a strong enough man to know right now, you need a little help. Again, you don't need them forever~just for now.
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John, I am so sorry it's a rough hour...oh how they hit deep. To you my ffriend I say this "This is not the rest of your life." You will not hurt like this forever. You loved a woman enough to make her your wife and planned to spend the rest of your life together. For whatever reason, your wife choose another path. Of course you are hurting, and it will knock you to your knees, no doubt about it. BUT, there is more for you John. You are still the wonderful man you were before you met her. You are still the man that some very lucky woman will love again. You must allow yourself the room to breakdown now and again. Remember the first time you thought you had gotten over some stage and it whacked you in the face. We have to learnn to expect that because we do have "triggers" until we can create new memeories for our short term mind. Tell yourself, okay, wow, I needed to loose it for a bit today, BUT, nothing has really changed since before I broke down,(a good friend told me that one time..wink wink) in fact thats one more step forward... and toward healing. I think it was Orlander one time who basic wrote that each breakdown, each sobbing cry should be welcomed with open arms because it is HEALING raining down on us. Oh how we need a healing. You can do this, steady as we go John, steady as we go.
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John~songs are the worst! What happened, friend? Want to talk about it? (and 69 or 169 days, you can't help how deeply you feel, it's okay, remember you can't set a time on recovery, its a process)