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She's willing to work around that loophole i know this. Thanks for your comments. You made me think of the bigger picture. Yeah it's important but I feel as long as i'm myself things will work out.

Yeah but i can tell you it's going to be hard as hell, especially after we've already done it. What gets me mad is how she didn't think anything until her overbearing mom said something.

I'm seeing this girl for a month now. We had sex 3 weeks into our relationship. She had sex in her previous relationship but only twice and she was with that guy for 2 years. Also from what I gathered it lasted less than 5 minutes. She never had the big 'O'. Not to worry, i gave her it So anyway she's talking to her mom and the subject of her being a virgin comes up. And how her mom is so happy she still is one. Mind you she's 23 years old! She gets this catholic guilt and then tells me she doesn't want to have sex till she gets married! Now i thought it was a joke but after some questions she doesn't seem like it is. I'm mad now. I don't know if this is the flavor of the week or what but i'm feeling really pissed off and i'm not sure how to tell her that without coming out like all i want to do is have sex. I believe that a relationship needs it in some form and for someone to just cut it out like that is crazy.

Well I went to the City with her and it was awesome! Spent the whole day there. We both had a great time. Near the end of the night she was holding on my arm and somehow we bumped hands and she grabbed it! I felt like i was 15 again I'm still not sure where we stand. Which causes me to go nuts sometimes but i don't want to push the subject. Do I keep letting her lead? Should I ask her where we are in this or where she wants to go with it? Or should I do nothing and just let the chips fall where they may. I don't know why i feel i have to know where we stand (dating, friends, exclusive or not) I'm just afraid that if i don't formally say something then i'm going to lose out. She asked me to her works xmas party and to xmas eve party with her family. I can dig the work thing but Family?

she's like a book thats words don't match the picture. she says one thing but she's doing something else. I'll let it flow till after this weekend. I'll see if i can find a way to "relax" and separate my feelings. It seems easier said than done, but i'll give a shot.

Theres my friend who has a friend who i've been spending some decent time with for the past few weeks. We talk over IM and go out with my friends on weekends. This past week we did our own thing with Dinner and such. I know she probably likes me and wants to know me more but i know she's not into jumping into a relationship from what my friend tells me and wants to i guess "date around". I'm not sure if what we are doing is called dating. What would you call it? Hanging out with a friend. I was never good at labels The slight issue is I almost feel that it's moving toward the "something more" stage. I mean if we just saw each other on weekends, if that, i could see no problem. But it seems from me she's pushing to spend time with me. She invites me down to her place during the week (been there 4 times this month) and this weekend we're heading to the city all day. She pretty much spearheaded that idea, i just flow with it cause i don't want to be pushy and want to give her some latitude. I guess i don't want to get caught up in her if she's just doing all this to be my friend. Hell I don't even have a friend that I see that much and do that much with. I feel as i should ask her whats up with us but i'm not sure if thats a good idea. I just can't read if it's a good time to ask it or when that would be. I have no issues to date aslong as I know it's "dating". I guess i want her to know my intentions. Being friends is nice but i'm looking for something deeper in the long run.

I dated her about 9 years ago since then we've stayed best friends. I hear what ya'll are saying. I do feel better about it. Yeah I know i'm nice but in no way am I the "dorky nice" She did seem very attracted to me so that's why it didn't make that much sense. Ahh, there's more out there I could use a dash of confidence. That seems to deminish when you get nervous. Live an learn. Thanks

That's all I hear. My friends say how i'm great, my girlfriend (best friend who's a girl) says i'm the last of the "nice guys". Well if i'm so damn great what is my problem. I've been out on dates and it doesn't take long for me to hear, "your a great guy but i don't see it going past friends". Why? Where am I messing up? Something tells me it's cause I don't make a move to be physical. I have respect and I don't want them to feel unconfortable. It's not like they were all over me either, I'd move on that. I typically see them on 2 dates and that's about when i get the speech. It's like a catch 22. i'm damned if I do and damned if i don't. ](*,) If i can get past this hump i'd be home free.

I've been doing this "dating" thing since August. Always met my previous girlfriends though friends but trying the online route this time. Anyway I already went on 2 separate dates. The first one she said it felt like we were more friends than anything... I was a gentlemen and didn't try anything. The second one I could tell that though conversation that she didn't spark my interest. Now i'm talking to this girl and I must say I haven't felt like this in a long time. I've talked to her through a few emails but for the last two days through AIM. I feel really good about this one but I don't want to blow it. I know I have to act myself but I don't want to move forward to soon and don't want to miss the train. I hate sitting there trying to think of a question I could ask her, we covered most of the basics. I want to ask her out without "asking her out" if you know what I mean. I don't want that stess of a "date" cause i feel it puts to much pressure on the situation, we both agree on that point. I guess I feel this one is special and I want to give her and I a chance. With today being wednesday i was going to see what she was doing friday night or saturday. Should I keep it just us or invite her friends along (aka bar) so she feels confortable. But in the same sense I want to be confortable to. What do you ladies think?

You don't get them off your mind. So don't think you can. You can distract your mind by doing things like going out with friends, find hobbies, work, etc. But if you can Man UP and not talk to her then it WILL get much easier week after week. I've been NC for over a month now and I still think about her but don't feel those sad feelings any longer, and have no desire to ever see her again. They already did what they thought was best for them, it's time YOU did what's best for you. I hope u can keep up with NC cause that's your only savior.

I may just pay the stupid bill. It just pisses me off how for someone who said she didn't want anything serious she sure does talk to a certain number almost every night for 30 or so minutes before she goes to bed ever since we broke up. Just hurts alittle more knowing she lied to me, reguardless if she planned it or not. I really don't want to talk to her or see her. I know she would like it if I contacted her. But I may shoot her a professional email stating what she owes me with no feeling or anything attached to it. I kinda like NC so far and don't want to break the streak. I'll figure something out. thanks all.

The last time I saw her was almost 4 weeks ago when we mailed in the cell phone seperation papers so we could have our own bills. Well it took the phone company the rest of the month to separate them and now I have a $120 phone bill, usually its $80 for both phones. Guess in her new found freedom she can really talk it up. I really don't feel like paying for the bill since most of the charges are from her. Should I just eat it or send her an email telling her the amount and asking her for a check via mail. I don't feel like ever talking to her cause she's got nothing I want, other than the money

I know she didn't go out of her way. She usually goes to the gym 4-5 days a week. I go during day when she's at work and only time to run into her is on Saturdays. She came in at 11am and I normally finish before that on saturdays but I got to a late start. I'd be curious to see if she comes in earlier to get a bigger glimpse. I'll see in 2 weeks. The parking behind me is kinda funny. That'll give her something to think about

I saw the ex yesterday. I was at the gym finishishing a set when I look over and BAM! There she was walking in looking the other way. She seemed to look as if she was looking for someone. My heart immediately began to jump out of my chest. I continued my sets and finished up 15 minutes later. I didn't see her again, she most likely went to the upstairs portion of the gym. I don't know if she saw me, I hope she did, but as i was walking to my car I noticed she was parked behind me (I was the one she was looking for). I don't know what this means. I don't want to live in fear of seeing her. It's been 2 and a half months since the breakup and over 3 weeks since NC started. I'm thinking about her less and less but something like this wakes you up and makes you wonder how over her are you.

It will take time for you to go out on dates again. It's been almost 2 months for me and as much as I'd welcome someone in my life I feel as if I'm not strong enough to stand on my own two feet. As for being numb I know that all to well. You are most likely depressed about the situation. 4lorn is right about the wall. I find reading other peoples problems and talking to friends about my own helps me put it behind me. I'm slowly starting to get feeling again. If it continues you could always see your family doctor and maybe they can give you something to help. Being numb is the worse feeling. I'd rather feel pain cause atleast you feel something.