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but why keep me in check, if she wants it to be over why doesn't she tell me no I don't love you anymore and take the ring off.

I posted a few times here and I wanted to thank everybody for their advice and support. My wife got a tattoo of the guys name she has been with, less just a month now. But she still won't answer me questions that I want answered. I asked her if she still loves me she won't answer, she still has her wedding ring on, and she won't sort out our stuff like the kids clothes, toys, photos etc. I asked here why she is stalling she says I just can't do it with you. I got one friend saying she still cares thats why she doesn't want to do it and she thinks she just wants to be free right now, sow here oats or something. I have been concentrating on my kids first and foremost. As for the tattoo I told her that was the biggest mistake and she said I could I always change it to Mckenna's name. Thats our youngest daugther and the guys name is ken. Should I take the ring off and give up all hope [something I really don't want to do] or should I just sit back a see what happens and if she wants to come back cross that bridge when it comes. If you r a woman please try to think what she is thinking because I am confused completely.

Can anyone tell me why she does this? If I'm out with my friends, she will call and ask where I was, what I was doing, was I with a girl, did I have a date. She also didn't want me to move to the city. Her sisters daugther is dating one of my best friends and she has been calling her to see what I am doing, where I'm moving, why I'm moving, where I was the night before. When I asked her why are you being rude to me all the time she said its the only way to get you out of my head. She hasn't told anybody in her family about this guy, nor has she told her best friends, in fact she only talks to this guy and the people he hangs out with. I don't know, I am so confused.

I will move on, bit I am going to still wait for her. She is the only one for me this I know. If she doesn't come back well thats what I gotta face. I don't want to find somebody else, I can not, I will not. I am going to move on to improve myself and be there for my kids.

First I must say I don't want to die, I look at my two little girls and I can't imagine not watching them grow up. When I found out that connie was with another man, I was shocked, after all the defending her when people said she seems to be hiding a man, I told them no way connie isn't like that she just needs her space. To tell you the truth when I found out for sure I wanted to die, I just wanted to die. She was, is my everything, she was my love, my support, the mother of my children and my best friend. When she called and said it was over, the words I don't love you still ring in my ears. I felt like half of me died. I have cried every night since she has been gone and cried even harder since I found out. I just don't understand , two days and she moved in and started sleeping with him. Now she acts like she hates me, always yelling and accusing me of things. When all this started I thought she would get an apartment and work on herself like becoming a nurse or just finding connie, then we could try to start over or go to counseling. But she instead took off with a man twenty years older then her, which has me worried. This guy has said things to people, pretty much bragging that he is sleeping with a youg chick and saying but she has three kids so he doesn't know about this one. If he hurts her so help me god, there will be hell to pay big time. I wonder what she sees is this guy, he isn't the nicest thing to look at thats for sure, he likes to drink alot and he is old, he don't want kids running around. But he has money, I'm hoping thats not what connie is with him for. I think mostly she is afraid to be alone or she needed to find someone else to forget about me. She told me she felt like her life was going no where, but where is it going now? I wish she would sit down and talk to me. I remember her saying I didn't respect her. That I can believe and at the same time not. I can see how she maybe thought I didn't she was looking at all the things I didn't do, like keep the house clean, getting a job or going back to school. But I did watch the kids and take care of the kids. I let her sleep whenever she wanted, let her go out when she wanted while I stayed home with the girls. I let her buy anything she wanted because I knew she worked hard and deserved it. I sat down in the kitchen a couple of nights ago and cried for about two hours, everything I see I see her. I can't stop thinking about her or at night thinking about this guys arms around her. I miss her touch, her kiss, her smile, her voice, the smell of her hair, her eyes, her doing the girls hair, her laugh, when we made love, but most of all her love. I feel I have failed myself, her and my family. Maybe now she has found a guy that can take care of her like she wants. I am going to go back to school, hopefully early childhood education, I would like to work in a hospital with sick kids. Thats my goal. I want to show her that I could change, that I am changing, that I could be the man she wanted and so much more. People think I should be mad at her, but I'm not, I love her moe then anything, more then life itself. I would die for her. Maybe down the road she might find love for me again like she once did, maybe she won't. But this I do know, I will wait for her, I don't care how long it takes, months, years, till I die. I will be waiting for her, and I always will be there for her. I love her.

I posted a few times about my wife saying she needed space, then i find out one day after seperating she moves in with a guy 20 years older then her. Now here is the thing everytime she talks to she is always angry and mad. I asked her why are you being like this to me and she said its the only way to get you out of hear and points to her head. Does she still have feels for me then, is she feeling guilty so she is always being mad at me for reason? Any advice on what to do?

Thanks, its just hard not to think about her, I'm home alone with my kids doing the best I can. At night its hard because I am alone knowing she is sleeping in this other guys bed. I just don't know where to go or what to do. I took the kids to the park and zoo but I also found this hard because I saw families taking pictures and I am there by myself with the girls with no one to share it with.

About three weeks ago my wife said out of nowhere that she doesn't love me anymore, I have had the kids since except one night she took are four year old girl for the night, the next day my daugther said mommy was kissing ken. I asked my wife is she seeing someone she said so what if I am I don't love you. I want to be strong for the girls since I have them all the time but I love my wife still and miss her, I want the family back.

My wife left me for another man, I cry everyday and just walk around like a zombie. We have two little girls that I love very much and are the only thing keeping me going. But lately I have had suicidal thoughts, I just can't stop thinking about her, why did she do this to me. I don't want to go on without her, I'm scared, alone and just feel done. I want this pain to go away but it just won't.

The weird thing is i still love her and miss her, I mean she doesn't even call them to say goodnight. This isn't her she has really changed, her age is 32 and the guy she is with 52. I am kinda of worried that this guy brainwashed into thinking her life would be better without me and he keeps her busy or doesn't bring the kids up so he can distance her from them. Its just not like her. I think he is using her for sex, what does a 52 year old want with a young girl with little kids. Most people tell me to move on for myself and the kids and maybe down the road she will realize she is wrong and come back but that will be my decision to let her or not. I broke down and cried couple of days ago because my 4 year old girl gave me a picture she made at school and it was my family, it had daddy,mommy,her little sister and her, it broke my heart, I just don't know what to do.

She was cheating on me with a guy 20 years older then her, she said its over and she is now living with him. She has only seen the kids twice in three weeks. Is this really over or is she going threw a mid life crisis or something.

I posted a few days ago saying my wife wanted space and moved out. For the awhile she didn't tell me where she was, when she finally did she lives with this married couple. The guy that lives there dad lives next door. My one daugther spent the night there with her, when I asked my wife who all lives there she wouldn't tell me, but my daugther told me his name and said mommy and this guy hugged and kissed on the lips. When I asked her about this she denied it and sayed I was being a jerk, then when I asked her to swear on her kids lives she is not with another guy she said no I don't have to, why should I. She also said our daugther is only 4 can you really believe what she says. What should I do, it hurts so much to know this. I still love her and hope she isn't even though it looks that way. I asked her is this over or are we gonna try to work this out by not living together, she gives me I don't know. She still has her wedding ring on, but should I take mine off? Should I hire a private investagator to get proof? I am so confused please give some useful advice.

She took the kids for the day and she still has her wedding ring on thats a good sign right?

hasn't seen kids for a week.

I asked her are we going to try and work it out, she said yes. This came out of no where because we where fine the day before and she gave no sign something was wrong.