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I personally like to play pool and have a few drinks.

I didn't but I guess everyone is different. My doctor advised me to be very careful the first month. That was years ago, but I think that probably still applies.

I'd have to say if you like this guy and he likes you don't let his mother run you off. Just don't expect her to be nice to you-kill her with kindness

Yep, just a common fantasy. I'm a completely straight "love the willies" kinda woman, but it is a little bit of a turn on watching two women. (IMO)

Sounds like a real psycho! Yikes, thats scary. Maybe you could change your number, and move if possible. I would say, call the police, just to inform them. They wont do anything about it because a) theres no proof, b) hes never actually physically hurt you and c)hes technically done nothing against the law, at least that can be proven. But do it, just so they have a record of it, in case something happens, which I hope will not.

If its an option for you to move, I'd say MOVE!

Yes, report it. Like luvursmile said, they won't do anything, but it will be on record.

He's does sound psycho! Change ur # and keep your guard up. People like this, you never know what they're capable of.

What difference does that make?

yeah, what difference does that make?? It was a dream.

snowgirl: Don't worry about it hun, I've had dreams like that. Last wk I dreamed that I killed my best friends Grandpa. It made me feel kinda weird at first, but they're just dreams.

I agree with Beec. If she's being playful, then play back.

On the other hand, if its happening in public she may not be comfortable with being affectionate in public. I'm kinda that way.

Congrats hun! I am in recovery myself. Same DOC. 5 yrs 7 months clean!! remember, staying sober is a constant battle. Don't ever let your guard down.

Proud of you!

Well, I think the golden rule stands here, "you want what you can't have". Don't make sex so available to him. See how he responds. And in the mean time, getcha a rabbit

well, i think it depends. a lot of people do dumb stuff that after they have grown and matured, they would not do. ie, just because a man cheated on his gf when he was 18 doesn't mean he'll cheat on his wife at 28.

I agree with Annie. I cheated at one time, but the pain and guilt it brought there is no way on God's green earth I'd ever do it again.

We want a guy who both respects us and respects himself. A guy with balance.

Exactly, balance. Definitely not a pushover. I like the fact that my b/f is the MAN of the relationship. While he still keeps my feelings and opinion in mind, he takes the wheel.

Sex is important. If I were allergic to sperm I'd probably take my chances and do it anyway.

 

What kind of a life is it if you never experience d**k?

Amen sister!

If you want her completely out of your life, then leave her completely our of your life. Don't contact her even with a thoughtful message. If she does try to contact you, don't answer/don't reply. Simply walk away from all encounters. In the long run, it would be cruel and hurtful to her for you to open the door even a smidge. And spend the effort contacting her if you don't want to?

I agree, you've managed to stay strong so long. Don't give in. She should understand not getting a birthday wish from you. You two have been out of touch for 7 months.

Don't go backwards.

that a girl!

I'd say let it go. It doesn't sound like he's gonna be man enough to tell you himself. And don't look to him for closure, you won't find it there.

Ask yourself-do you really want to be with a man that can just ignore someone he supposidly loves instead of being honest with them?

Um, I'd say hold off on the rose. As far as the kiss, don't worry about planning it out. If it feels right, go for it. Good luck!!

oh honey I'm sorry. It hurts so much when you don't have any answers. I have to say it sounds like he's trying to avoid the whole break up discussion. Obviously he's alive, he should have responded to you by now.

How long have you too been together?

Welcome to ENA!

K sounds like a basket case. I would have been upset too if I were you. Blow it off. If it makes you more comfortable not to be around her, then distance yourself from the couple. Don't worry about it. Be the bigger woman and let her act like the idiot.

everyone has their little "issues or habits" but please try not to let your issues with your step-father and other men influence your relationship with your father. Try and focus on good things about him. Because you never know when he could be taken from you. I lost my biological father 3 yrs ago and my step-father almost 2 yrs ago. There are so many things I wish I would had and had not said.

If she makes contact again and its in a flirty way, then just tell her that the fact that she has a b/f that she "loves" makes you feel like you two should be completely PLATONIC.

Thanks Sparkle and Michelle.

 

Yes I posted because I got dumped the beginning of the month. I have held strong though. Initially I DID cave and send a few emails to get out what I needed to for closure, but now I am accepting it is over and I even went as far as to change my phone number, so he does not think he can "check up" on me. Hehe..I have learned something from reading these boards.

Good for you! Stay strong hun!

Welcome to ENA!

Well, I think she's one of those women in a relationship that may not be completely happy, but doesn't have intentions to break it off. I think she likes flirting with you and knowing that you're interested b/c it makes her feel good.

But she's got a b/f, I'd say back off.

well, I'd make one attempt to tell her it wasn't you that wrote the email. But if she doesn't listen then all you can do is accept it. In my opinion, if she's breaking up with you b/c of this list, then she was looking for a reason.

Well, she is family and I'm sure she just wants to help you. Did your g/f know that your sis wrote that?

I didn't EXPECT to hear from him, but I wanted to occasionally just to know he was doing ok. I still want to. And there are times I want to call him, but I don't b/c I want him to keep being ok.