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We've been together for 8 months. I got him cologne-Unforgiveable. It smells sooo good. And a bottle of Hennessy. That's all. I'm hoping for something like a watch or jewelry. Something I can wear every day.

He is trying to get the heat off himself by making YOU feel guilty. Don't let him. What you did wasn't the most effective way of going about things, but nontheless you had your reasoning.

 

Like the saying goes. He made his bed, let him lie in it.

Yep, he is trying to turn the tables and focus blame on you. DON"T LET HIM. You're not a door mat. Don't let him walk on you.

How old are the two of you?

I guess the real question here is does she make you happy? Do you want to spend forever with her? Can you imagine your life with out her?

I like to have at least 3 candles lit when we're making love. Its almost as bright as a lamp, but sooo much more romantic.

Stay strong hun, and don't respond. Try to practice strict NC. And those damn love songs, they suck.

You have to say "2007 is going to be MY YEAR!!!" good luck.

Is that the only reason you want to be with him? Isn't that really doing the same thing that he is? If he started to put on weight would he be less attractive to you?

Hmm, good question

Yes...I met his Mother after we started dating. He is very close to his mom...and yes, I realize that it was a big thing. I have dated people who never even introduced me to their families...(meaning they did not consider me for the long term) His mother likes me. He is otherwise a very sweet person...I just do not know if I want to end up married (again) to someone who watches what I eat and asks when I am going to the gym. I would never tell anyone else what to do...or try to control their eating habits, etc...

I have achieved near body-builder shape with the washboard abs in the past...I know I can do it again...but when I do...it HAS to be for ME.

How long have you two been together?? I've been with my B/F for almost 8 serious months. He's never mentioned me meeting his family and has had plenty of opportunities. So yeah, I'd say he does care about you....My outlook on apperance-I want to keep myself up and in shape not only for myself but also for my man, but I don't feel any pressure from him about that, at all. I don't know how I would deal with that.

I have a B.S. and a stable, good paying career. I dated this GORGEOUS guy for a little while. He had a GED, worked as a waiter, & lived at home. At first he was wonderful to me, so none of that mattered. But then he became a jerk, and also made it clear that he didn't plan to do anything else with his life-which made him completely unattractive. I got rid of him, quick.

I have become a little older, a little wiser and my b/f is also a college graduate with a stable career. I want to marry someone as ambitious and goal oriented as I am, nothing less. Just my opinion.

With my b/f I waited til we'd been together for 3 wks. I know that's not really long, but I don't regret it.

Careful with the teeth, be gentle.

Oh, find a position that's comfortable for the both of you. IE: Have him sit in a chair or stand while you kneel in front of him.

I agree, swallow. You've already got it in your mouth, it won't kill you.

Well there you go. Sounds good. Gift cards are good, and they're not too personal either.

Hmm, 6 wks..............Well I think cologne is a good idea. Fisch is right, whats he into??

I would have said "I stopped by to bring you Starbucks but your classroom lights were off." Did you bring it up at all???

Its ok if you're not ready hun. Don't feel pressured or like its something you should do b/c it feels like the NEXT STEP.

Its wonderful that you are in love, but that doesn't mean that you HAVE to have sex.

Its also good that you're afraid of pregnancy-and don't forget STDs. That means you're aware of some of the consequences of sex, and you're not irresponsible.

Only do it when you're TOTALLY ready. I wish I would have waited.

Wanna know a secret? I can't get out of bed in the morning until I've had an orgasm. It's better than a cup of coffee to wake you up!

Amen Sister!!

Welcome to ENA...........I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Infidelity hurts so much. And its impossible to forget, but if you chose to forgive and you truly want to continue your marriage it can't be something that you continue to bring up every time you get mad. Things will never work like that. Revenge isn't the answer either.

Have you thought about marriage counseling??

Better then breakfast!!! My b/f and I have sex every morning that he stays with me. We just don't do a lot of kissing. I sleep with my back to him and his arms around me. I can usually "feel" him wake up and we go at it from that position. We're not facing each other so morning breath isn't really an issue. Sometimes I sneek out of bed right when I get up and brush my teeth before, then he'll do the same.

I agree with Batya for the most part. My ex of 6 yrs did not have a college degree, but he had a trade. He owns his own auto repair shop, and does very well. He knew with out a degree he would have to go into business for himself if he wanted to be successful. No everyone is talented enough to do that, so education is very important. I want to instill those values into my children.

I am attracted to men that are driven and ambitious. I have to admit, the fact that my man is a college graduate and has a career, I find that extremely attractive. I also have a college degree and a career and I want my man to be at least equally driven in life.

I am a successful young woman but I'd like to know that the man I marry, when we have a family-that I can then stay home with our children for a few yrs and he can provide for us financially.

That's just my opinion.

Redrose, you've got a diamond in the rough.

Welcome to ENA!!

I think you should definitely seek professional counseling. Obviously its effecting you now, so there is no problem with dealing with it by talking about it.

Hmmm, well sounds like she's a little dramatic, plus the martinis, plus maybe feeling a little rejected. Let it breath. It'll pass. As long as it doesn't continue, I wouldn't worry about it.

I understand your insecurities. I told my b/f "I love you" first also at the beginning of october, he did reply with "I love you too". We've said IT a total of 3 times since then and each times I've said it first. I've promised myself I won't say it again til he says it to me. That way I know he's not just saying it as a reply.

We all take a chance the first time we say "I love you" but we should never expect to hear it back. When I first told my b/f I didn't wait for a response, I just wanted him to know.

Beec is right, be a little aloof. Give it a little time.

Hey girl.....I suggest Weight Watchers. I've known so many people that its worked for. And, once you've reached your goal of weight loss, you don't have to count points forever-just continue to eat like you did when you were counting points. It becomes a way of life. And its healthy b/c you're still getting the proper nutrients. You aren't depriving your body of certain food groups.

With my most recent ex, a couple of months into the relationship we got on the subject of masterbation and she said that she never does it... as a lot of ladies do!

A while later she said something during sex along the lines of "my ex James used to like it when I did this...." before doing something to me... after we had finished making sex I said that I didn't want to know about her previous sex life thank you very much.

 

Fast forward a couple more months, I'm helping her move house and come accross (no pun intended) her small collection of vibrators.

I smile and say "Hey, thought you said you didn't masterbate?"

she said "I don't"

I say "really, then what are these? paper weights??"

she then says "You told me you didn't want to know about my sex life with my ex's"

 

 

 

Ewwwwwwwwwwww

If a woman says she doesn't masturbate she's LYING!!!