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Are you the woman in this story? If so I am soooo sorry. And I know how you feel. I'm going through something soooo similar. I wish I had good advice. I snooped through his phone to find that he's been calling his ex girlfriend. I too thought that things were great between us. And now....who knows.

You've got proof here though. The emails, flirtatious and sexual. That's all you should need. Leave him. If I had that kind of evidence I'd be rid of him.

I quit smoking when I was 25. Dropped it cold turkey. I did well. Just last year was so bad, I needed a crutch so I took it up again. Right now I'm using a Miswak. That's a "muslim" toobrush made from a tree twig. It works, and I can sit outside brushing my teeth. That's been helping me a whole lot. In addition, it makes my breath fresh.

As I stated before, I don't want anything prescribed or I don't want to get into using patches. I'm afraid that I'll end up moving from one addiction to another. Not for me.

I guess I'm doing good with quitting, but whenever I get stressed or think back to last year, I get not the craving, but more the impulse to smoke. It's the impulse that is my problem.

So quit cold turkey again. That's the way I quit. Smoke free for over 5 yrs now. I don't believe in patches or gum. If you want to quit something you just have to DO IT.

Good luck!

But theone rose diea is way too cliche and should only be reserved for instances when you really are in love with someone, and it's all known, and two weeks is much too soon for that. So, no to the rose.

 

I think you're right Beec. The ONE rose is very very romantic IMO. I'm not big on Vday, but if he's gonna get something, just one simple rose is what I'm hoping for.

So yeah, it would be too romantic for 2 wks.

For me, I had changed...grown. He hadn't...couldn't-wouldn't. The person you are at 17 isn't the same person you become later. And...there is a certain point when you just tire of the constant fighting and battles...power struggles...so you just end the war.

Same here.

Hmmm....I think that's a pretty extravagant gift after just two weeks of dating. Some people might be uncomfortable with that. At this juncture, I'd honestly just go with the roses. It may be cliche, but she has already told you they're her favorite flowers, so you know she'd like them. I am sure she would like a visit at a day spa, too, but she might feel a little taken aback at such a lavish gift given at such an early juncture. Unless things have gotten pretty intense very fast for you two.

I agree with Scout-spa is too much too soon.

I'd say one long stemmed rose and dinner.

Casual enough for two wks, but still sweet.

Yea, is it thinning? I have long thick hair and everytime I shower, dry, or brush my hair, soooo much comes out. When I'm done drying my hair my bathroom floor is covered. I vacuum my house twice a wk, and by the 3rd vacuum the "CHECK BRUSH" light comes on b/c of the hair. Mine definitely isn't thinning though.

I know its annoying but I think its normal.

If the person whom is withdrawing is a lover then I'd say don't chase them. If they're looking for "space" you must give it to them, otherwise they will feel suffocated and trapped and withdraw even more.

I don't do anything special for V-day. I've been dating my b/f for 9.5 months, so this will be our first V-day together. But we don't have anything planned. I'm not getting him anything, and I don't think he's getting me anything. Birthdays & Christmas-both are appropriate for gifts, V-day-NO. IMO.

To me Ground hog Day has more importance

I am also a woman, but I know what makes my man happy: lingere-Saturday night I dressed up in a lace nightie and my heels. I left my heels on-it drove him crazy.

dirty talk, telling him what I want him to do to me

soft kisses all over

leaving some light on so we can look at each other

making love in front of a mirror, watching each other.

a gram a week = 2 joints a week. that's not chronic..that's like saying 2 beers a week makes you an alcoholic.

But beer isn't illegal.

If you're of legal age, you can't get arrested for having beer in your home.

My ex of 6 yrs use to smoke. We both did when I met him. But I didn't really enjoy it. I quit by the time I was 20. He didn't.

Let me add, he's 6 yrs older then me, very ambitious, owns his own body shop, made a VERY good living.

Our relationship got more serious, we started looking for a house together, talked about marriage. When I was 21 we found a house. I told him I'd only buy this house with him if he quit smoking. I didn't want it in or around my house. So he quit. 3 months later I caught him smoking a joint in the garage. I sent him packing to his momma. I meant it. I did not want anything like that around my house. He finally actually quit and I let him move back in.

My point being, I understand why see's against it. Do what you want, but don't be upset when other's don't approve, esp. when it comes to drugs.

why did you break up with her?

My b/f and I have also never really had a fight. We've been together for 9.5 months. Though I've had some "issues" with some of his habits (IE: always late, crazy ex...) we've never had an actual argument.

At first I was sceptical like you, but I soon realized that maybe we're some of the lucky people, who don't have to argue to make it work. We talk about things, and how we feel. We don't keep things bottled in. We respect each other.

When I'm with my girlfriends and they're nagging about their men, I just sit back and listen, I don't have anything to add.

I know there will come a time when we do fight, but I'm definitely not scared of it.

Just enjoy your relationship.

that is very sweet, but if I was only one month into a relationship and the guy expressed his undying love for me, I'd get a little freaked out. Just enjoy it, you don't have to lable it.

No, the whole point is: I don't care. There is nothing to win or lose. I have no feelings for the ex. It's like... who cares. No...there is no superiority. Really, trust me, there isn't. You only think others feel superior when you're feeling inferior. Anyway, I'm just trying to help you feel better. If you're offended, well, ...whatever...

Yes! A wife most certainly has superiority over an ex-girlfriend who is now a friend.

It is very disrespectful of him, no matter how long ago they dated and how much he loves you.

I have an ex, we'll call him "D". We dated for a while, then did the "friends with benefits" thing, dated again, it just never worked out. We always remained friends, kept in touch, had dinner sometimes.

Then I met my b/f. He knew of "D" and the relationship that we had. Out of love and respect for my b/f I cut off "close" contact with "D", without him askin me to. It just wasn't appropriate. When I see "D" we still speak, say hello, casual small talk. He'll call on holidays to say hi, and see how things are, but that's it.

If he loves you and respects you, your man should do the same. And his ex should understand.

I think it's the work put in that people admire.

 

It's like a person who has money because of an inheritance versus someone who worked his way up there. One has to admire the latter more.

 

If someone is in great shape only because of genetics, and they never work out and eat anything they want, it's great but it isn't an accomplishment. While the person who works out and eats well shows that they are willing to work at something hard.

In reference to my post about my b/f-he eats what he wants but what he wants IS healthy. We're both that way. When I say eats what he wants, I mean he doesn't deprive himself when he's hungry, and does't take any supplements to enhance his size or strength. Yes, alot of it is genetics, but he played college football and is now a highschool football coach. So he works for it, just doesn't have to work as hard as some people.

I just think it's funny that people have a preference for people's reasons and methods of exercising.

 

If he's a sweet guy and he looks good, why should it matter whether he plays team sports or goes to the gym?

I completely agree. My man was born lucky. Built like Tyrese works out only twice a wk, eats whatever he wants. I hate him for it! But he's gorgeous and the kindest man I've ever met.

I think he has the right to go lap dancing clubs, brothels, orgies, swing parties.

 

The same way I have the right to walk away and find someone else that is not into that.

very well said

I prefer a bigger guy. I'm tiny and I love the fact that my man is built like a NFL player. It makes me feel more.....I don't know, feminine. I guess you could say I prefer a man built like Tyrese. He's perfect, IMO, his muscles aren't too big, he's in shape but not over the top.

Boyz II Men - Ill make love to you

LSG - My Body

Gerald Lavert - G spot

LL Cool J - Hey Lover

Lenny Williams - Cause I love you

Luther - If this world were mine

R Kelly- Feeling on your booty, I'm (freaking) you tonight

You know your stuff

"Twisted" and "Nobody" by Keith Sweat. "Sexual Healing"

Do alot of girls go out with guys that are 28 or older that still lives at home? Would many girls want to date and have a relationship with a guy still living at home?

 

It seems like if a guy whos 28 yrs old and still lives at home, it would be hard to get a gf and less likely to have a relationship.

My b/f is 28 and lives at home. He has lived on his own, just moved back home this summer from graduate school. I don't go to his parents house much: its kinda far out and they're older. But I do have my own house, and so he's always at my place.

As long as a man is ambitious, clean, and has a good job I don't see anything wrong with him living at home.

, I know my best bet is not to pound it but to lick it.

Beec, you have such a way with words

Welcome to ENA Randy.....let me just tell you from previous personal experience. The fact that you are "attracted" to another woman does NOT mean that you are not truly in love with your wife. But you have to use self control. You have to truly understand what the consequences of infidelity would mean for you and your family.

Your entire marriage would be ruined. Your child will end up spending his/her childhood at different addresses every other wknd. You would be crushing the life that you and your wife have built together. Your vows would no longer have any meaning.

My advice to you is STOP. I realize you have developed "feelings" for this other woman, but you are a married man, and a father. You have to cut off contact with the other woman. If she is any kind of REAL WOMAN she will understand and respect you. The fact that she has said that she "wants to be with you" knowing you are a married man makes me think she has no morals and no class. She's willing to be a mistress.

I've been on the receiving end of this kind of situation....it ruins everything. All the years, love, trust.....every bit of it is ruined. And those that stay together after an affair, its never the same.