anxietygrl

new york minute - don henley

If a packet of bc expires april 2006.....would you risk taking it now? Or just throw it away bc i threw away 4 packets of ones that expired this month.

it's annoying when people say "50 percent of people cheat." Is that really true..because if it is that is sad....or am I naive? yea i stayed out of telling the guy that his gf cheated on him..it's so bad though Iam pretty close to them and one of my friends threatened to tell him...and she went to his house and threatened him saying if you tell him you will pay for this...I mean what kind of person says that? I always thought she was a nice girl she still is but that one night will ALWAYS stay on my mind. I don't care if she was having problems within her family (thats what she told us) NO EXCUSES Her husband unfortunately will learn the hard way...he's such a great guy I hope she doesn't do it again.

Cheating is wrong in any relationship....marriage, long term, short term etc. There are no excuses. It's really sad about one of my acquaintances from school...we went to a dance club with her and she walked away with some random guy (this wasn't like her at all do this this) and we found her making out with him heavily. She was in a 6 plus year committed relationship. Her bf NEVER found out....years later they are married now and me and a few other friends know this info yet no one ever went forward to tell the guy. Everytime I see her I think about what she did....yes it was a kiss...more like heavy make out session....but It was Cheating. Do you think that was blown out of porportion? A kiss to me is so hurtful especially when your involved with someone else. I know some people define cheating in different ways....I know there are worse ways but kissing is still bad. What do you think? Also what do you do when you witness that ...do you tell the person involved or stay out of it?

anxiety and stress My dad's dog that he left with me and my mom...(he abandoned him) basically uses the house as a bathroom. I get extremely stressed out and start eating bc of it.

how to stop it? I swear im addictted to sugar I can't stop eating it arggggg

what did you feel when you knew it? I was very...and still very wearyof marriage especially when your really young. My parents marriage emotionally scarred me for a long time, it still does even though they are divorced. I started to think damn is every marriage like this.....does everyone end up unhappy and divorced in the end...is it inevitable? Everytime I went on a date, I have only gone on about 3...than met my bf of 5 years but back than I was soo weary of guys and I had no trust with them. I think it all goes back to my dad and how he lied, cheated etc to my mother. I swear I NEVER want to put myself in a situation like that.

absoluetly gorgeous...you go girl!

Hey he needs a therapist asap, Im like your sig. other with anxiety/panic attacks...it basically rules my relationship for the past few years. It's a horrible thing bc it affects EVERTHING. Therapy helped alot....please get him to go. Hopefully he will realize that its hurting your two and hopefully can resolve this issue.

In the end, you need to do whatever you feel is the right & best thing for you, and not let anyone talk or pressure you into doing otherwise.--> good advice shes2smart. I won't let people pressure me, in fact I laugh to myself when I see these people spending 30 plus thousand dollars on weddings....going into debt for a elaborate wedding...when in reality you don't need that put it towards a down payment on a house!!! Whatever happened to simplicity? My sister bought her gown at david's bridal forr $400 bucks! We are making the flower arrangements AND invitations. My acquaintance from high school was married when she was 21 ...she married a 25 year old (he's super flirty and had TONS of gf's and he even told me and some friends about his sexual escapades before he met his wife...weird right?). Everytime we all hang out she has these jealous eyes watching her man in his every move.....whats up with that? He's really nice and everything...and I thought this couple had it all but she really has issues with her man and they haven't even been married for 2 years. My bf and I won't think about the topic of marriage unless someone brings it up. As far as we are concerned we are very happy where we are now....we are young...he's still finding his way career-wise. I just got a new job that requires a lot of traveling which I don't mind. But we are changing together and supporting one another through the hard and happy times. That is what a relationship is all about supporting one another. Im glad my sister waited till everything was settled in her life to get married her bf and her were together for 9 years....now they have their own places...good jobs....they are happy and now want to make it official it's exciting, Im glad she's isnt marrying someone like my father...yuk! Very good advice here.

I have a unique group of friends I have to add, 1/2 of them had one bf/gf in their entire life and they married them.

I know Elektragrl...my posts probaly are confusing...i jumped from one thing to another from being annoyed at him to this. This hasn't crossed my mind inawhile...I just wanted opinions on it thats all. I understand what your saying though. Yes he still lives with his parents, I live with my mom too...and prob will for another few years, because of money situations. My bf isn't clear on himself careerwise and Im not either. We aren't comfortable with a unsatifying situation, we are just nervous (i think im more nervous than he is) about the whole marriage thing. 25 is way too young its just when I see other people around me marrying at a early age im thinking what the heck is going on here? I know we aren't ready for marriage, I just get annoyed at my friends who are jumping into it and than ask us over and over when are you going to do it? We don't want to jump on the bandwagon yet. "How would you know what that feeling is if you have only had first dates with 3 or 4 guys?"--> well the dates that I did have were the most horrible ones....I've know so many guys that are just so disrespectful and gross. When I look at my bf he's better than that...(except for that stupid immmature stuff that he does alittle bit im sure he will grow out of it). Im probaly picking at him too much...I haven't been a bed of roses either to him....with my constant worrying etc. We help each other, complement each other really well. I really enjoy his company...when I go out to the bars with my friends and we talk to people it seems like there aren't many decent, trustworthy individuals to spend time with.

shes2smart: thats great to hear your story the thing with my bf and I....we both NEVER experienced other people before each other. When I first met him I "felt it....that feeling you get when that person if the right one" kinda feeling. I dated like 3 or 4 guys (one date things) that's it. My bf was extremely shy before he met me and just had a prom date that's it. I felt this was great for us...both of us not knowing anything about relationships, sexual experiences we were both new to it. We experienced it all together. Five years later things are better and better, Of course we have our differences but we are so in love. We give each other space...time with our friends...my girls nights out...his guys night out. We get along great and are each others best friends. People always ask when are you getting married and that gets us nervous. How important is experience? Isn't a lucky thing when you meet that great person your first try? My bf and I have discussed...would we ever regret not being able to date other people/experiencing others before marrying? We may or maynot. I guess we will never know. I can't imagine my life without him and he feels the same. One time I said to him go on a date...just to experience a date...he did and he said he thought about me the whole time and it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. Im glad he did go on a date (i know it sounds weird) but I felt like he needed to experience a date-like thing. I don't know im rambling on but my question is..how important is it to experience others...dating etc? I feel like we are lucky because we don't have to deal with crazy dates...and all those experiences of bad dates, we are still innocent stuff like that...

My parents stayed together because my mom didn't want my dad to get custody of me. And for financial reasons.... I would of ended up with my dad....stupid courts...and my life would of been horrible. But since my mom stayed with him till i was 18, I ended up witnessing all the fights that mom and dad has all the time. That put a huge dent in my mental well-being. Marriage....can live and live without it lol

It's true many women focus soooo much on marriage ....i think marriage isn't as sacred as it used to be....look at the percentiles.. what 50% of marriages end in divorce! are we better off living with that one person the rest of our lives and not bothering with marriage.... I can count maybe 5 couples in my life that have been married for a long time..that treat marriage as it's suppose to be...a sacred union. It's a sad statistic.... No wonder the word marriage scares the hell out of me Your right men especially have so much to lose, you have to be so sure that it's the right person and they are in the relationship for the right reasons...what do you do...give them a lie detector test lol