dmntired

I don't think they were focusing in on the amount of money so much as the fact that you are still spending money period. I don't know if she broke up with you or you her ; but I will say that when you spend the time to buy someone a gift or put the thought into still providing for someone's needs it says a lot. Does your ex view the gifts as a means of control? Does she still accept them? Or does she think that that's the only way you know how to show affection. There are so many ways this situation could be construed: I dare to enter. Well you said from the start you decided to stop. That's a great start. And if you never felt used that's an even better one. IF YOUR HEART IS TRULY WARM AND GIVING YOU WILL MEET SOMEONE WITH A RECEPTIVE HEART. T-34

How can you completely forget about something if it's constantly reminding you it left? Is this really the lst thing you can do? If you are at a good place qand care for yourself and are not your past pains. Then why the torture?

Then why are you trying to convince her that you've moved on and that it doesn't fade you any more. Because it is clear that it does. It took a lot of time to write that email, not to mention all the thought that went into it. Are you still holding out hope? Because sometimes hope is all we have. And do you really need her to kill your last shred of hope and dignity if she doesn't respond? And if you really truly have moved on and don't care, then why bother? Love is an action word. The heart is a muscle. You just added a strain to an already aching muscle, by running that emotional typ-athon. Sure hope it turns out good for ya. Most marathons leave you tired and drained, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.

Go for it. The worst thing is if I coulda,woulda shoulda if the worse comes to past. Because even though I was at a really good place with our relationship when my mom passed, it would of been nice to see her still that one last time. And all people terminal need that permission to pass, be it good or bad. and whether it ended good or bad. The ill person is much worse off than you are. Because really whats worse than being in pain, knowing your going to go and losing a part of you everyday. They are in there own living hell especially if they are in excrutiating pain. Plus you will feel a lot better in the end and most likely receive the ultimate closure.

I know i'm new here. but some help please.

I was 18 he was 24. Not sure when it started. We were married about 5 years. Estranged. They've been married a few years. Problems started about a year later. We've been some sort of friends most of our divorce but there has been plenty of time with no contact. I've been with others and so has he.

I don't know what he wants or why he came back.

Man, I don't know where to begin. My ex-husband and I have been divorced for 10 years. He is remarried; and to the girl he was cheating on me with. Just recently, he was very unhappy with his current marriage. Turns out the grass wasn't greener and she was not the person he thought she was. We were seeking reconciliation for several months but it ended with the phrase "WRITE THIS DOWN SO THAT YOU DON'T FORGET!", the rest is irrelevant because those words were painful enough. Life goes on and so did I. That was seven weeks ago. 5 since we had last spoken. The problem is he's back again. Trying to win my heart so he says. He used my b-day as an excuse to come and see me, bringing beautiful flowers and a lovely card. A day that I could care less about. Our problem was that we married young, respect, and him not coming home at night. Since then we both have changed a lot, mostly for the better. The problem for me is that this is not just about good sex. We love spending time with each other and each others kids. We want the same thing for our lives and our children. When we see each other again it's like we've never parted. But we did. In short, I don't know how to be just his friend without missing, wanting, needing my husband. All of him. I go on with my life; he shows up. Why does this man keep coming back? Why does he feel the need to be my friend? Why can't we get closure? If he is so unhappy why doesn't he just leave the situation he's in. Im tired of feeling like this. Loving him, not having him. This not a place I want to be in.