NightsEcho

Hey my friend, I want you to realize that this post is coming from someone obviously much younger then yourself. As I am only 21, please dont discount this. In my opinion you cant blame yourself for not keeping her on her pedastool. I think you did the most importent thing anyone can expect. You continued to keep your family together and protected during hard times, and then granted time for your wife to sort herself off. You did it all right, and I look at you as an honorable guy. What else were supposed to do.....go through all this while juggling, riding a unicycle and singing a song? The sad fact is she has been the marriage for so long on this is all a experiment to see what else is out there....quite common. My parents went through a divorce over similar things. The question I want you to ask yourself is, if she was willing to do this and treat you with such disrespect, will you let her waltz back in. Stay strong during this difficult period. You seem like a stand-up guy. NE

Why would you be so concerned about a girl who can walk away so easy? NE

Thanks for the reply, Helo I have found your advice short, consice and clear. As a management student, I like your style 8) Anyway, thats what I figure too, like my mind taking care of business on a subconscious level. Kinda doing some work while I sleep. Anyway thanks for the reply, and if anyone else can help please add input.

Hey all, I have posted a couple times on here...and seeing as how right now I don't have very much time (at school) i thought I should ask a quick question. Background -Serious relationship 3 1/2 years, ended 7 months ago. -Contact dwindeled...no phone contact in 3 months....no e-mail contact in 1 month -She cheated on me (not sure at what level) and had another guy lined up -Still have feelings for her...but very upset and hurt -Been dating and having a great time lately Now my question is... We haven't been talking, and lately not been thinking of her at all. The last 4 nights in a row I have dreamed about her...either us fighting, or getting back together. The last 4 nights!!! I have never dreamed about anything four nights in a row...even wehen we broke up. Now nearly 8 months later...and after lots of NC these dreams all of a sudden? Anybody else go through something like this? NE

Hey, if you don't mind me asking why did the two of you break up?

Hello all, I am a 21 year-old male, from Canada. 7 Months ago, I went through the breakup of my g/f that hit me very hard. It was during this desperate phase, and asking Google for "Breakup Advice" That I came upon this site. I could spend hours rehashing the details so I'll break it into point form. - 3 1/2 year relationship to High School Sweetheart, ended when she found new friends, and needed space. - Within 2 weeks had a new guy, but I'm sure he was in the background to some degree for longer. - Strung me along for two months with I love you's and not being sure if we would reconcile -Found out from her best friend, that she kissed another guy...maybe more 6 months prior to breakup -Had Low contact and NC about 3 or 4 times usually lasting about 1-2 months. After all this we still sometimes talk on e-mail, and am still waiting to get some stuff back from her. She is moving away, and I have honestly killed most of the hope for reconcilliation. It hurt but I'm doing better. I'm in my 3rd year of business school, and I feel I have lot's to offer. Just kinda in Limbo. I have been dating, and did the almost obligatory rebound, but like most was merely a distraction. She tells me how happy she is, how busy, and how great her life is. I can't tell if it's real or not. My question is this. I went through th sadness, and also the period where I just drank and had fun, and hooked up and all that. Now I am at a point where I feel drained....and a lingering question of "now what?" I have had my fun, gotten over her for the most part, but am now not quite sure where to go from here. I can't party and hook up forever, but I did enjoy my vacation there. Can anyone tell me what the next sequence is. When do your emotions start coming back? Like they bounce and are on EXTREME for so long, then kinda go numb. Anyone else been through this? NE