Jlizzy

Well the thing that bothers me is being in a relationship and hearing this from my bf! It gets me thinking -ok well if that's your view on this then what does it mean for your female friends???? Also this topci generally expands into how the "I know how guys think" and "given the chance even a married man will take his chance"..what on earth does this say about MY man then? If he believes this...? What about if someday we're married? This is the second relationship in which I'm hearing such views! (The last didn't physically cheat to my knowledge but did write emails with a girl for a year about how much the wanted to f*** each other and the last emails between them was where they were planning to meet in person)

I made a stupid stupid mistake myself with my bf -I shared a bed with my mate whom I was visting (I wasn't aware of set up before I arrived) and this of course hurt my bf a lot when I finally told him some days later when we were together... (Another situation of no cheating but definitely a very stupid mistake). This happened at the two month mark and ever since the relationship has been rocky. I'm supposed to be moving in but am feeling forever unsure!

Rather than focus only on the relationship at hand I now want to see if I can figure out where on earth I am going wrong. I am seeing some patterns emerging that I really don't like. I was browsing through some other posts and I think perhaps one lesson is that I start off my relationships highly independent..and whlilst I never ever lose my interests outside of the relationship I'm beginning to wonder perhaps at the point when my partner complains about me not devoting enough energy/time/emotions into the relationship..I take this SO much on board that I become emotionally dependant and can't figure out how to roll it back! My current relationship -it was PERFECT for 2 months.More than perfect. The love, the affection, the communication. The messages I get from my boyfriend seem sometimes conflicted. Whether it's about plans, an issue in the relationship, or whatever it be. I now feel like our relationship is like that of a couple together at least 4/5 maybe even 10 years as opposed to 5 months. He regularly takes 6-10 hours to respond to my messages if at all. We don't have our long conversations about whatever the topic may be like we used to and I feel like he almost always has 10 things to do before we can have some proper intimacy. (Ie more than a little kiss on the lips but even just a bit of cudding up together is wonderfull!). I've returned to a point I once knew before in my life of questioning myself. Am I being reasonable, fair etc or not? I'm consntantly thinking about it and can't stop. And no I'm not as happy as I'd like to be. I was supposed to move in with him someone soon and had to break it to him yesterday that I'm not feeling as sure as I'd like about this. He told me he doesn't understand what the problem is, he doesn't know what he's supposed to do and he didn't realise things weren't good. (Despite having had 2 or 3 other major conversations like this this month). I'm highly confused and feeling at my wits end to be going back over stuff I thought I'd left in the past with my last relationship. PLease give me some tips as regards to this relationship and particularly as regards to where on earth I might be going wrong in general!!