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I find it really hard to be the one that still loves the ex. There are reasons why relationships dont work. We can't help who we love. He should have realized that you needed some space and not just taken it as a reason to leave the relationship completely. It sounds like you guys do more than see each other once in a while. So it sounds to me like you guys have a conection still you just have to identify what type of connection it is. After you figure it out you might be able to see a bit more clearly. Then i would talk to him about how you feel. **I know I really can't talk because i still love my ex to some extent...and am having a hard time dealing with the fact that i have to forget about him. or at least forget the feelings I have for him. because he will always be with me memories wise.

Guys are a bit afraid of their feelings sometimes. They feel that what they have to offer isn't good enough for the person they are with...they may feel they (their other half) deserves better. He seems like he cares for you alot but just doesn't know how to say it. So he runs. I would write him a letter telling him how you feel and mail it or email it to him. dont take it in person. Let him have time to read over it and think on it. Then request that he get in touch with you about it. Just dont push because it can force him to go farther away. this is only a suggestion.

You have to be comfortable around a person. If you are the flirting comes a bit easier. Just remember friendship is a good way to start a relationship. You can build from there. I am in a similar situation and i have realized that you have to have confidence in your self and accept who you are and things will come naturally. Just remember if you dont take a chance you will be sitting back later wondering.

High school loves are difficult. She could be afraid to trust guys on a personal level like that. Some girls are really confident with guys being their friends and protectors but when it goes to the next step they may feel like they are loosing the friend while gaining a boyfriend. If that makes any senese. I would give her time and space. I would let her know that you still want to be friends with her (if thats what you want) but dont push the relationship issue. Relationships take time. And can't be rushed. Hopefully this helps.

We discussed many times what was causing his distance he didn't want to become like his father (emotionally abusive, drunk, etc,) I told him he didn't have to be like his father. He is a completely different person. I told him I had no idea what that was like and that i may not understand but was willing to give him time and space. And every time i did he went for anther girl. But always came back to me. He would say what i wanted to hear to get me to let him back in and then once he got scared things were getting to close for commitment...he would toss me aside like i had no feelings and go for someone cheap. That made me feel horrible but i felt his inner battle. I just didn't know what to do. If i distanced myself i felt like i was being cruel and i also felt like i was punishing myself.

Patience...Patience is something that is hard to come by. Some girls like to take their time. I would sit down with her and ask her what she feels. If she is shy she may not say anything. If she has been hurt in the past she might get upset with you. But if you force her to make a decision too early you will get a result that you may not like. Everyone likes to feel loved its an amazing feeling. But dont rush.

Ok here is my issue...any suggestions are greatly appreciated. I was dating this guy for four years. We were friends when we were children. He was taken away from me when I was a little girl. His father up and took him in the middle of the night. Saying i hated him and never wanted to see him. I was only twelve. Six years later he shows up at my door and I just wanted to cry i was so happy to see him. It hurt me to hear what was said to him the night he was torn from my life. He asked me what it would have been like if it was me he had married instead of his exwife. I told him we will never know about the past but we could find out what the future holds. He was my first love. During our 4 year relationship we broke up and got back together over and over again. He meant the world to me and he treated me like i was the world to him. then after a few months he would start distancing him self and pushing me away. Then a couple of months later he would come back. After 4 years of the emotional roller costers I ended it four months ago for the last time. I am a very compassionate person. I try to give with all my heart and that is probably my downfall. I just wish i could get out of my head this feeling that I hurt him...I think he is probably doing just fine. But im still in pain worrying about how i treated him. I realize he is a jerk and deserved what he got but how do i deal with my own mind.