Leon

Yeah everyone will eventually return kindness it's just the way humans were made.

i think that's the problem right there. if you're ever too nice to anybody, they will take you for granted. and if you kiss up to anybody, they will never treat you with respect. stop trying so hard to earn their approval, and give yourself approval. as a general rule, people only tend to respect people who respect themselves. kissing up to people shows a lack of confidence, because is sends the message that you think you can't impress them without being super nice to them. it's nataural for girls to be attracted to traits such as those of an alpha male. it means the guy can protect her, etc. these "confident, dominant" guys don't try to kiss up to girls. i'm not saying you can't compliment a girl, or treat her nicely, but don't do it so much. if she wants something nice from you, she has to earn it just like anybody else who you like but you're not kissing up to. nearly anything feels more valuable when you have to earn it as opposed to getting it for free. now that by itself isn't going to make girls flock to you, but you are going to find it near impossible to attract a decent girl if you always kiss up to them. yes, possibly in an ideal world, girls would be assertive and guys would be too. but the world isn't ideal, it's not made of sunshine and chocolate. you can look at all the unfairness in the world and get sad about it, or you can take advantage of it. it's your choice. if you keep on thinking negatively, all you're doing is limiting yourself. I don't think anyone has to earn respect, everyone deserves it. I can tell you that a lot of my friends I made during highshcool were by me repecting people who at first didn't respect me. People started wondering why I was so nice to them when they thought they didn't deserve it. They thought I was different. Now I can rarely have a weekend to myself because everyone wants to do something with me. Humans don't always take things for granted. But a lot of people do. I can tell that a lot of people use me for my attitude but I can't help that. No one "earns" the right to be treated like a human, everyone should be naturally. Now these were guys, all the girls I knew did it because they liked me, I didn't like them (like that) so I didn't care. I just find it funny that when trying to make someone seem significant it doesn't work out.

actually a friend of mine was involved in a relationship with someone signifigantly younger than him. It didn't work out too well, its better that two people have more in common i guess. People around the same age tend to experience the same things.

eh, i do it with no intention of flirting sometimes...

Well I'm pretty sure I can get over her if she isn't feeling for me anymore, because I only got attracted to her through trying to figure out if she likes me, and I know her friends... There not the nicest girls... Well her common firends, I really don't know she has many different friends like I do, I just don't make myself known.

Huh well there shouldn't be a need for hiding things in the first place like should be no need for war in the first place. But thats just idealology...

Thank you! I'm glad someone took time to read it and try to help me. Yeah, I don't really no why I'm worried cause I don't have anything to loose. I usually don't think this deep about things, but this girl has been weird to me for a long time even before I had a thing for her. I would just say something to her (about class) and she wouldn't say anything. Just a smile. I guess I'll give it one more try then go on and pay attention to more people. Thanks again!

Yeah, I'm 17 and there is this girl I liked at my school for a while now. I tried talking to her and things seemed a little ify. At first it was just a crush and I thought there wasn't any thing mutual. I let my feelings slide for a major part of the school year. However, during my spring break one of my firends told me that he over heared her talking about me while at his locker. He claims she "thought I was really nice and that I was a little shy but she'd work on that". Or somethin' like that.. He also said her friends didn't look to thrilled. I don't care what they think though. It was at this time that when I saw her in the halls she looked kind of sad about something. I decided to try and ask her if she was okay. This, is when the confusion starts. Her eyes got really big and I noticed that her voice had more life in it. See gave me LOTS of eye contact. Now I'm okay with that, but the problem was that I wasn't expecting that kind of reaction from her. So I had a hard time saying something. She started to leave for class and I had to get something out of that convesation so I complmented her. She seemed to be only a little flattered. Of course this was a VERY lame line because I didn't have time to think of any better compliments. Again that day I was talking to my firend as we were leaving school and she was walking towards us. I didn't want to bother her anymore that day with my antics so I just smiled. She didn't really avoid me, so that was good. We have classes close together so I saw her a lot in the hall ways. When she was by her self and see me she would just smile at me and keep eye contact until we pass eachother. One day I was really happy that I got an A on a math test so when I saw her I waved but all she did was smile. I started to forget it again. But I noticed that she was upset again. She was also randomly changing friends. I decided to write a note to her, cause we both didn't have the time for talk. The note was pretty down to earth (not much mush). I had my friend give it to her. From what they said she seemed like she appreciated it, despite her friends bad attitude that day. Agian after the note she did the same old smile in the hall ways stuff, but she did start noticing me in the hall ways when I wasn't even close to her. I left the school year feeling a little bit skeptic. She really has a different attitude when she's with her friends than when she is by herself or around me. This is where most of my problems spawn. I don't know which side of her is true. When she's with her closer firends, she is really wild and crazy, and talks A LOT! But when she is by herself she seems really quiet and isolated, and when she is around me, she is quiet and won't say much. But I don't understand this because she is the vice president of the our highschool class and she does a lot of stuff in the school. I don't consider myself intimidating (That's hilarious if she thinks I am) infact I'm quite the opposite. I can be very well considered socially inferior to her. I definitely don't consider myself bad looking, but "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" so... I'm about to start up school agian real soon, and I was kind debating on whether I should go all out and talk to her more in a more out-going way instead of being ify. But I can't tell if things would go anywhere. I'm a very loyal person so when I'm interested in someone who appears interested in me, I DO NOT consider any other girls for that time we are together. I would like to know people's opinions and advice so I don't make a mistake about someone who may have deep feelings for me and I excuse them. Thanks! Sorry it was so long!

It makes me so upset when I see people freak out over races coming closer together. I don't know any evidence that points towards interacial realtionships. If anything they're RIGHT. I have seen so many beautiful people come from a mixing of ethics. I would like to know who defined skin color as a "race" because I would like to build a time machine and go back give them a piece of my mind! I wish I didn't have to share the world with those kind of people but, hey, what can I do?