sara-pezzini

do you have any way of seeing him?do you know where he works or hangs out or something?do you know people that know him?based on my experience with an extreme shy guy I'd say that he is just too shy to call,which is difficult if you are shy because what if you don't know anything to say?face to face is easier than calling,if on the phone the conversation stops is weird,face to face you can smile or whatever...on the other hand it can also be that he just said yes out of politeness...but that is not my initial thought,anyway I hope he surprises you and calls you,you never know....(or could even be that he is sick or on vacation?? )

then still my advice would be to think about it a few days,write the letter and get it all of your chest and then decide if you send it or not.....it can't hurt to write the letter...you DON'T have to send it...but by putting it all on paper will help you deal with it!!!

Yes I am glad that I wrote the letter,the situation was completely different but for me it was the closure that I needed!!!!but of course if you have doubts over his reaction,then you shouldn't...it can end up hurting you much more if he doesn't react...but my opinion is that you just don't throw away three years without an explanation,you deserve that...but that's my opinion

First of all,I am so sorry for what you are going through!!!!!my advice to you is to at least write the letter,put everything you feel on paper and everything you want to say to him...that is a great way to vent...and then you can keep the letter a few days aside,read it again,see if you still feel the same or that you want to add something and then see if you still want to send it to him....You can always write the letter without sending it..then the writing gets easier,if you know what I mean?I did that once too,just write down everything,thinking I would not send it...it's a great relief..and then after a few days I decided to send it,and I did...I wish you much strength with all this!!!!

thank you for your answer!!! your right!!! and also many people have said to me why rush?because you will only get your first kiss once,so why not take the time and wait for it....I really want to kiss him...but I guess everyone is right...I should just enjoy being with him and feeling loved...and take it little steps at a time! I will post any updates on the situation here too,since I'm going to see him tonight!!

I was in a similar situation,also a guy from work that is from another,not so open culture and where they are not used to women taking the initiative...and also he is very shy and so am I,but I started with smalltalk,"accidently"running into him all the time,talking about the weather,work or anything that came to mind,really we have had the stupidest conversations ever!!! but through that I began to realize that he also had an interest in me,also try talking to him about his culture and country,i did and he liked that I was so interested in his background(I even wrote him a postcard in his language,with the help of an online translateprogram,and he LOVED it!!! )and well finally I asked him to come to dinner and he accepted!!!!and there are still problems because of the cultural differences and our inexperience,but we are sort of a couple now and I never regretted asking him!!!!!!!!GOODLUCK

The whole story is too long and complicated,but since valentinesday I have a boyfriend,it's my first time ever relationship and his too!and we are not very young...I told him that I was in love with him(after months of doubting and flirting and so on)and he siad that he feels the same way about me,he is very a very serious guy and no player,and he is very interested in me and my life..but he also has many problems which he told me about,he confides in me,we talk very much and very often,and we are becoming very close...and allthough we both know each others feelings nothing has happened yet...probably because of lack of experience...I asked him if I could kiss him two weeks ago,he was nervous,but he said "of course",well I was nervous too so I gave him three kisses on the cheeks(which for me was a VERY BIG DEAL)next time I saw him,when we said goodbye I didn't have to ask or do anything,he gave me three kisses on the cheek while holding my hand!!and while all that is fine and for me already amazing,I really really really want to kiss him on the lips,or rather have him kiss me that way,and I don't want to be the one who has to ask for everything...and most importantly I don't want to scare him(while writing this down,even to me it seems a strange situation!! ,so I can only imagine how it must look for you guys!!)so I guess my question is,how can I get him to kiss me,or give him a kiss...I know that he is really in love with me and is not playing with me...It's just so difficult because we are both in our thirties and have no experience,and are both shy...curious if anyone has some good ideas about this situation...I can only think about kissing him right now...takes up my whole day(and night )thanks to anyone with any ideas!!!

hi swedeace,i wouldn't worry too much about him not calling you,since you already know that he is shy,this could be the reason that he didn't call...I know this from own experience...I fell in love with a very sweet and shy guy..at my workplace,to complicate things even more...I had a strong feeling that he also had feelings for me,and after a few weeks I finally found courage inside.I walked up to him and asked him if I could ask him something,he smiled and said,yes of course,(which gave me more courage!!)and I asked him if he would like to come to my house and I would then cook him dinner...He said that he would like that very much!!! Well I gave him my number so that he could call when he wanted to set a date(he was at that time very busy)He never called,and I got the feeling that he was playing with me,but I still had the feeling that he liked me,so I basically put my pride aside and asked him again...and again...and I am happy to say that since Valentinesday we are a couple!!!!still there are some problems but I at least know that he feels the same about me!!!!! so if I hadn't persued this,it wouldn't have happened because of his shyness!!!so you must decide for yourself if he is worth to "fight"for or not!!I wish you GOODLUCK...and don't give up hope too soon!!!