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i got a four page letter , and i was terribly in love. but when i thought about it, how could this person who i loved so much and did so much for have the nerve to write me a letter, she couldnt at least do it to my face. initally it was such a system shock, we were living togther and everything. but then i realized, that its not what i had lost that matterd, but what i had gained, a great experience with a great person, but not my future. dont ask why, becasue ultimatley it wasnt you, learn from the mistakes of this relationship and apply them to future ones. use this time now to become happy with yourself

after your break out of a long term commited relationship/marriage would you after a few months (3 months) date a person with the same first name as your ex. nothing serious just dating?

he wont be naked, just the dumb stripper. also keep in mind, sex is biological while love is more spiritual. the things you share in a realtionship with nobody else, is your love for each other, intimacy, secrets, desires, fantasies. and other things. nudity is nothing but exposure, thats why there are nude beaches.

when i was with my exgirlfirend during the 4.5 years, i was invited to a bachloeor party, but i did not go, mainly becasue i thought it was a stupid thing. what it really comes down to is trust. i trusted her, and she trusted me. she wouldnt mind me going to strip clubs, if she went along, but i was never the typed that like them, but we would go as a couple for fun sometimes. if you really dont want him to go, sit down and talk to him, honestly, and calmly, dont get nasty or upset,or he will get defensive. express your feelings on it. maybe even compromise, saying you will goto a strip club with him. but, most importantly, tell him how you feel without turning it into a fight or jealousy driven talking.

you should be proud of those qualities, and apply them in your next relationship, to be honest one of the most helpfull things i do , is date other women, meet new people. i dont have a lot of friends becasue i was in a realtionship so long, so i say hey, if u dont try you will never know. so i make sure i go out to meet new women atleast once a week. i dont date serious or commited yet, i just go out have fun get to know people, and if we kiss, we kiss. its all in good fun. at first it will feel weird like your cheating, becasue your like me, never cheated. but dont rush into anything serious. just go out and have fun, and what happens is you find the qualities you loved in your ex in many other people, and you will notice that there are better people out there, then one day we will meet our life partner. but like i said dont rush things. take it slow. meeting new women has helped me so much. i was very shy too, its a hard thing to overcome, but if you dont talk, you will never know how great of a person is out there

love is tempremental and whimsical, it comes when it pleases and leaves without warning. all love experiences are benifical, except to the person who becomes decitful or cynical of its departure - nepolian hill The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly. Buddha i know its hard now, i thought i was with the one who loved me with all her heart, and it ended, i lived with her for 4 years and it still fell apart. use this time to work on yourself, learn to be happy with yourself and dont depend on others for happiness. stick in there, time heals all wounds

the first time my ex left me i had the same problem, i was so focused on what i had lost than what i had gained, which was a great experience with a great person, but not my future. the second time when she split i had realized that and i would repeat that too myself, remember, things happen for a reason, and somebody is out there, that will make you happier than you can imagine, so dont focus on what you have lost, but what you had gained. enjoy life, you only live once.

im in a bind, my exgirlfriend left me back in january, and we had lived togther for a long time and well we were making a future togther, until she left. unfortanetly she went bankrupt and to help her i cosigned on a car for her, got her a cell phone and let her use my credit card. she has been paying the credit card off slowly, and the car loan, but i want a clean break. i was thinking of writting her a letter to give her x amount of time, say 6-8 months to pay me back and get the loans in her name somehow, or sell the car and turn off the cell phone, was wondering what you guys thought, despite her breaking my heart, i dont want her to hate me for doing that, but she wanted a clean break. i dont know, i know keeping it the way it is will affect a future relationship, so i want to fix this. thanks in advance

plezzz dun do that it will totaly screw up ur relation ship lol was kidding about the surprise part, my friend does that, its stupid

you cant plan a great first kiss, its something that just happens. my favorite first kiss was, i was in the park, and i was dating this girl for a couple weeksi was falling hard for her, we were in a park and we ended up holding eachother, and we just got closer and closer. her lips brushed my neck and slowly moved up, i started moving down to meet her lips, eyes closed, and a beautiful kiss. It was something magical if u want to be chessy about it ask her if she likes surprises, and then kiss her

the way that i had mastered this is to think positively, those fellings and emotions are coming from your subconscious mind and you must learn to control you subconscious. the best way i have found to do this is to repeat your goal constantly, before sleeping, after waking, write it down, so you can see it. read a motivational book such as think and grow rich by neoplean hill but the thing that helped me the most was knowing this quote love is whimisical and tempremental, it comes when it pleases and goes without warning, all love experiences are benifical except to the person who becomes cynical or decitful of its departure. spend this time improving your self, dont look at what you had lost, but what you had gain, you had a good experience with a good person, but no your future that is how i do it

i knew she was talking to somebody else rom her friend, after we slept togther she told me his name when we were talking, it made me sick to my stomach, i could never imagine talking to another melissa without thinking about her espically only months after.

im very proud of the fact that after telling her i we should keep our distance and if we are meant to be togther than in the future when we are both ready and worked on our problems, we would reunite as two strong people, and truly be able to start fresh. i was proud also that we were able to enjoy eachothers company and left happy, i spent the night and when we departed the next morning we left happy with eachother and understanding of what we have to do. i really dont know of many people who could do that. but it just regresssed my progress in healing unfortanetly. but i date other women, but im not intrested being in a realtionship, i go out to meet people and have a good time until i find the right person again

in lat august of 2004, my exgirlfriend had left me, because of my unacceptable actions (i did not cheat). the person who i had been living with for 4 years had decided to leave me after i got home from work. i was civil about it, and i helped her carry her stuff out to her friend and mothers car. i held my composure, i did not beg or ask her to stay, becasue i knew it was useless. This was the first person i had ever loved and she was leaving me. When she left, two hours later i was devestated. I couldnt breath, i couldnt stop crying, i couldnt sleep. everyday was as bad as the last. i couldnt stop thinking about her, we had been togther for so long and becasue of my actions, she had left. i was so focoused on what i had lost. i i mmediatley started talking to a psychologist, i knew that if i wanted to be with her again i had to fix myself. a month later she called me and we met, i had just started getting help and we started seeing eachother again. within a month and half she moved back in. everything was great, at least i thought, i was improving my self by getting help talking to the psychologist. i always made her feel like a princess. Then in the end of january 2005, i woke up gave her a hug and kiss as always and went to class, i came home later and all her stuff was gone all that had remained was a 4 page letter, a very mean letter. i had done so much for this person through out the years and i was left with a nasty letter being told she wasnt in love with me anymore. this time i accepted it and looked at the situation as a whole, a phenominal experience with a great person, but not my future. i had followed her wishes in the letter, never to talk to her or see her, call her bother her whatever less than a month later she starts calling me, im in the process of healing and i tell her please to give me my time and eventually her firend starts bothering me online her friend got a crsuh on me and wanted to start dating me all the while she was playing both sides and trying to get my ex to hate me. i was so worried that the memory of our relationship would be destroyed by this girl becasue now my ex was beginning to believe her friend that i was doing stuff behind her back, which i never even considered. so i asked to meet my ex in person to talk face to face so she would know if i was lying i meet her and and this 3 and half months after we break up and we talk i and we end up hugging, then kissing, it was bad i made a horrible mistake. then she called me the next day and we ended up sleeping togther. i had to put an end to it becasuse neither one of us wanted to go back into a serious relationship with eachother becasue we were not ready to. so i saw her again and said my goodbyes, spent the night and when i left we were both happy that we were able to share that moment in time. but the thing that makes me sick to my stomach is she told me that she is talking to another guy, and kissed a couple times that was it. the part that made me almost puke was that he has the same first name as me Justin! which is not common. this is my story, a story of where i knew my problem the first time and fixed it, but in the end it was her who had the problems. but i will never forget her or not love her, i will always look at it as a phenominal experience with a great person so now i continue my journey to heal as i remain single and reconnect with myself and become happy with me