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Theraphy would be a really great idea. Maybe counsling for the entire family also?

I'm going through a similar situation, I'm dating a guy that is 5'5" and I'm 5'6"1/2. He's a real sweet guy, he leaves me roses everywhere, on my car, at my front door. At first his height affected me but now I really don't think it's his height that's turning me off, it's just things he says. I'm leaving my options open, I'm playing the field right now because I am only 17, don't really want anything too serious and I think this guy does. He has his whole life set up already, he's 21, going to college, he has already made junior accountant in a homeland security company. He wants to buy a house next year...I'm not even sure whats going to happen in the next year, but ohwell...

1. Yes, I have met his friends. They all said that they would have never thought me to be only 17, not only because of the way I look but the way I speak. Plus they all seemed to like me. 2. Lets see, the story of how I met him. A couple months ago, my parents use to go to this pub alot, and I never went because I was always doing something else. One night, I went with them to eat dinner there, and he was our waiter. By the end of the night, my mom, kept telling me how much the waiter was looking at me but I really paid no attention to it. The Next day, my parents sent my exboyfriend and me to go pick up some wings they had order for a party. It's then, that I saw him again, that's when I felt an attraction, because he has a to die for personality. Well, after that, I came back to the pub for dinner, and that's when I got a job application because I did indeed need a job. The pub called me the next day, called me in for an interview and hired me. After weeks working there, The waiter still never made any advances, so I started making discreet ones, asking him for his screen name, giving him my number and etc. One night, when I was working, he came in off the clock, to talk and party with some people there. I kept trying to work my way thru the crowd to talk to him but I finally gave up and just sat down in a booth. At that moment, he came and sat next to me. And that's when he started speaking about the first night that he saw me, he remembered every little detail about that night. Then he said he hated himself that night after I left, because he should have said something to me and that now he looks at this as a second chance... 3. He's not married, he lives in an apartment with a room mate and a dog.

See It's because of questions like these, I come here. You further my thinking, let's see... He loves my writings, my mind, the way I speak, and the way I listen to all the problems he can't tell his other friends. But I've thought about it, I've thought what if it's all B.S...Would it really bother me? I'm not looking for a long term relationship, I'll be in the Navy in a year. I'm just looking for some company, and here's a question I can't answer, if he is just using me.. what is he using me for? I'm not sleeping with him, I havent done anything but kiss him and I don't plan to go farther any time soon. I've also shared this with him, and he didn't seem to care.

How do I feel? I feel fine, Between the two of us, we have perfect conversation. It flows elegantly. He is the most talented man, that I have ever had the pleasure to get to know. I love his scent, his music, his sense of humor, and the way he makes me feel.

Yes, about the age gap. I've went over the pros and cons of the situation a million times, and now I want an outside view. I want someone to tell me something that I haven't already thought of. I prefer someone that has been through this kind of age gap before or they're going through it now. Is there anything I should prepare myself for? or will it be like any other relationship that I've had?

Alright, I'm 17 and I have a relationship developing with a 28 year old man. I need opinions.

Thanks Roofergirl23 for your advice. and I mean I don't plan or want really to have sex with him. I treasure my relationship with him as just a mental one. IM me some time at CircusFreak96 (Anyone else can feel free to also)

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Hey - My bestfriend is going through the exact same problem so I'm going to tell you what she did, she's in love with her boyfriend and she developed a crush on this guy that is the exact opposite of her boyfriend and well she told the guy she liked him, and he was like "I like you too." So my question to her was, you don't want to cheat, so what did you expect? By telling him, what did you want to happen? And she responded "I don't know." So she kept seeing this guy, goiing as "just friends." and her crush turned into of a friendly love but this guy's crush on her turned into more of a real love. Now this guy still thinks she's got a crush on him, which she doesn't anymore and he's just liking her more and more so quite frankly he's getting screwed from the situation. So ask yourself, if you tell your crush you like him...what do you want him to say? If he says "I like you too." What then? what are you going to do then? But I do think you should definitely talk to your boyfriend about the way he treats you in front of people, maybe he's not meaning to do it..?

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What then? Who do I goto to cope? Do you realize how much this will hurt me? I have no one else. and I'm not just saying this..All the boys my age I don't trust. My relationships don't last for over a month because I push them away. My dads a drug addict. My mom has started a new life. My brothers are grown up and moved on..I've talked to therapists, I've seen psychologist ...I write poetry, I've been published. and I just get to this point where I say " What now?" and thats what brought me here.