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My ex and I broke up 3 months ago after a 7 month relationship-we are finally talking occaisionally as friends and had a great converstation a few days ago. I am dating someone new, and my ex knows this. My ex is also sort of seeing someone too. The ex had a lot of questions about my new interest-is it just curiosity, jealousy, or just being nice and wanting to know as a friend? I think I may be rebounding-I really like the person I am dating, but it is just not the same (I know it is never the same) as with my ex and I still think about my ex a lot. I just don't get that "wow I can't wait to see you" feeling....
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Any advice, tips, stories on coming out? How did you go about it, when did you know it was the right time, how did others react? I am out to only one friend and thinking of telling the family, but unsure and not ready right now-involved with a fabulous woman, but only my 2nd lesbian relationship.
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My ex and I broke up 2 months ago. Since then he has called several times-I have pretty much only responded to his calls, not initiated contact. He wanted to remain friends and wanted to date "casually". We have not seen each other at all during the past 2 months. I found out yesterday that he started seeing someone else the day he broke up with me. He told me this only after I admitted I started dating someone 2 weeks ago. He has been saying he wasn't dating in previous conversations, but obviously was. I don't want to get back together, but I am so angry that he lied to me (maybe he thought I wouldn't be as upset to hear about his new relationship if I was seeing someone, bu it doesn't make it any easier to hear that he basically left me for someone else even though I am dating again). He wanted to be friends, but how can friends lie to one another? I also think the "casual" dating idea was to get together to fool around while his new fling is away (lives in another state). I got very quiet on the phone and couldn't even respond-I have this urge to call or e-mail and say what is on my mind-I'm not upset about him dating someone else-just the way he went about it. Or do I just let it go?
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Should I go further w/ relationship?
chablis97 replied to EmilyE's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
I had a similar situation. I had a friend who was gay and confessed her feelings for me. I had never really thought about a relationship with a woman (only fantasies). We did end up dating for 7 months and ended up breaking up. I realized that I was much more attracted to women and am now dating a great woman. The down side is that our friendship is pretty much over. It can be difficult remaining friends after a more intimate relationship. -
My ex and I broke up about a month ago. It was mutual and over spending time together. I felt like she didn't want to spend time with me-seeing me at odd hours and always wanting to go out with friends on weekends. She felt like I didn't give her enough space and time with friends. It was weeks since we had seen each other and I was going away on business for a week-and she decided to go out with friends and we broke up. She called me after about 2 weeks and says she wants to date casually-she has not yet defined what she means. She says she misses me and wants to see me, but our schedules are both busy for the next few weeks. I have only called her twice and she has called several times. I am staying busy, but all I can do is think of her. What does she really want? Am I only prolonging my heartache? She said she loved me, but isn't ready for a commitment-doesn't love involve some degree of commitment?
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I assume it means we could both see other people-I asked her to define what she meant by casual dating-she needs to get back to me on that one.
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My girlfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago (7 month relationship)-she has called twice and now wants to date casually. I don't want to set myself up to be hurt again, but what if things do work out? I do care about her and I know she cares about me. I don't know what to do....
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Any ideas on where to meet other lesbian women in Philadelphia, PA area? Not looking for relationship-just don't want to sit home this weekend-want to get out, meet new people, maybe make some friends. Not sure where to go....
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I think I really messed things up
chablis97 replied to chablis97's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
We had been dating for 7 months-my first lesbian relationship. I do love her and she said she loved me. We broke up because she never had time to see me, but would always say how much she missed me and wanted to see me at all hours of the night/morning during the week. I was tired of not seeing her at least one weekend of the month. I gave her time to be with her friends, and I spent time with my own too. I just didn't want to always feel like the second choice in her life. She said she was not ready for a commitment, but didn't want either of us to see other people and would get suspicious say things like "did anyone try to pick you up? Are you seeing someone?" She did end up calling me last night-at first she was angry with my explainatin and didn't seem to believe me. Then we finally just chated about general things-I was out of town last week and she asked about my trip. She ended by saying she would call me-if it's ok. I said yes, but I'm not sure how this "friends" thing will work out. I don't want to sit around waiting-so I will continue to stay busy. People always say they want to stay in touch or will call and then don't. We did break up for a day once before-she was crying then and called me the next day saying she made a mistake. I know it really hasn't been working for either of us-maybe I'm not in love with her, but in love with the idea of her.... -
I think I really messed things up
chablis97 posted a topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
](*,) I broke up with my girlfriend of 7 months about a week ago. I haven't been able to get her off my mind. I have been keeping busy, going to the gym, etc. I was off work last night and decided to drive by her house-I don't know if I wanted to see her, talk to her, or what. I changed my mind and drove home thinking it was stupid. Well, she saw me. She e-mailed that she is starting to have bad thoughts about me and wanted me to explain. I e-mailed back and explained, but I think I ruined any chance at a frienship. I'm not even sure I want to be friends with her -how can you be just friends? Everyone says that when they break up, but it never really works. -
Thanks to all-I guess I really do want to talk with her, but I'm not ready yet. I hope I didn't ruin any chances of being friends, but I guess if we have a chance at friendship, she would understand. Yesterday was tough because I had the day off from work, and I started thinking too much. I have been staying busy and getting out of the house most days-I was out of town last week.
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I broke down and drove by her house-didn't want to call, but needed to feel her-she saw me-didn't think she would-she yelled to me in the car "what are you doing?" then kept calling my cell phone-left a message on the home phone asking me to pick up-I feel like such an ass-I never thought she would see me....how do i explain and what do I do? I just wanted to know if she was home-why, I don't know-I'm not a stalker and I've never done this before-why now?
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I broke off my 7 month relationship with a woman 13 years younger than me. This was my first lesbian relationship. She kept wanting to spend more time with her friends and never seemed to have time for me on the weekends. She would call and say how much she missed me at 2 or 3 am (she worked a lot of late shifts) and come over at these times during the week. I suggested we be friends, just date, and maybe see other people. She said she couldn't be just friends, didn't want a commitment, but didn't want either of us to date other people. She would get jealous and suspicious of me if I did things with my friends, but couldn't even find time to see me the weekend before I went away for a 5 day business trip. How can someone tell you on Thursday that she misses you and can't wait to see you, and then can't find time for you on Saturday? I can't do anything but think of her-in my head I know it is over, but my heart wants to hold on.... I think if we could have talked it out we could have worked things out. I don't know what to do to move on. I was married before and divorced, and although that was a difficult time, it was nothing like this. Where do I meet other women? Do I want to be with a man or a woman? She says she wants to be friends, but how can that possible happen? It is so hard for me not to call her...I feel like I am going crazy!