pumpkinpie

Be careful about using words like "all" or "none." Not everyone is like that. It depends on thier tempraments, life experiences, moral beliefs, and opportunities. My experience is that at puberty, I was like that, but in the following years (ages 13-20) I focused almost entirely on romance and not on sleeping with girls. Everyone is different though, so that is just my personal experience.

Would you consider someone who has masturbated but never had any sex with anyone still a virgin?

I am a very romantic with girls, but my sister seems to think that I am only into girls for sex. Even though I am very romantic, and sex is of little value to me. I am a virgin. But my sister thinks I only use girls for sex, and that I don't appreciate thier inner beauty. FOr me, I don't really care about how attractive or unattractive a girl is because I find all girls attractive. I look at the inner qualities. BUt my sister thinks that I am only in sex. She once asked me what clothing "turns me on". NO clothes turn me on. I only want to have sex with a girl I love. Passionate love is what turns me on. And I appreciate the beauty found in all girls, but my sister keeps insisting that I only like girls who are good looking. WHy is this? I can't understand this? I have never used girls for sex. I am a virgin. I just don't understand why my sister seesms me this way.

I heard in the news that somewhere in Canada some kids were planning a Columbine style shooting rampage but they got caught. This reminded me of when I was in high school. I was always bullied and was very angry and depressed and suicidal. I thought all the time of going on a shooting rampage. I was just so angry and so hurt. I understand how the Columbine boys felt. I sympathize with them. I was also hurt like that. Driven to kill. Fortunately I did not do it, and today I am much happier. I am glad I was detered. Life does get better and happier. But I know how others feel. If there is anyone on this forum who is thinking about going on a rampage, remember that you have your whole life ahead of you and even though you may be miserable now, you won't be miserable forever. Remember all the good things that will happen in the future: A wife (or husband), a career, kids, travelling, friends, eating, all sorts of fun stuff. But remember that you are not alone. I am glad that I chose NOT to go on a shooting rampage, though I felt like doing it at the time. LIfe does get better.

I don't at all love my family, and could care less if they dissappeared. They have mistreated me for so many years that I find it impossible to love them. Especially my father. He would always call me an idiot, a moron. He would say I didn't think. He always said I would never come to anything, and that no boss would ever hire me. Living with my family sometimes feels like being repeatedly raped. There has been no physical or sexual abuse, my constant verbal harassment. I only care about my mom, even there have been problems between me and her. But the rest of them I don't give a flip about.

1. Have you ever seriously considered committing suicide? (you can answer no and I will post that response too) During one period I did want to commit suicide. I was in so much pain. I would cry every day. I was so hurt. 2. What led you to consider suicide? I don't know. I was just in so much pain. It was the only thing I could think of. 3. What caused you to not commit suicide? I wanted to shoot some people in my school and commit suicide. But I thought I would go to hell if I did that, so I was deterred. 4. Do you have any advice for anyone thinking about committing suicide? Seek true friends who will be there for you all the time. Friends who are loyal and who will give themselves up for you.