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Aww so sweet. We've never done a cake before... I may have to try this ❤️ .

Our last house we lived in for over 7 years was amazing, huge yard, too for gardening. I think it's just that renting here is actually more expensive than owning believe it or not, which creates odd problems for the landlord and the tenant. And even the good management companies sometimes run into a landlord that only wants to spend so much (because she's really not making much profit), and it becomes a battle of getting them to take care of things, with the management being the mediator. We had friends who rented 2 story homes (nice ones!) who had the same problems... the owners rarely ever wanted to fix things, some even wanted to fix it themselves to cut corners because for them, renting isn't very profitable (they have to keep their prices relatively low enough or their customers will all just go and buy since buying really is cheaper here).

Wow, that's worse than I expected! 😬

Not trying to sell you on buying, I understand renting is more practical a lot of the time. 👍 Property taxes would be high where you are, right? Makes buying so impractical!

That's great. Very glad you don't have to wait long. Our last experience was why we finally felt the need to buy. Just way too hard if the management is bad (especially with multiple young kids). And moving is so much harder with kids, so you have to find great management and then hope the landlord doesn't switch. My husband actually enjoys having that ability to just do it himself now, he's taken over this job of handyman lol. I joked about renting again not long ago, and he was terrified 😂 I think that lack of control is not pleasant. He's scarred from the experience of bad management in renting. LOL

That is the hardest thing about renting, imo. Feeling that lack of control and having to wait on someone else to fix things....

😂 I think you're probably fine! I know you're not asking me, so sorry for replying, but I think a lot of men think or feel this way when they're picky, that's normal. My husband wouldn't have told anyone, but he felt lonely for a lonnng time before he met me. And he said even the moment he saw me at a BBQ, he was completely taken back and couldn't speak to me (not like him). I didn't even remember him from that first time, but he definitely remembered me. But he didn't feel like that almost ever. It was like a once in a lifetime kind of thing. I think we're really really lucky. No, Dias, I truly believe most people get into relationships even without much chemistry for some reason. It's their own reasons I guess. I don't understand it, either... it makes marriage or relationships appear miserable.

This is also from the China study Basically, the Wuhan Coronavirus (WHCV) has no known natural reservoir, and no known identical SARS-CoV documented, even though it matches 100% aa's to the bat coronaviruses, which is just odd. Sorry to post so much, it is so strange.

This site ( https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12035-020-02134-7) has a lot of cited studies on the initial findings of COVID 19, however I looked through and when it came to explaining the blood brain barrier problem, it frequently cites studies that are of a completely different kind of virus family (flaviviridae family which are ones like West Nile, Zika, etc. not at all similar to the coronaviruses). I wondered when I saw it kept referring to things like the olfactory bulb/nerves, which we already have found out is probably not the way it is getting in due to brain autopsies and there being no virus found in that area, yet in other areas. It is very misleading when it comes to that, because it seems to be suggesting these studies prove this about the COVID 19, when in reality it is frequently citing flaviviridae in those studies. This one study from Wuhan itself found here (edited https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-020-2008-3) is enlightening, even though they also suggest the olfactory bulb again, which there isn't any evidence yet of. It's notable that this study (edited because I switched it originally (https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamaneurology/fullarticle/2766766 )reveals the #1 treatment they use is both Chloroquine and Hydroxychloroquine, something our media freaked out about, but has proven to be very effective in treatment.

More proof it is coming from a breech in the blood brain barrier, meaning the virus was probably manipulated (not naturally occurring).

From the article they prove in one study using COV2, that they can infect neurons grown inside a lab (not human body). But it highlights that they still cannot figure out how it crosses that blood brain barrier:

In some cities the teacher's union was telling them to use the healthcare tab when registering online (some got in trouble for this), so it may some just clicking things like that, or maybe some of them really are in healthcare and need to get it early. The ones in healthcare that are exposed a lot probably should get vaccines because we know some of them have been getting a more intense version of the virus due to bio-overload amplifying it. I know someone in their 30's who was healthy, and she got it and it caused neurological damage (hallucinations, mentally ill thinking etc.), meaning it can somehow cross the blood brain barrier (I believe). That is not common with that family of viruses. Here is an article that cites a couple of studies marking these psychiatric problems that are not typical with coronaviruses, leading one to wonder why this one suddenly is causing it. https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-020-02599-5

My parents were finally able to get both of their 1st and 2nd shots, but it took a long long time. And they're in the high risk category where they really need them. I'm sorry you're having a hard time.

You don't look desperate to me. You're thoughtfully planning this out... I'm sure you know more about the situation than we do, AND you sound ready to nuke it if the red flags get too much. Good luck, I sincerely hope it works out for you!

In my opinion, from reading ENA off and on for a long long time, a lot of people do this. They are distressed by something, get advice they don't like, reject it, and then it happens again a few more times until they open their eyes. He may not be in that position, he may really know more than us about his own situation, though. But in general, people do not like taking advice they don't want to hear. They close themselves off to it, retell the story in a different light to make look not as bad.

LB, I remember your story from another post... I do think if you both give it time, love and understanding can grow. People in arranged marriages have love grow fairly regularly, not that yours was arranged, I just mean there is always the possibility you can work it out if both partners are willing to try.

I don't know... I've known some marriages where they are both incredibly happy with each other, and the man swears it's because he found an Asian wife that values things differently and treats him kind, respectful, loving, affectionate. It is possible, not sure on the statistics or probability.

I don't know... in my opinion they make better wives than the typical American woman/Westernized woman. American women are incredibly selfish... not that the women from the other cultures aren't that way as well, but sometimes, you can find a better one over there because the chances are higher. My mom does come from a traditional Polish background. I do accredit a lot of things that make me different from the average (terrible) American wife/mom is due to that EE background of valuing and seeing life differently. I think there are differences though between EE and Asian women that are important though. Both can be opportunists, but I'm not sure which can be worst about it... I'm certain it depends on the specific woman's character. I've seen Asian female/white male relationships work out great!! And go wonderfully. And then I've seen some that are terrible, some also where the Asian woman really puts on an act for a very long time to get what she wants. Personally, I've only seen Asian women be extremely and utterly ruthless... like to a scary degree. Russian women may be ruthless, but I'm not sure it is to the extent the Asian woman takes it. They have much higher IQ's, and really look down on Western males (sometimes... NOT all the time). I've seen it play out in marriages we know where if the white man isn't doing what he's expected to do perfectly, he loses the love of his Asian wife and she berates and humiliates him. But then American women/Western women do that all the time, too, they just don't pretend to be kind/respectful/interested first typically. I don't know Dias... it is a crazy topic.

Awww I've always loved libraries. I used to curl up in our university one and take a nap every day, it was my way of hiding from everything after being extremely social. Only a few close friends knew where to find me, and once I started dating my husband, he found me one time and I was curled up with my butt in the air (somehow LOL) and of course he made a lot of jokes about that, never let me live that one down. Ugh! But that was one of my favorite places!!! Now our house is kind of like a library. And we have a huge open space more than 20 feet high, with giant windows going all the way up, and bookcases coming down on either side... so it kind of reminds me of the library. Only there's no quietness (unless it's right now, during quiet time/naptime Phew! But generally it is nothing like a library... just a loud, crazy place with toys and tiny humans giggling and laughing, or fighting and running around like crazy. Not. A. Peaceful. Library. 😂

Reading through your journal in between my tasks is like my new guilty pleasure 😂 Like you already noted 6 1/2 years ago, it is really rare to meet an optimistic adult. Even realists aren't technically optimists. And when you actually study what optimism is, and I'm way too nerdy so I have tried this in effort to write a small book on the scientific benefits of it, you find out that they are very grounded people. They are not idiots. They are very much based in reality, get sad or depressed, yet have a resilient spirit that pushes through and still helps their life blossom even in the midst of extreme suffering. I actually don't understand how someone without faith in a higher power could retain their hope and optimism long-term? For me, I look at what gave people in concentration camps helped them not lose their hope and internal joy (long-term). Death was not the end for them, seeing so much death and evil right in their face, when you're deeply rooted in faith, you can face that kind of thing, knowing God is still in control. You can overcome much better and easier, if you know this life has more purpose to it, if you know you have a body, but are a soul. There is so much more to us (I think), than just the temporal.

Just came back to add that I probably sound bad here, but my mom is not one to flatter people, she's told me before when I looked "Veerrrry Tired!" lol so this wasn't some form of flattery, she doesn't do that LOL Optimism really shows. The energy beautifies the person from the inside out in ways we don't understand.

Don't worry about offending me... I'm very hard to offend generally. It takes serious determination to offend me LOL I have gotten along really great with non-religious people... have had two female friends who were prostitutes (one who had stopped though), and somehow we just really, "clicked." I don't even get it myself. The people I usually don't get along with are the ones who pretend to be Christian, but really aren't. And yes, I've listened to Christopher Hitchens quite a bit! But I love his brother, Peter Hitchens', take on things. Peter Hitchens is a Christian and I have his book, "The Rage Against God," where he explains a lot.

And I jest about this (above). I'm still very optimistic, but wow is it hard to continuously be like that with seeing what is going on.

Yea... I used to be a carefree, optimistic person until I worked in research and saw what I saw. Oh well.... LOL Yes, I've seen this. My poor husband's parents are extremely, "woke," they tried the wooden toy stuff, which I thought was kind of cool, but our kids were younger and it ended up hurting one of them with how heavy it was (forget exactly what it was, but I had to throw it in the give-away bin. LOL!!! A lot of the commands in the Bible had to do with cleansing and purifying ourselves, the food we eat, water etc. We're only just now discovering scientifically, how right the Bible was to make those instructions part of Jewish law. LOL!!! You are so cute!! I think it is your optimism. That is so rare these days, it's very rare for me to meet another truly optimistic woman who lives life to the fullest ❤️ I'm also an optimist... my mom saw me the other day (she drops by stuff and has refused to come in for over a year, till after getting the vaccines and everything), but she was like, "WOW! You look SO good!" LOL And I was like "What?!?" So I think it's the way an optimistic person has a different kind of energy they emit... it actually is measurable but I don't know much about that. There is A LOT of science about optimistic people though... they even heal much faster. And I've experienced that with my c-sections. All 4 of them, I heal and have no pain within 5 days. Even the day of the surgery, I have very little pain and can walk around and have tons of energy. I've freaked out the doctors several times because they couldn't believe I was the patient. So optimists are just different kinds of people. You have that... I can tell from reading your past journal.

You are smart (!), not many people know about his vaccine trials on the poor. How it destroyed so many of their lives, etc. And if they do, no one seems to care about it. You know he used to never give a penny to charity, and then the media blasted him for that all over... so then he started trying to care for the poor. I think he was actually genuine back then. From what I've read, from what I saw, he went around Africa and other places, and saw so much human suffering. It seems like it blew him away, the incredible amount of sheer human suffering... so he decided that there were just, "too many people." It was after that when he got involved with doing vaccine trials on the poor in those countries, damaging them, some dying. You can see it isn't that hard to jump to the, "solution," in his mathematical and anti-God mind, that if the problem is too many people, well... then of course the simple solution is to get rid of some, or a lot, of those people... through death or infertility. To me, this is the logical conclusion when someone 1) doesn't believe in God or that He'll handle the too many people problem and 2) takes matters into their own hands to play god. When they believe human life isn't really that important, or worse, that human lives are a negative sum because there are, "already too many people here," and are, "destroying the planet," then the only solution is mass death.