petitemarie

this guy is a jerk, i can tell from here. he was using you to see if could have youback, to see if he could control you after he put you through all that. i hate to be so blunt, but truly i find it horrid that he gave you an idea that he would be in contact and then left you hanging again. I know what that feels like, and i am startign tot hink it is really a kind of game that some guys play, that this guy, not unlike my ex, just wanted to see if he could still affect you. You are right to have said you are w/ someone new. But i bet that if you werent , your ex woudl stil have left youhanging for another reason; you have to be strong and not let old feeling come back,he made his bed and now he has to lay in it. he doesnt deserve you, really! he should have been more mature about your breakup and told you all of the reasons why and if he was goin gto contact again he should do it in a way that is more mature at well, which is not to leave your heart messed up again. i am sorry, i know i am a little bold on this right now, but i really was right where you are and i realize how I let myself get walked on again after accepting a breaku with no reason. life gave you your new boyftriend for a reason, even it if is just to let you get through what the old one is tryign to do to you now, but be strong and dont let the old one play games making you wait for him and hurting in themeantime.

trust me is can work, no matter what situation is in front of you, if you want it you will do what it takes to keep it; i have had a long distance relationship for 4 years, and one with a foreinger for 2 years, i lived in his country, and one with a foreigner who lives in the states, the one who just left me cuz i went away for é months; but regardless, anything is possible with the right will

i am exactly in teh same boat, my ex left me becaseu i had to go to europe on a trip and i am still here, i was only to be gone 2months; When i came here i was pregnant, i lost the baby here alone and he broke up woth me on the phone. But like you mentioned, he had already lived a long distance relationship, and just decided that he woudl not do it again under any circumstances, even though we were engaged and pregnant. Please tell me how you are dealing cuz i am a wreck over here still , alone; it has been exactly a month sicne i lost teh baby and him. it sucks that this can happen, i mean distance isnt the end of the world!!! it kills me how unjust it is that someone cant support you in doing things that may take you away but there is always a return, and i just dont understand how someone can let go when its only a lousy couple or few months, how long were you gine before this happened? marie

i must say that is really incredibel that you manage to be ok, what do you do to keep from contacting your ex? i really wouldlove to know, how do you deal with the anger? does it really go away? Im stuck on a business trip in an isolated place, alone and i still have a long tim ehere to stick out, i am tryingo figure out how you so it when you dont have the friends and family around you that can be useful distractions. but in your care after 10 years? wow, i hold my glass to you, and i woud love to know your sectret from going into depression, how many months did it take veofre you can be ok?

He there, please excuse that i rewrote my message, i didnt realize that this message gad been successfully posted, so you may find it again with more detail elsewhere; i think i am slowly figuring out how this works!! i appreciate your feedback as well! Marie

mx ex left me three days after i lost our baby, 5 months pregnant. he said our cultural differences were too much, that i was too free and that i wasnt able to be controlled; he was very possessive and jealous, but powerfully passionnate and i felt deeply in love. does anyone out there understand this element that he claims is so strong in this culture that the man cant commit, cant trust,a nd needs to know every detail about what man i am talkignt to? i dont know too mcuh about this culture, and i never gave a reaosn to be lmistrusted. we had a marriage planned, then i lost the baby, and in 3 days he was gone, he asked me to have no contact with him, but it was he idea to keep the baby and get married, and he told me endless times that i was his soulmate; i am afraid he has aborderline personality, he shows many signs of it. i feel destroyed, like i would give ly life to have him back; he wont even take my calls; i am americana nd have always felt that my partner would be my best friend withot any probs of mistrust and thathe would support my goals, buthis man faulted me whenever i took an opportunity to do something that i thought would make him proud of me. i am way beyond a lot of the kind of bar girls he was used to dating and sleeping with. he admired my accomplishments at first and then held them against me after; he is 31 and has a great job and is very wel established in his life, very artistic. things were perfect! help