Soldier13F

It sounds like you got a strong family support chain to help you through this time.. Look withing yourself and know that you are worth more then to be treated by this man that way. LD relationships are always tough...But your heart will guide you...dont give in to him and let him. I would look elsewhere for love. Take Care! Your knight is out there! Be yourself and thank everyday you are alive...soldiers are dead for your freedom. Good luck

I have been deployed for almost a year. My wife of 5 years(4 kids;two mine and the other two from two previous husbands) has asked for a divorce and left me for a guy I hired to finish my basement. Her treatment of me has been down right horrible for over 8 months. The stress of being deployed and dealing with her horrible treatment of me.. I was unable to sleep or eat for a while. She repeatly told me that I was the worst thing that ever happened to her and she wanted a divorce. I realized that I was a treat to the mission and to my fellow soldiers. They helped guide me to get over it. She wanted the divorce and wanted to be left alone. I turned to the internet to meet people, one of them really sparks my interest. I have been talking to her for over a month now. She could be the one that I have been looking "the one". The problem is that my wife just got dumped by this guy and is running back to me.But I love her.. I know that I will be deployed again after this is over this time... I Have tried the whole time to get her back...but reached a point of not knowing if I want her...She broke my heart, my wallet, our friendship... I go on leave on THURSDAY....should I try to make up with my wife...should I go see what is out there...Need a little help!! Thanks

I know that there are always to sides to every story. She only told me after she started sleeping with this guy, that I was not there for her. I feel that she is handling this so wrong. She has turned away from all her friends and family and only seeks advice from her boyfriend. I have been lied to the whole deployment and treated so horribly that I feel that I have never ever been treated so bad in my life. From the lies, from the spending of all our assets, to the kids being raised by my 17 year old daughter. So, my wife can go out with this guy. She is being down right evil! I married for better or worse!! It is now at the worst!! I love her to death! But she is really affected my actions. I need to talk to her because she has the kids and she has the bills under her control. Do I GO HOME FOR CHRISTMAS AND LET HER GO OUT WITH THIS GUY AND DISRESPECT ME LIKE THAT? Thanks!

I am from New Jersey serving in the Army fighting the war. I am married with 4 children. While I am serving my country and under a lot of stress, my wife has asked to be divorced. There is no way for me to leave here now. The extreme stress she is putting me under is affecting my ability to carry out the missions and I worry for my fellow soldier saftey. She has found another man and fell in love with him. She is being totally rude and blames me for the the position I am in our marriage. That I was not the husband I should have been. I know what I need to do to be that husband and friend to her. All I have is time to think out here of how I can make it better. I dont want to come home to nothing. When I need her most she has turned her head away. I wont be home til early next year. How do I fight for her love through emails? Or should I even bother? What should I do? I believe in the marriage to be for better or worse and I worry about the kids. She is out 3 to 4 nights a week, leaving them with my oldest daughter. I love my wife and dont want to destroy our family. Or should I look for someone else? But is it worth it??