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I read before that scientific studies on emotional reactions to breakups proved that it takes 9 weeks of no contact to completely "get over" someone to the point where they do not preoccupy your mind or haunt your thoughts. No contact is the best approach...Good luck and warmest wishes.

To PA Dreamer....I wouldn't worry about it. There are apparently a few things you need to come to grips with as far as men..... They are sexual creatures, in general far more so than any women I know. But it's harmless, for the most part. I had trouble like this in the past, and one of my good guy friends did me a HUGE favor - took me around for an entire day and shared everything he thought during that day as we went to the mall, restaurants, etc. (This was a NORMAL guy, no more outwardly sexual than a block of cheese, so think of him as your Average Joe.) He noticed everything - and had me wondering about his sanity by the end of the day.......Bottom line: even the normal ones are perverts somewhere inside. Since you're 19,I'm assuming your guy is pretty young too - in the prime of this stage of his life. Capitalize on it - next time you're together, do a striptease of your own & blow his mind (bonus: the strip club will always remind him of you!). What I'm trying to tell you gently is that no man on the face of the earth is ever going to stop looking at other women. The fact that your man has found a rather constructive outlet - ok, I wouldn't be thrilled either, but give him the benefit of the doubt - for the extra "energy" he has in this long-distance relationship is a good sign. I'd be willing to bet he's not cheating is he's going out with the guys to the strip joint once in a while. Surprise him with your easygoing approach to this situation and I guarantee that extra trust will work wonders within your relationship.......

Hi guys - I need some advice. I've been dating an absolutely wonderful man for about 7 months now. Everything is going absolutely swimmingly, except that something's a bit off. I have a 4-year old with my ex and we share custody, so I'll drop my son off for 2 days every week. I think he's jealous of whatever relationship my son's father and I used to have. (I have tried to draw this out of him and talk about it, but all he will say is that he's never been in a relationship with a mom and he's just "new at this.") I have never been unfaithful - I wouldn't dream of it, I am that content with him. I have never given him any reason not to trust me. And my son's father has been out of the picture for so long (and the breakup of that relationship was so ugly) that the very idea of being attracted to him is ludicrous to me. However - my beau has begun to come over all the time. I'm talking every day, sleeps over. I enjoy his company, but I get the feeling that he's trying to make sure I'm NOT doing anything on the side. Last night, I made plans to have my favorite aunt over to dinner, and explained to him I'd like some alone time with her. This was fine, and he said twice, "OK, I'll see you tomorrow then. Have fun tonight." During dinner with my aunt, the phone rang and I didn't answer it. About a half hour later, when we had finished, I looked on the caller ID and it was my boyfriend. I called back and there was no answer. About five minutes later - you guessed it - he's at my door. No explanation for why he was there (and I wasn't going to deal with it when my aunt was there) except that he "wanted to see how you guys were doing." By the time my aunt left (and our "girl time" was scheduled for a later date), I was too tired to talk - and I wanted to take a day to sort out what I'd say. Is this a bit creepy or what? Am I reading this right - that this guy is "checking up" on me? All indications are that he's a normal - albeit kind of inexperienced - guy, but I didn't like what happened last night. Any outside takes on this one? Thanks!!!