melancholy123

I think you need a new friend, this woman sounds awful.  She could take down the Christmas tree if it bothers her, but I guess she doesn't care.

It's not your job to rent a trailer for her, she can figure out how to get the rocks she wants.

If I was you I would back away from this lousy alleged friendship.  You can block and delete her as well.

3 hours ago, Popi33 said:

Why would i need to snoop? He does this stuff and opens his fb in front of me i don't need to check. It was totally accidental.

If that is true, then why are you so bent out of shape about telling him what happened?  You claim it was an accident, so where is the problem?  I too think you are really insecure in yourself and with this guy.

Goode grief, girl, calm down!  You made a mistake and when you think about it, he's the guy who accessed his fb acct thru your phone!  You didnt go looking for this to happen, he started it!

You are being over the top worried about a mistake.

31 minutes ago, itsallgrand said:

 

Second thing is if you are driving, why not have your dad teach you to change a tire or buy yourself some roadside assistance rather than depend on others to get you out of something that's easy to prepare for.

 

Absolutely!  Every driver should know how to change a tire.  I learned before I got my license.  I have CAA which is like the US AAA.  Everyone should have that too or something similar.

What the hell?  Why do you call this person they and them?  What's wrong with he or him or she and her?  

I am assuming they are a male and one who is acting like a big baby.  You gave him the safety glasses, what more could he possibly want?  I fail to see any reason for the childish reaction.

I think the bf didnt like that he was having trouble changing the tires and that he wanted to be the Big Man and do this job for his gf.  Having Daddy come along would make him feel like a jerk for not knowing how to change a tire.  Most of the problem is this guy is just 21.

On 6/28/2021 at 4:43 PM, dias said:

Someone secretly wanted to be single lol 

I posed about my friend who has been single all her life and lived alone for about 40 yrs and this is what someone replied.  I don't think she secretly wanted to be single, I think it just never worked out for her to find a guy she wanted.  I believe she really did want to have a steady guy, possibly get married, maybe have kids and a house.  But she is so used to being single and she lives her life her way, so it's not an issue for her anymore.  Not everyone ends up married.

As usual Wiseman is right.  Your gut is telling you to be careful.

What do you want to happen?  What has he said he wants to happen?

You need to kick h is sorry ass to the curb today.  He doesn't care about you.

I think if he had had sex or tried to with that girl, he would not have told you about it.  He'd have said he fell asleep and you would be none the wiser.  The fact he did tell you makes me think he was doing what he said, drinking and messing with some drugs.

What Andrina said.  There will be lots of new guys to meet at uni who won't want to use you just for sex.

1 hour ago, Heid said:

Oh, yeah i just meant it affects me a lot when i hear him say these things about her, she is the only family i have and i would love for him at least to respect that. I did not break up with him, and im not planning to, i love him very much. And yes he has been really quiet, i told him everything i had to say and he's just very stubborn and doesn't back down. He wouldn't even apologise for calling me an idiot last night..

I'm seeing red flags here...

She dumped you.  Just block and delete her, no need to respond to her.  You seem to be moving on with your life, so continue to do that.

12 hours ago, Moeka said:

It's not that I wasn't happy before I met him......It's just that I was happier when I met him.......

But you are not happy!  You need to get away from him.  How old are you and he? I think you need some therapy.

If you think you could learn something and are willing to go, then go.  It cant hurt to go once and see how you feel afterwards.

I was given the option to join a grief group for mothers of stillborn babies but I didnt want to do that.  I had to work thru it. myself in my own way in my own time so I didnt go.  I don't regret not going.

You need to kick his sorry ass to the curb, today.  What an awful person.

I think it's time to plan on moving to somewhere far away from him.  Too much drama and many red flags.

3 hours ago, brtex said:

I'm not responding. He is seeing me read them and won't stop reaching out.

 

Stop reading them!  Block and delete then there is nothing to read.

Too much drama and too many problems.  Two months in, you need to move on.

Block and delete him.

I think he was rude and his comment was unnecessary.  Whether or not they were good doesn't matter, he should have thanked you and if he was to pay you back, he should have done it.  

I'd be annoyed too.

Your therapist as totally right.  I felt much like you do with the way my mother treated me vs how she treated my older bro.  He could do no wrong, I could do no right.  I had that figured out by the time I was 5.

I moved out at 18, I'd had enough.  Armed with a high school diploma, I got a job and was gone.  I'd had enough and wasnt going to take her controlling ways any longer.  My dad was a nice man, so it was hard to leave him, but not mother, that was actually very freeing.

You will have to work thru this, talk to your therapist if you find her useful.  Make your life how you want it to be, not how others think you need to live it.  I doubt I ever did anything my mother approved of, and that's ok, as I approve of me and who I became.  You can get there too, it just takes time.

Sounds nice but do you have a question or a problem?

It's very possible he just never got around to deleting the app and that he doesn't actually use it.  I have stuff on my phone that I haven't looked at in a long time and some people in my WhatsApp I haven't talked to in a couple of years.  That doesn't mean I am up to something!  I just never deleted them.

Now if you think he's running around on you, that's another story.

49 minutes ago, mayaluvagal said:

How can you tell my world sounds too small

Because you seem too wrapped up in this guy and not wanting to lose him.