Ex GF's Birthday Today

It's my ex's birthday today and I do not intend to wish her a happy birthday although it's absolutely killing me. I'm 31 she is 25 (26 today)

We broke up in Feb and I found out 4 days later she was seeing/sleeping another guy (he is 21) I assume this was going on before we met so in April I went no contact - deleted her from my SM and changed my number.

I'm not going to lie and sat it's been easy, it's been incredibly hard. We were together almost 5 years. I just want to know I'm doing the right thing. Well conformation - Really need to just hear from you guys It's the right thing to do!

Since the break, I have a fantastic new job, work out more, new tattoo's and a sweet new batchelor pad. Things are going well, it's just doing it on my own atm which is tough.

Cheers People.

It's the right thing to do. sounds like you're sorted your end and created enough space to start meeting new people and hobbies. I hope that you find someone who treats you nice; vice versa.

You're on the right track. It's normal to feel urges to contact on special occasions. Keep on working on yourself and in creating the life you want without her.

You're absolutely making the right choice.

Wishing her a happy birthday would bring you nothing positive. Keep up the good work in your healing.

It's the right thing. It's really hard not to do those kind thing we are naturally inclined to do. But you are right. Let her and her birthday go.

Say it outloud " I wanna wish her happy birthday after she cheated on me"

One more time.

Aand again.

I recall asking more then a few people if I should wish my ex a happy birthday, I went against evrybodies advice and sent an email, very short, all it said was thinking of you and hope you have a great bday take care. That was it. Yano what I got back? Nothing. It's been just over a year since the breakup ..sent the email 8 months after the breakup. Yes I was hurt yes I was sad. If you think your in a strong place emotionally go ahead and wish them a happy birthday, but be prepared of you don't hear anything afterward ..just let it be. Personally I'm glad I did it. Yes it hurt a bit , but I know I was the bigger person for sending it..btw I'm 40 ex was 28..there silence is an answer ..anyways do what you feel, just be prepared if you don't hear back

Today is just another day on the calendar. Enjoy it