Hi, I have been happily married for 5 years. Last night my husband confided in me that before we met, he used prostitutes on 9 occasions, 4 being sexual intercourse. He says he always used a condom. He told me that it was at a time when he was very lonely and depressed and did not seem to be meeting woman. My reaction has been of shock, disgust, and anger. I am angry that he has put me at risk through all these years by not testing himself for STD's and HIV. I have known this man to be very loyal, caring, loving, supportive, and my soal mate. All I can think of is him performing this unlawful act, I can't get it out of my head. I cannot believe that such a handsome man would pay for illicit sex.
I am asking for all opinions of how I should react, and if someone has gone through this before themselves. he tells me that from the moment he met me he fell deeply in love with me, and has never wanted ha desire and would never do that again. I know it was before our mariage. but how would you act?