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my friend, please DO NOT marry this girl. Any person who wants to draw you away from your family is trouble. Your MOM is your MOM, and always will be, get out now!!! It won't be easy, but you will be happier for it. Then, please, get some counselling, as you need to sort out why you chose to have someone manipulate you for so long. Get married when the girl knocks you so hard off your feet you can' think or speak, not because you are 30 and it's time. Good Luck!!! By the way, I am a 32 year old girl too, and I say GET OUT!!!

please seek professional help. You have been hurt but are having maladaptive coping skills. You need to find better ways to cope. You should not be pushing away your friends,as girlfriends come and go, but friends are 4 ever. Your trouble with the law disturbs me too, pleeze seek help.

oddly enough I have done some reading and it sounds to me like your husband has an addiction to sex. Why wont he have sex with you? WEll, one can still be addicted and yet not have sex with there loved one. Seek the help of a counsellor immediatley, even if your husband won't. If at all, it will help you understand. Urge him to seek help either alone or with you. I wish you luck my friend.

Hi, I have been happily married for 5 years. Last night my husband confided in me that before we met, he used prostitutes on 9 occasions, 4 being sexual intercourse. He says he always used a condom. He told me that it was at a time when he was very lonely and depressed and did not seem to be meeting woman. My reaction has been of shock, disgust, and anger. I am angry that he has put me at risk through all these years by not testing himself for STD's and HIV. I have known this man to be very loyal, caring, loving, supportive, and my soal mate. All I can think of is him performing this unlawful act, I can't get it out of my head. I cannot believe that such a handsome man would pay for illicit sex. I am asking for all opinions of how I should react, and if someone has gone through this before themselves. he tells me that from the moment he met me he fell deeply in love with me, and has never wanted ha desire and would never do that again. I know it was before our mariage. but how would you act?