mynameisrob

My friends and my gf problem are completley unrelated. I had 4 awesome friends that are now not my friends anymore. One is whipped by his gf....never talks to or does anything with anyone anymore. The other seems to be friend with people when it suits him best, right now, it doesnt suit him to be friends with me so he decides he is not i guess. Another i happened to get into a huge argument over and now we hate each other. The last one dislikes me because i hate my other friend who he is best friends with. I also am on a suspended license. The combonation of all this and loosing my gf for a bullshit reason is why i am so depressed. i may need professional help in breaking off with this girl (who by the way was my first gf, but not my first love) but u seem to think my life does.....well it does, but it needs a miracle, not a psyciatrist

You're right, the talking with her is a big problem. Usually its her that ims me though. i im her about 25% of the time. For some reason in the back of my mind i have the thought that there may be a chance that she'll come back to me. little things combined are what gives me the thought. for instance our relationship was the second longest one she's had. her longest was with a guy that didnt treat her very well, where as i treated her the best out of any BF she's had (i know all of her bfs). overall, not to be conceded or anything but i was definatley better for her than all of her past ones. plus she's usually the type to always have a BF and in this past month n a half shes still single. I guess my mind has it if i break the talking i break the small chance...but ur right... im going to just slowly break off the talking, i will never start the im and if she asks why i never talk to her im just going to tell her i still have the pain from the breakup and this is the only thing thats going to help it go away, its not you. she will understand without getting mad if i do it that way.

I kinda feel stupid for posting this because all of these other posts are about very long relationships and this was only 3 months but ive had this pain for too long now...long story so please take the time to read. im deprate for an opinion. I was coming off being obsessed with this one girl(julie)...we were never in a relationship just friends...its a very long story but i couldnt seem to get over her and all my friends said i just needed to drop it and get over it and they were right. Well just my luck i met this girl (evelyn) who was very interested in me. I got to know her a little better and she grew on me. 2 weeks later we were going out (March 22nd). Well the relationship was awesome. almost no flaws at all we loved each other and were perfect for each other. Well the summer comes and like every summer she goes away to poland for 2 months. so the relationship (of 3 months sofar) got put on hold, at its prime. Well she comes back and dumps me. She said "her feelings changed" and thats all she told me. I was struck - i couldnt believe it, among other things it just DIDNT make sense. well over the period of 3 months i had numerous problems with the rest of my life, everything from money to getting in trouble with the law. It never bothered her at all. we are both 18. A week later i asked her if the real reason was if she didnt feel like dealing with my life problems and she just said no and stood firm on her original reason. after she dumped me she really hoped we can still be friends and we are we talk around once per day online and thats it. she never calls me anymore though. well its been a month since the breakup and i still have this deep pain. I have pretty much lost all of my friends for other reasons and noone to talk to about this. I know i probably should just move on but i think about it and i cant. its more than just tough because ive experience the pain before with julie and this just seems different, i cant picture myself with anyone else. Please help i dont know what to do