Ladagun

You do not see the problem. We're talking here about addiction, about men who would lose their jobs just because they surf for porn for hours and hours, day and night.

Pornographers have found an extralarge market that's why there are so many sites, that's why things regarding sexuality were pushed so far to even exposing pictures of children, animals, or whatever... I think I am sad thinking that with each click of the mouse or with the simple typing of the address of a porno site you, me, everybody are encouraging such dark sides of human nature to just produce themselves. Quasi discreet for now, out in the open in a matter of time, I am sure. You don't have to believe in God as they have told you to... a vengefull God who cruely punishes his children for what they've done wrong. But you can believe in light and turn your face towards it. You can believe in good, in the green of the grass, in the smile of a child... It is an awful inheritance the one we prepare for our children. We preserved all addictions from the past like alcoholism and smoking and taking drugs and added some more like this one, unspeakable dependence on fake images for gaining what? A painful orgasm. Orgasm with any costs. That is my conclusion of what men are looking for. If the price is one's own marriage or relationship ... well, then too bad, or? I do not know why my husband is doing it. Might be an addiction. Then what's the excuse for the lies? And I am tired. I, myself, as a woman, had a hard time cause of this dear old habit of his. First I thought it must be me, the physical me... I work too much, I look too tired, I gotta change the parfum I am wearing... then I had to face his daily lies and that just pushed me into deep depressions... then I was mad ... on him for doing that, on me for having believed all his promised, on God for showing me that life is not only about having a husband and kids and dogs... then I was planning to find myself a cyber lover but STOP! would I go that low? Yes, I would enjoy so much feeling how it is like to be sexually wanted again... just one more time, that would be the proof that nothing wrong with me... This is not what I hoped for when we got married, this is not what he promised. It is tragic that he, a man with such a keep intelligence and such a fine intellect does what monkeys kept in captivity do... we all have our choices. Someone told me it is my fault. I am not ofensive enough to almost force him having sex with me, to give him hand jobs, blow jobs... please excuse everybody, it might work for a while but what's after that? He might be missing something in his life and I am sorry I don't know what that is ... I know for sure, it is not me. I still do love my husband, I love to watch him sleeping like an angel, and I ache knowing he killes this precious feeling in me with each move of the hand on his own penis that he makes.

Unlike TommyD's stupidity, frigidity can be treated (if it really is a case) and bodies can be shaped with working out. The women in porn sites look great! good! but that is due to the work of several people, good light, etc etc. But I am sure the problem is not that they look good. Our male friends have told my husband, in different ocasions that I am an atractive woman. I do not make any comment on this. But I know he really is proud to go out with me, a few times I told him I do not insist to accompany him when meeting his friends but no... we sais it is his pleasure to be with me. So much for any kind of pleasure I am allowed to give him! When I discovered his exagerate interest in virtual sex my first though was that I am definetelly NOT the woman for him as everything was going on in my back. So I considered separation an option. He didn't want to hear about it! (I guess I cook good...) So that was the moment when a nice love story that started in the city of love, Venice, begun to transform into a Police action ... I am coming from work and I find hair from the special parts on the keyboard. I told him it is not ok. Now he cleans the keyboard but I still can find it on the floor. He does not work so the hours when I am at work I have almost crises of nerves thinking that yes, I am doing my best to earn money and make a future while he must be just rubbing the thing... hehehe, nice life! If anyone would have told me years ago that I'll get married and my husband will inform me, two damn' weeks after the event that he is adicted to masturbation I would have laughed and consider the person idiot, stupid, crazy. Yeah... today he did not do it he confessed (like I am his priest or psychiatrist) but he surfed a bit on sex sites. Why??? Because it is an old habbit. Old habbits new families do not go along together. This is the lesson my husband will soon learn. So, should I believe he did not do it today? Hmmm... Elementarry, my dear Watson.

When I met my husband he told me he was partly impotent and in fact he had weak erections and that he is suffering of panick atacks. I found out only two weeks after we got married that he is masturbating using internet stimulents as images, cybersex, webcams. He is lying constantly to me, sweet lies that always turn into a cruel truth... he is doing that again and again. Sex with me, his wife, he had only once, months ago. I do know how my lines sound and I did find out that love is not only blind but stupid. My question is: what can I do? Does is make sense to fight (with my husband) for our marriage?