Well has my week been weird...sorry its so long
With all these feelings in my head I knew enventually they would come out, so I had a real serious talk with my partner. I couldn't hold it in any longer. He knew something was wrong, he picked it up earlier.
I started crying and got really upset cause I knew I had to make the biggest decision of my life. Anyway I just told him that I hated the way his step-daughter acts around him, and I don't like the way she talks to me or him. Basically I didnt want her near us.
He started saying he can't change the way she is, and he can't choose his family. Basically I said that your no longer with your ex, and that life is over. I was totally honest with him, and I told him that it made me jealous, but thats my problem.
Man, did I spill everything. It felt so good, I was so afraid I telling him how I felt. I said to him that I don't want a life with him if she was going to be around, it was time to move on and let me be. I told that I didnt want any contact with him anymore and let me get on with my life so I stop feeling like this.
I have NEVER seen him so hurt before and so upset that I was telling him to leave me. He wouldn't pack his bags, he refused to go. Man, did he make me anygry.
Anyway we talked and talked for so hours until we were all talked out. I have never asked my partner to disown his step-daughter not once, or even make a choice between us.
Then he made his own choice and it was me. I was totally shocked! He said it's not worth losing me over someone that cause trouble all the time. He said that his daughter doesnt make him happy, I do. He said since he has been with me, his life has changed and he loves the way he is now. I never every knew he would make a choice like that, because he always told me that he would never give up on his step-daughter, so what chance did I have with him.
Anyway, we talked more and finally came to some agreement on issues. All I know is that he promised me that things would change and his daughter will no longer cause trouble.
And I realised that I have to sort out my *jealousy* problem and talk more to my partner about stuff.
The point of my post on here was to get some advice, I dont have anyone to talk to about this stuff and I think strangers can see it from another point of view.
thanks for your posts