Starting to Overcome Shyness – Doing What It Takes

Shyness can be a difficult personality trait to overcome, particularly because it often leads to withdrawal from social situations, which can make it more difficult to handle. It's important to first recognize that shyness is not something that has to define you. It can be something that you work to improve over time.

When it comes to starting to overcome shyness, the key is to step out of your comfort zone and do what it takes. This can often be easier said than done, but it's the only way to start developing new behaviors and eventually winning the battle with shyness. Start to challenge yourself to test the limits.

For example, if you find yourself naturally retreating to the background of a conversation or situation, try making an effort to stick out and contribute meaningfully. At first this may feel daunting, but it's important to remember that others are generally less focused on you than you think.

Try to learn how to make small talk in social situations. If you're in a room with people you don’t know, greet those around you and start conversations. Even if you feel uncomfortable, try to keep up with topics that interest you.

Another key to overcoming shyness is to focus on your nonverbal communication. Stand tall, maintain eye contact, smile, and make sure to keep body language relaxed and open. Make sure your posture reflects confidence.

Practice being assertive. Whenever you feel held back, practice speaking up about what you need or want clearly, assertively, and politely. This can take some time to get used to, so it helps to practice in places like the mirror.

Finally, practice, practice, practice. All change is rarely instant, so it's important to understand that it will take ongoing effort and practice to break shy tendencies. Getting comfortable in new and challenging situations can feel scary at first, but with each attempt, you are actively honing newfound assertiveness and warding off self-doubt and negative thoughts.

Start doing things that can help ease the stress of being social, like exercising and getting plenty of sleep. Take care of yourself and be patient – progress does not happen overnight and mistakes are part of the journey. Make sure to reward yourself frequently for even the smallest successes and aim to gradually increase your goals.

Beginning to overcome shyness starts with recognizing that it doesn't have to you define. With a willingness to challenge yourself and different behaviors, along with some practice, you can tackle it until shyness no longer holds you back.