kiimberlyox Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 My boyfriend and I only see each other once or twice a week. But we talk everyday. Is ok to have a relationship like that ? My good friends thinks it's weird. But I am ok with it because I am not ready for a big longterme relationship for now since the breakup with my ex boyfriend was a horrible part of my life. Hes ok with that too. Can a relationship work ? Im 21 hes 26 . Link to comment
girlfriday Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Depends. Do you guys live near each other? How busy are your lives? In general it's pretty good. Once a week is standard. I think when your relationships gets more serious than perhaps if you can manage it there would be more time spent together. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 How long have you been dating? How often could you meet each other (how far apart do you live? Are you both busy?)? Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Well of course it could work. In fact, it may even be better that the two of you start off this slow. Sounds like you are still a little strung up over your last break up. It is good to take things a little slow when you are unsure. Just make sure that you move at a good pace in the relationship because there is a fine line between a good slow pace and a brick wall that has to be taken down. Just do what makes the two of you happy. I am sure that the amount of time between each encounter will start to decrease the more you start to like each other Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Of course it's ok to have a relationship like that. If it works that way for you. Don't worry about what your friend's tell you, it's your relationship and only you know what works and what doesn't. Link to comment
Kraegorn Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Your friends aren't YOU. If both parties are completely happy with the present choice, why make any changes? If you need space to heal past issues and he's understanding about it, it sounds perfectly healthy to me. Good luck. Link to comment
KG Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 The same goes for my G/F and I. It makes the days together much more important. Not easy on the heart sometimes, but the alternative sucks! Link to comment
sweetooth Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 1-2 a week sounds good to me. I wish I could have the same as the guy I am seeing, we have class together 2x a week and I am trying not to feel smothered (it's hard). Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 The same goes for my G/F and I. It makes the days together much more important. Not easy on the heart sometimes, but the alternative sucks! Great advice here! Sometimes you have to make that decision whether or not the "juice is worth the squeeze" (line from "Girl Next Door") Sometimes we react on impulse and bitter emotions. We always need to picture our life without that person and whether or not the reason for leaving that person would be justified. Your heart will tell you whether or not it is getting what it needs to make a relationship work. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 It's not the quanity, it's the quality of the time spent together. Do you just lay around and watch tv? You two should go out on some fun dates! Link to comment
KG Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 It's not the quanity, it's the quality of the time spent together. Do you just lay around and watch tv? You two should go out on some fun dates! We split it up. One day lazing, and one day hiking. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 We split it up. One day lazing, and one day hiking. There is a lot of greatness in just laying about. Link to comment
babii doll Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 sounds like the bf and i. one or twice a week is the norm for us. as long as it works for you as a couple i wouldnt worry about what others think is weird. Link to comment
Theblueman123 Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 It really should be fine as long as it's temporary, but if you're looking for fun then there's no need in wasting time in only seeing him 1-2 days a week. Personally I believe that its fine and can work, but only as long as it's temporary and not for like a lot of years or something. Link to comment
Kumatora Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 My boyfriend and I only see each other once or twice a week. But we talk everyday. Is ok to have a relationship like that ? My good friends thinks it's weird. But I am ok with it because I am not ready for a big longterme relationship for now... Can a relationship work ? Who's to say it's not going to work? Why worry about what your friends say about YOUR relationship? Their opinions shouldn't affect your relationship at all. Hon, I've done it for years. It was short distance (2 days a week), to long distance (2 days A MONTH since we went to different colleges), and then a few years later (now), it was back to short distance (2 days... sometimes more). I made my relationship work. What you should worry about is if this is RIGHT for you. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 Who's to say it's not going to work? Why worry about what your friends say about YOUR relationship? Their opinions shouldn't affect your relationship at all. Exactly. The number one way to screw up your relationship with someone else is if you let your friends and the whole world in your business with your partner. Some people love drama and want to screw relationships up. It get's their blood pumping and their egos growing, to know that there are people just as misreable as they are. Link to comment
NewDater Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 I agree with the previous posts. At first its perfectly fine but if this relationship progresses so should the time spent together. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 For the bulk of my relationship we saw each other only once, generally twice a week..but thats because I went to school/worked during the day, and his jobs were always evening/night shifts..so we only had Friday evening and Saturday together for several years during our relationship. We had no choice really...and we made it. It kept the spark going intensely for a long time. We would have loved more time together, so maybe thats the only difference in this scenario...we would have loved to be together almost daily..but it wasn't an option. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted March 11, 2010 Share Posted March 11, 2010 I would be okay with it as long as they were in contact during the week. Link to comment
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