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Yeah reading the past thread, he likes following and liking women on Instagram. She doesn't like that. But going by what she's written, she's super active on Instagram too. I don't think it's a jump that if she's posting as she's described and taking money transfers, she probably has guys like her bf following and liking her. They are two sides to that coin and feeding into each other negatively.

I think it's unprofessional to be posting like that while at work. Text a friend or family if you are bored, watch videos, whatever. It comes off like soft soliciting to me. I think both you and bf have some inappropriateness when it comes to social media. He very obviously has a jealous streak and reading that past thread, double standards at play. But no you shouldn't be posting like that and accepting money. If he had come and brought snacks, drinks, whatever to thank you that's fine. Just my opinion.

Might not even be a woman lol. Essentially, scammers?

Made me recall a cousin of my mom's. She married an alcoholic, had many children with him. He decided he needed to clean up for his kids, and got sober. Good, right?! She left him, he stayed clean. She married another alcoholic. She is still bouncing from alcoholic man to drug addled man to this day. Some people only feel comfortable when those around them are hot messes. They can focus on all the ways the other is messed up, and not have to look at themselves. A healthy person would challenge their own unhealthy behaviors.

Beautiful family. I love those old photos. Everyone looked so stylish! I love that timeless style.

The Wrestler is good! I'm a weiner when it comes to gore, there's no gore. It's more poignant and sad.

I don't think you are lacking. But maybe there's still a part of you that has trouble relaxing and feeling ok when you aren't looking your best, maybe it's from all the conditioning that you'd get nagged and judged at if you weren't. Just your mom putting her own insecurities on you, but you were too little to not be impacted by that. I hope it's ok I address this part of your post! It got me thinking too! My mom was the opposite of yours, she really took a lot of pride in being "down to earth". I mean, she was a natural beauty. She got attention no matter what she wore. But to the point, so I felt weird about occasionally wanting the expensive dress or brand. It's only an issue if it limits you being able to live how you want fully. Funny all the ways things can stick with us.

Sharing a bed with my favorite aunt for two nights in a hotel and I was getting cranky lol. She is partially deaf and can't fall asleep without the TV. I would wait for her to snore to turn it off because otherwise I wouldn't sleep. Then she is up at the buttcrack of dawn lol. Love her, but sharing a bed or even a room is challenging. I think you are right it'll be a lot better once she has her room and you are working. Too much togetherness blows as we know from lockdowns !

This is very helpful, thank you!

I might have to find some vintage ones! The newer ones don't seem to be the same quality.

Where can you find a good pair of jeans now? Actual denim, lasts through the years, gets all comfy and perfect!

It's crazy how many young people dress like this all the time now, regardless of occasion. The old eccentric relative look!

I think you have your answer lol. You're exhausted after one meet.

Reading what you've wrote since, sounds like a different situation than just being relaxed and casual. You are saying dirty and gross lol and yeah no one finds that appealling. Not to obsess on the swimming thing, but I feel my best after that! My favorite exercise. Or any good work out. Brimming with a clearer head and good energy. Yeah I get how putting effort into appearance can improve your mood. It's one tool in the toolbox! Made me think of the ladies in the nursing home, and their hair and nail days, and seeing their spirits perk up. A lift to their chin. And it really makes sense with you opening a salon you are tuned into this. Congrats, by the way!

When I met my SO I was in a pair of sweats and a big baggy sweater after coming back from swimming lol. I'm sure there are other guys who have looked past me because I'm not by default looking real put together. I'm clean and all that! But some people do care about the appearance of style more than others. It's fine, those people find each other. I long ago decided for dates I showed up a reasonable approximation of what you would get on a regular day. No surprises, what you saw was what you get. And it did help me in not wasting my time with someone who might be wanting something else. I mean, maybe he did come back from surfing or something prior to the date?! Maybe not lol. Either way, you seem to have as the deal breaker that his level of showing up is not acceptable to you. You have the right to pick and choose however you want.