blink_guy Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 soo here my story... theres a girl well call her jill and my friend whos her bf jack. jill and i are very very very close friends we met last september and ever since her and i have been very close and she almsot told me wen something was wrong and told me all her secrets when she needed to vent and same with me and her. when i broke up wit my gf she was always tehre to help me feel better and she was there for me so i could talk. and when she was trying to get with jack iw as there for her helping and giving her advice and everything. now jack an jill are together and jack and i are very good firends too. but the thing is im kinda starting to liek jill...alot...i tried to stop but her and i spend so much time togetehr that i keep liking her more each time we do hang out....what should i do?should i just stay away from her for a bit??or what?? Link to comment
changes Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 thats a really tough one. especially cause jack's your friend. first reaction is to stop hanging out with her so much. but question for you - do u know how jill feels? is she happy with jack? does she show interest in being more than friends with u? Link to comment
blink_guy Posted March 27, 2007 Author Share Posted March 27, 2007 i dono thats the thing...i think shes just happy being friends but my stupid man brain is telling me her friendship is more than that Link to comment
chickidee23 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 She is with your good friend- respect that! Do not risk ruining a friendship over a girl, especially when, what it seems to be like to me, she is only your friend!! She had a chance to be with you after you broke up with your g/f but she decided to date your friend. You will most likely lose both of their friendships if you act on your feelings. Stay away from her until you either get over your feelings or find someone else to distract you. She is off limits. Link to comment
blink_guy Posted March 27, 2007 Author Share Posted March 27, 2007 and yes she is happy wit jack Link to comment
blink_guy Posted March 27, 2007 Author Share Posted March 27, 2007 its ahrd to stay away from tho cus shes liek in group of friends...im not gona act on it theres no way im doin that i would feel to crumy Link to comment
chickidee23 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 If you can't completely aviod her (if she's with the group of friends you are with), avoid her in other ways- for example, don't single her out for a conversation, don't spend ANY time with her alone- keep things on a completely platonic level. Don't share any secrets, don't bond in anyway. Just keep as much distance as you can. Link to comment
scotty77 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 I would be setting my sights on someone else. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 stay away. she helped you. you are attracted to her kindness. keep that in your head. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 I agree with the others - try to keep perspective whilst they are together. I wouldn't say give up hope tho - stranger things have happened. I was dating one of my husband's best friends before we (my husband and I) hooked up and got married. My husband was just patient enough.... He kept his distance whilst I dated his friend. He just waited his turn. lol Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 two brothers of mine are in that situation. one hooked up with her and now she is with the other brother and has a kid. crazy. Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 You're friendzoned by all appearanced. You're her therapist. These are huge signs of being friendzoned. Move on. It's your pals girlfriend. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 you are lusting with something that you can't have at this time. if she was single again, your lust for her would fade back to friendship. Link to comment
EvaGina Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 its will pass, imo... I have had that, my ex's best friend and I were crushing on eachother... but it does pass. Grass is always greener, and all of that Link to comment
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