jengh Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 So my ex and I have been broken up since last Monday. We talk here and there (i.e. How are you doing, feeling better?--i've been sick) but nothing much more than that... An hour ago, I get a text message saying, "Goodnight, baby. I love and miss you"... Seriously!!? Completely out of nowhere. It's what he'd say to me every night we were together. Why would he send that? Okay, and I AM the one who broke up with him but he was okay with it... this is just so freaking random... Link to comment
jengh Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 This is just really frustrating to me... I sort of had rethought the breakup but he dismissed it, saying it was my decision, etc.... I just don't get it. I asked him if he was drunk. He said no. Link to comment
shikashika Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 it actually doesn't sound very surprising at all.. considering YOU broke up with him.. He loves you and misses you.. He didn't initiate the breakup.. he's probably hoping you'll change your mind Link to comment
jengh Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 but I mentioned maybe getting back together and he basically said No way... mind games....grr Link to comment
buddy manchester Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 oops, maybe Darn men is better Link to comment
zerohalo Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 This really doesn't sound that surprising. If I had to guess, he's got some mixed emotions. Part of him wants you, but another part is telling him, "Dude, she broke your heart. What are you thinking?" Did you ask him if he was drunk after the latest text message? Did you ask him if he wanted to get back together after that text message? If the answer is yes to both of those questions, then he is really conflicted about what he wants. It's the heart waging a weird war against the mind. I kinda doubt it's an intentional game he's playing, but this is me offering advice from my part of the frozen tundra to your part of the frozen tundra. Not like I know the guy, so grain of salt and all that. Link to comment
shikashika Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 but I mentioned maybe getting back together and he basically said No way... mind games....grr ummm HE is not playing mind games... why are you still in contact with him if you broke up with him... I'd say THAT is more mind games... he's just telling you how he feels! Link to comment
jengh Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 Yes, he drinks quite a bit...not enough for it to be a problem though. He's successful and happy but enjoys his cheap nasty beer. Why am I still in contact? I don't know... I haven't spoken to him, just an IM here or an IM there. Link to comment
HellFrost666 Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Well I asked that because you always hear about guys getting drunk and calling/texting/IMing ex girlfriends. Do you think he was drunk and feeling sentimental? Link to comment
shikashika Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Yes, he drinks quite a bit...not enough for it to be a problem though. He's successful and happy but enjoys his cheap nasty beer. Why am I still in contact? I don't know... I haven't spoken to him, just an IM here or an IM there. an Im here or an IM there might keep him holdiing on though... if you do NOT want anything again with him.. then don't contact him.. perhaps the IMing is giving him hope that you could change your mind.. and thats why he said what he did? Link to comment
jengh Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 see, that's what I thought too... drunk texting... but he said he wasn't... and he always tells me if he is... plus, it's a wednesday night and he has to work at 6... Link to comment
jengh Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 an Im here or an IM there might keep him holdiing on though... if you do NOT want anything again with him.. then don't contact him.. perhaps the IMing is giving him hope that you could change your mind.. and thats why he said what he did? I guess i need to figure out what I want.... because I don't know... he said some really mean stuff to me, but I keep holding on... and it's frustrating Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Yes, he drinks quite a bit...not enough for it to be a problem though. He's successful and happy but enjoys his cheap nasty beer. Why am I still in contact? I don't know... I haven't spoken to him, just an IM here or an IM there. I am of the school that if you break up with someone, you LEAVE THEM ALONE. getting in touch with him, even over IM or text, is cruel... He is trying to forget you and you are interuppting that. Link to comment
Siriana Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Jen stop having contact with him! Link to comment
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