Erection difficulties

[Doctor Smurf]

Hi - I'm a sixteen year old guy and I'm having a lot of problems getting or maintaining an erection when I'm with my girlfriend - we managed to have sex together once, but it only lasted very briefly until I went soft. She's not the first girl I've had this problem with - whenever I've been in an intimate position with girls I've never been able to get, or stay, erect.

 

When I'm alone I have no problems getting hard to masturbate - but somehow it fails when I'm with someone. I'd considered Viagra etc but I'm very concerned on being reliant on it at my age!

 

Advice welcome! Ta, Doc

[Day_Walker]

Cut yourself off from all masturbation and let your gf be your only sexual outlet.

[Agathon]

It's just nerves. Relax, and enjoy. If your too stressed or worried about something (probably what your doing), try and solve that problem first.

 

There's no shame in putting off sex if it will better the relationship.

[chai714]

I'm with Day_Walker on this one. Stop all masturbation and let your girlfriend be your only sexual outlet. If you're watching porn, limit that as well unless you're going to be seeing your girlfriend soon afterwards (so that you have an outlet).

[Beec]

I with chai and Day_Walker. Leaving yourself not outlet but her should deal with the problem.

 

If that by itself does not work, consider some self hypnosis recordings. You can find them over the web and download some as MP3s. The problem is not with your body, it's in your head. If it was your body, you wouldn't get able to get it up to masturbate. Self hypnosis may help with your thoughts that are in the way.

[Rabican]

id bet my left nut its simply nerves. You are nervous, once this happens once you start thinking about it... and it happens again. And again. Have a few drinks, smoke some weed, (if you do that stuff) to get your mind off it. And enjoy.

 

Or, get some viagra... take like a 1/2 pill... talked to a guy at the gym and we were joking about the whole limp nerves syndrome and he said that he has used them before.

 

I had your problem a few times before I ever had sex... first few times I was so nervous it just wouldnt comply. After a few tries, things worked out... after that I was hooked and couldnt get enough.

[Q-ball]

Your fine buddy, it is definitely nerves. Happened to me my 2nd time strangely enough, and then the 3rd and 4th. I've talked to many friends who have had the same problem too. Eventually got over it and started to relax and enjoy it. You say you have a girlfriend, perfect, you just need practice, you'll be ridin in no time!